I am Here For Him …..

charry

charry

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I Am There For Him.....



His independence

taken by stroke;

he fights back

and I am there for him.



Near, aware,

anticipating his needs,

but reaching out

only as he calls.



Standing silently by

as he struggles

to regain all

that he has lost



Recognizing little steps,

slow walks, independent moves;

as days, months, and years pass,

on its own objective schedule.



I am the well spouse;

aware of his needs

while minding those

of my own.



Plans for tomorrow

are always ever-changing.

We concentrate on

today’s Aim Only ...
 

Since my neuropathy hit, it has changed my life totally. Misa, could have written your words. It seems so unfair for those who are physically suffering, and it is equally hard and emotionally very difficult ( and unfair ) for those who are so close to their partner. Thank You for being there for him. I would be feel lost without Misa.
 

Paco Dennis said:
Since my neuropathy hit, it has changed my life totally. Misa, could have written your words. It seems so unfair for those who are physically suffering, and it is equally hard and emotionally very difficult ( and unfair ) for those who are so close to their partner. Thank You for being there for him. I would be feel lost without Misa.
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It just breaks my heart seeing him like this Paco dennis ....
But Hes such a special kind guy, and he would do this for me as hes looked after me for the past 36yrs.....I have to stay strong and focused

Im so pleased you have misa .....Bless you both ...Stay strong x
 
Nemo2 said:
My late wife's best friend suffered a stroke a couple years back......she can communicate, but one leg/hand has gone. Doctors don't believe she'll walk again...but, she's a fighter.
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never say never nemo.....sadly my husband can only do a few steps indoors, hes paralysed down the left side with left sided neglect , and there are a lot of inside issues......but thankfully , his brain is still ok....a little bit slower than normal because of his meds .....but he still gives me advise.....We are still a team .....
 
One of the things I fear most is being totally incapacitated/unable to move...........I've told my supervisor numerous times that if I say "I don't feel too......" and I'm gone before I hit the floor, I want her to give me a round of applause.

We all know that life is finite, and/but for both our sakes I'd rather not be a burden.....even though she says otherwise.

Yes, I'd look after her, and yes, she'd look after me...but neither of us have the option of choosing.

Good luck, stay strong.
 
charry said:
I Am There For Him.....



His independence

taken by stroke;

he fights back

and I am there for him.



Near, aware,

anticipating his needs,

but reaching out

only as he calls.



Standing silently by

as he struggles

to regain all

that he has lost



Recognizing little steps,

slow walks, independent moves;

as days, months, and years pass,

on its own objective schedule.



I am the well spouse;

aware of his needs

while minding those

of my own.



Plans for tomorrow

are always ever-changing.

We concentrate on

today’s Aim Only ...
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Thanks for this, very touching and I can relate. Sending you love, hugs and peace. 💚
 
charry said:
never say never nemo.....sadly my husband can only do a few steps indoors, hes paralysed down the left side with left sided neglect , and there are a lot of inside issues......but thankfully , his brain is still ok....a little bit slower than normal because of his meds .....but he still gives me advise.....We are still a team .....
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Typing through the tears, you both are blessed to have each other. Wishing you the best possible.
 
Your words touch me so, as I have been there. I also see in those words, your heartbreak, your fear, your exhaustion. I beg you to please really look after yourself. Get respite care or other family, friends to help, to have a time to rest, just to even go out to lunch, to take a nap, just a little time you need to breathe deeply. Wish best wishes and prayers.
 
Blessed said:
Your words touch me so, as I have been there. I also see in those words, your heartbreak, your fear, your exhaustion. I beg you to please really look after yourself. Get respite care or other family, friends to help, to have a time to rest, just to even go out to lunch, to take a nap, just a little time you need to breathe deeply. Wish best wishes and prayers.
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thankyou blessed......i have had no offers from family of support, but i couldnt leave hubby at home or in a home anyway
we ve never been apart in 36 yrs , so its no good me trying .....:(:(
 
CallMeKate said:
What a beautiful post! How is he doing today, @charry ?
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thankyou Kate………
hubbys the same each day…..just sits and looks out of the window, he can’t concentrate on anything , he’s always in pain, some days better than others….
I try and sit with him as much as possible in between my jobs …..
thanks for asking ….
 

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