We have had a guest in our home

AZ Jim

AZ Jim

R.I.P. With Us In Spirit Only
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SURPRISE, ARIZONA
She is a friend of my wife's. I can only tolerate her. She was here four days. She goes home today, WHEW!!!!!
 

Glinda said:
Oh, c'mon, Jim! Give us the juicy details! Why don't you like this woman?!:why:
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She just offends hell out of me. I'm sure the feeling is mutual. I don't really wanna focus on that my main point is having someone living in your home a few days just causes your life to slightly change and you can't just be yourself . Maybe it's just me.
 

You sound like my Husband , he can't tolerate anyone else in the house either he likes all the attention to himself :giggle:
I have a friend coming to stay latter this month,for a couple of days, she and I are then gong to Adelaide for two days to do girl stuff .
 
Jim, I wish my wife had a friend who would come for a visit. I would gladly adjust my routine to accommodate because I think it would do my wife a world of good if she had a friend to visit with. We have live here in this town three, four years and know no one other than one neighbor who we speak with on occasion and of course my son and his family. Everyone needs a friend, to confide in, to share special moments with, to talk to. Neither of us have friends. I spend time on the forum here and it gets me through the day. She has no one other than me and I'm afraid I make a poor friend.
 
AZ Jim said:
She just offends hell out of me. I'm sure the feeling is mutual. I don't really wanna focus on that my main point is having someone living in your home a few days just causes your life to slightly change and you can't just be yourself . Maybe it's just me.
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I understand your point perfectly Jim and I'm in complete sympathy. In my case my daily routine has a lot of little pieces and once I loose my rhythm the whole thing falls apart and it's really ugly and I become grumpy. I suspect grumpy would be a good way to describe how you were feeling Jim.
 
drifter said:
Jim, I wish my wife had a friend who would come for a visit. I would gladly adjust my routine to accommodate because I think it would do my wife a world of good if she had a friend to visit with. We have live here in this town three, four years and know no one other than one neighbor who we speak with on occasion and of course my son and his family. Everyone needs a friend, to confide in, to share special moments with, to talk to. Neither of us have friends. I spend time on the forum here and it gets me through the day. She has no one other than me and I'm afraid I make a poor friend.
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Is you wife involved on this forum??? I live in a small country town and don't get to involved with neighbours,to often ( we have great neighbours) We have friends , here but generally don't get involved with others in the dancing here ( I can't stand gossip and people who put you down to make themselfs feel more powerful) I love the contact , "Friendship " of the members on here even if I don't choose to be involved in some posts .. It quite often puts a big smile on the face just reading some.
I would be more than happy to talk to her via email or forum friend if she would like to be involved. I know how it feels to be isolated,Sorry you are a bit far away from Australia to drop in for a cuppa ..
 
Kadee46 said:
Is you wife involved on this forum??? I live in a small country town and don't get to involved with neighbours,to often ( we have great neighbours) We have friends , here but generally don't get involved with others in the dancing here ( I can't stand gossip and people who put you down to make themselfs feel more powerful) I love the contact , "Friendship " of the members on here even if I don't choose to be involved in some posts .. It quite often puts a big smile on the face just reading some.
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My wife won't touch a computer. She has other interests that she can still do.
 
Falcon said it first...fish and company! Your wife's friend has been there FOUR days. That's the biggest problem. In the future, ask your wife to extend invitations for THREE days. Problem solved:)
 
drifter said:
Jim, I wish my wife had a friend who would come for a visit. I would gladly adjust my routine to accommodate because I think it would do my wife a world of good if she had a friend to visit with. We have live here in this town three, four years and know no one other than one neighbor who we speak with on occasion and of course my son and his family. Everyone needs a friend, to confide in, to share special moments with, to talk to. Neither of us have friends. I spend time on the forum here and it gets me through the day. She has no one other than me and I'm afraid I make a poor friend.
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Oh drifter what a heart rending post...I wish I lived closer to you I'd come and be your wife's friend..
 
