Etiquette/manners. Do's and don'ts. What you prefer.

LadyEmeraude

LadyEmeraude

You may call me EM 😊
I am thinking along the lines of, opening a car door for a woman, pulling out her
chair in a restaurant before she sits, nice things like this...and of course other things
also.

Would it bother you if your date, spouse, friend, wore a hat at the dinner table, either at home or
in a public eating place.

So, this topic then is open ended, just however you might feel about any of it, or even things you
might want to add.
 

My brother is always opening car doors for me and I find it so irritating. I don't need him to do that. I can get in and out by myself and he is doing it just to be seen by others as acting like a gentleman. But he will leave me and SIL weighed down by heavy grocery bundles, or whatever, and will not lift a finger to help. But when we approach that car door - zoom. He's there to open it. Sometimes he makes me want to scream, he's such a hypocrite. He treats women like cattle. 😖
 

Yep, I don't need to have the door opened, my chair pulled out. I loved my husband very much but he was not any help bringing in the groceries or taking out the trash.

My son was always ready and willing to bring in, unload the groceries. Even now if he is here he will take out the trash and drag the cans to the curb on trash day. Little grandson, only 9, is happy to help. Good thing, it is harder to get normal things done.
 
I like the basic etiquettes, but not overkill, just take it easy be polite and use
some pleasant manners are good with me,


One I prefer is >>>All items not having to do with food should remain off the table: keys, clutch bags, sunglasses, and especially phones,
when eating out at a restaurant. So, then someone might say "well where should I put them then!?" :)

A few weeks ago, there was about 7 of us eating out at a restaurant, keys, phones, sunglasses, a few clutch bags, were all over the one table where we were seated. The server was doing her best to arrange salad plates, drinks, and a few other things, she finally nicely asked "is there
anywhere we can move a few of your items too, if you don't mind" . It gave me a good chuckle and our table, was able to situate the items
elsewhere.
 
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oldaunt said:
The hat is just rude, and I have seen it quite a bit lately.
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oldaunt said:
The hat is just rude, and I have seen it quite a bit lately.
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Where I live it is a regular thing, not so much in fine dining restaurant setting, but
everywhere else, cafes, coffee shops, most all eating establishments. I had a boyfriend
long ago, that preferred to keep his cap/hat on at all times when eating out. I was ok
with it, as he explained after his concussion and scalp stitches, he felt more comfortable
with keeping it on.
 
Car doors are easy and it would just bug me to have anyone open (or especially - close) a car door for me. But I appreciate it when someone opens a heavy door of a building, and although I felt silly I appreciated a train person helping me down off the train in Chicago.
A few times this year children have assisted me. I was outwardly very polite but secretly thinking 'no! I'm not that old! I must look that old to them!'

About the hats at the table it would depend on the hat. A big floppy garden hat I'd think was rude to leave on, but a baseball cap or a religious hat would be okay with me.
 
LadyEmeraude said:
I think you have it twisted Holly, like a dog with a bone, how about you let it just go. I have
no problems with anyone on this forum, are you looking to be intimidating?
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Intimidating ?.. don't make me laugh... you asked a question, I answered the question.. I wasn't the one chewing on the bone.. you were.. so howzabout you start learning to be polite, you're very new to this forum, it's probably best you don't alienate people by your attitude so soon
 
I have been 'taught(?)' that myself as an American (excuse me, United States person) will never have manners that are acceptable to the rest of the world....

Seeing how easily I seemed to offend my last British friend (something about making what I thought was a very small innocent joke about Hong Kong). I also got banned on another forum for using the word 'latitude'.

Sigh....is there an online etiquette course I can sign up with online?
 
rasmusjc said:
I have been 'taught(?)' that myself as an American (excuse me, United States person) will never have manners that are acceptable to the rest of the world....

Seeing how easily I seemed to offend my last British friend (something about making what I thought was a very small innocent joke about Hong Kong). I also got banned on another forum for using the word 'latitude'.

Sigh....is there an online etiquette course I can sign up with online?
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what on earth could you have said about Hong kong that would upset anyone ?:sneaky:
 

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