Why is everybody always picking on me?

Sassycakes

Sassycakes

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With the exception of the wonderful people here, just this morning my husband and my daughter have been picking on me. I had an appt with my primary care Doctor and my husband has one at the beginning of July. I wanted him to switch places with me because he is having a lot of pain in his knees and lower back. He needs to see an orthopedic doctor and I thought the primary care Doctor could recommend one. So he has been yelling at me all morning. Then he called our Daughter to complain about me to her. Then she started getting annoyed with me saying that I am always canceling appts. Which isn't true. I have 3 doctor's appointments next week. So why is everybody always picking on me?
 

I can imagine that your husband is hurting and not feeling well and he is on edge already. He might feel that it only is complicating his already stressed mood. He got angry because it disrupted his "Plans". We male's get REAL hung up about our plans. Calling your daughter to double up on you, is probably a daddy/daughter thing...poor daddy YOUR making him upset..it's all your fault. If any of that is true, everyone needs to calm down...count to a thousand...whatever will relax each person. Then try to discuss again. :)
 
Sassycakes said:
With the exception of the wonderful people here, just this morning my husband and my daughter have been picking on me. I had an appt with my primary care Doctor and my husband has one at the beginning of July. I wanted him to switch places with me because he is having a lot of pain in his knees and lower back. He needs to see an orthopedic doctor and I thought the primary care Doctor could recommend one. So he has been yelling at me all morning. Then he called our Daughter to complain about me to her. Then she started getting annoyed with me saying that I am always canceling appts. Which isn't true. I have 3 doctor's appointments next week. So why is everybody always picking on me?
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I think you don't stand up for yourself enough.. tbh, you sound like someone who does anything for peace, and possibly people treat you with contempt because of that. You've heard the expression, people equate kindness for weakness.. well don't let them. You always sound like a very family orientated person.. so stand up for yourself. tell them ''I'm your wife, and your mother, I do things for your benefit, don't speak to me in such a disrespectful manner , because I will no longer accept it''
 
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RadishRose said:
She asked why (her family) was picking on her.

I don't get what doctors or the internet have to do with her question, sorry.
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You do realize that this forum is internet, right ?
And doctors she is already seeing are sometimes more informed and better qualified, if they are honest and truthful, to answer her simple question than internet sources are.
 
Just Jeff said:
You do realize that this forum is internet, right ?
And doctors she is already seeing are sometimes more informed and better qualified, if they are honest and truthful, to answer her simple question than internet sources are.
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Why on earth do you think that her GP has any better idea of how her family treats her than her many online friends here that she‘s known for many years. And ‘simple question’ - hardly.
 
Just Jeff said:
You do realize that this forum is internet, right ?
And doctors she is already seeing are sometimes more informed and better qualified, if they are honest and truthful, to answer her simple question than internet sources are.
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You don't seem to understand that she is unhappy due to wanting to help her husband with his pain by changing doctor appointments from her appointment to take him instead.

This is what I understood from her post.

Her husband called their daughter & both husband & daughter made it seem like she wanted to cancel her appointment as a routine thing she does.

I don't know the dynamics of their relationship but the advice to take time away so as not to be a whipping post makes a lot of sense.
 
Sassycakes said:
With the exception of the wonderful people here, just this morning my husband and my daughter have been picking on me. I had an appt with my primary care Doctor and my husband has one at the beginning of July. I wanted him to switch places with me because he is having a lot of pain in his knees and lower back. He needs to see an orthopedic doctor and I thought the primary care Doctor could recommend one. So he has been yelling at me all morning. Then he called our Daughter to complain about me to her. Then she started getting annoyed with me saying that I am always canceling appts. Which isn't true. I have 3 doctor's appointments next week. So why is everybody always picking on me?
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IMO when others are less than kind to another person, it often means they are struggling with their own issues. Perhaps your daughter has something going on of which you are unaware and she overreacted? Maybe your husband is more worried about his knees and back than he wants to admit..I don't know of course but often people do react negatively when they are feeling bad. You sound like you had only his interest in mind so I hope you can find a way to not let it all bother you too much. 🌹
 
Serenity4321 said:
IMO when others are less than kind to another person, it often means they are struggling with their own issues. Perhaps your daughter has something going on of which you are unaware and she overreacted? Maybe your husband is more worried about his knees and back than he wants to admit..I don't know of course but often people do react negatively when they are feeling bad. You sound like you had only his interest in mind so I hope you can find a way to not let it all bother you too much. 🌹
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I think you are 100% correct. I think my husband is struggling with aging and I do know my daughter is going through issues with her MIL. They both are dealing with issues.
 

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