Me, too! I wish I had a friend. When we get older and find ourselves in a new place, the people who live there already have their friends and have probably had them for years. They don't need new ones, and I've found that they aren't exactly welcoming. Not cold or rude, just not, um, inclusive. Is that the word I'm looking for?
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
Me, too! I wish I had a friend. When we get older and find ourselves in a new place, the people who live there already have their friends and have probably had them for years. They don't need new ones, and I've found that they aren't exactly welcoming. Not cold or rude, just not, um, inclusive. Is that the word I'm looking for?
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Well you have all of us georgia:thumbsup:I know it's not quite the same and I'd come and live next to you in a heartbeat so you could be my friend in real life as well as online.. but you live tooooo far away . I know, why don't you come and live over here.. :yes:
 
AZ Jim said:
She just offends hell out of me. I'm sure the feeling is mutual. I don't really wanna focus on that my main point is having someone living in your home a few days just causes your life to slightly change and you can't just be yourself . Maybe it's just me.
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Just having someone ring my doorbell out of the blue upsets my equilibrium. LOL You have my sympathies. Speaking of which, a lady, I'm somewhat familiar with, but only as an acquaintance, she sent me an email yesterday telling me she was in my neighborhood. I thought to myself, uh, ok, is this meant for me, did she butt dial an old message via phone or what. I sure didn't respond right away. Gave plenty of time for the person to take care of whatever they were in my area to to and get back home then asked if they sent the message in error. I don't do drop ins. I get really cranky, plus that means I have to straighten um my mess which is even worse now that I'm working on craft projects. So call ahead, at least by a month. :D Even my bestie knows to give me a couple of hours heads up. You don't just drop in on me, not even my child did that.

On the more serious side, I too understand what some of you ladies and Drifter said about the need for friends and getting lonely, I get out now and then, but my good friends live quite a bit away and work full time jobs, plus other complication at the moment, so, I don't get that real girl time like I used to with friends and I so miss that many times, it's not that much fun going it alone all the time to the beach, I miss having my gal pals along to chat with push under the water, play shark with after do the relaxing while listening to the sound of the ocean and and contemplating the universe and my place in it. When I go to the beach, it's usually a 3 or more hour event with friends sometimes we're there half the day.

So could you all move to my area, so I can have some people to play with in my sandbox, please pretty please. :excited: Just call before coming over though, that or I'll have to adjust my headspace somehow.
 
One Canadian mermaid paddling like mad, on her way to Floridah to visit April. Ok to warn you of my arrival now before I leave? I get lonely to, living here in the Tombs, where the real undead live. Fossilized minds. Ugh. Lol.
 
Jim, I can relate to having visitors you don't care for. Four days can seem like four years. Well, you're back to normal now. I hope it was an enjoyable visit for your wife at least.
 
Glinda said:
Jim, I can relate to having visitors you don't care for. Four days can seem like four years. Well, you're back to normal now. I hope it was an enjoyable visit for your wife at least.
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Glinda, I am a new man. This woman has a complex of some kind about men. I know her brother and cousins and they walk on egg shells around her. But, she loves my wife and my wife seems to enjoy their chatting so I just try to avoid her pissing me off or more likely me pissing her off.
 
Like you, Jim...I do not enjoy guests upsetting my routine. I live at the end of a dirt road, in a rural area and do not know any of my neighbors, with the exception of the young woman next door. And we just wave to one another. Most of my friends have passed away. The few remaining live a distance from me and no longer drive. Still, I never really get lonely. My days pass too quickly. Never accomplish all I intended to. Now, if I did not have the internet...I do not know what I would do. I know I would not be able to live independently.
 
Hollydolly, I can't move there: I can read the language, but I don't speak it:) Not only that, I don't know how to drive on the wrong side of the road!
 
AZ Jim said:
Glinda, I am a new man. This woman has a complex of some kind about men. I know her brother and cousins and they walk on egg shells around her. But, she loves my wife and my wife seems to enjoy their chatting so I just try to avoid her pissing me off or more likely me pissing her off.
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Glad to know things are getting back to your comfort zone. Also, I should let your know, gal pals are great, so are guy pals I we had guys in our little group of friends who went with us to the beach, mostly one really close guy friend more times than not. We all used to have such great times going everywhere as a group on weekends. Wasn't trying to exclude the men, but there are times when it's just the girls, but not a requirement.
 
Why, Jim? I assure you, I am not a Man's Woman, I hate that term. My mother was one. I believe strongly in the sisterhood of women. Just ask the ladies here. They know I love and respect them. But I am an equal opportunity friend. Applicant judged on character not gender or anything else. Men and women each bring something special to my life. Vive le difference!
 
Shalimar said:
Why, Jim? I assure you, I am not a Man's Woman, I hate that term. My mother was one. I believe strongly in the sisterhood of women. Just ask the ladies here. They know I love and respect them. But I am an equal opportunity friend. Applicant judged on character not gender or anything else. Men and women each bring something special to my life. Vive le difference!
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No! My comment was tongue in cheek. I wouldn't peg you as judgmental about gender. But little mermaids (sirens of the sea) used to lure men in the ships unto the rocks and then swim off leaving them wanting.
 

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