Dreaming of the Perfect Wedding Day...

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... Is something most of us ladies do (But please gentlemen if you want to speak of yours do so?)

We hope that someday will find the perfect guy for us girls or perfect girl for you guys.

Some of us know what dress we want, the flowers, the shoes, the veil... Something new, something borrowed, something blue and a penny in your shoe.

My sibling was the first one to do so (and I wrote the story about it, I'll put it up on my blogger later on, if you're curious). I'd been the flower girl then. Never was a bridesmaid or a maid of honour...but...

Thanks to a palm reader, I found my soulmate and my wedding day took place. The Month we wanted, the flowers, the church, the cake (yummy) and the overall size of the party. My darling took care of his dressing which was simply amazing.

Unfortunately, my dressing was ruined, thanks to the weirdest situation I'd ever been in.

To begin with, my maid of honour refused to accompany me for my bridal outfit, straight after I'd got her the outfit she wanted to wear at my wedding. Weird One!

So, I waited on a Saturday morning while hubby-to-be was at work. I had 4 appointments booked. The first one, there goes the Weird Two, took one look at me and rudely said: "Who'd want to marry you, get out..." Yup, in tears 😭 in my car, had to wait for appointment two almost an hour away. I went to coffee shop and sat in to recharge my frayed nerves.

Appt two, only offered high collar type dresses and puffy meringues. One, I've a short neck, I look awful in turtleneck. I've big hips... Well no to meringue...

Appt 3, had one I wanted but couldn't order the dress in time... I left panicking.

Appt 4, had exactly what I'd always wanted. Everything went amazingly, the court shoes with laced hearts, the blusher veil elbow length, two garters (one to give away, one to keep) and the dress of my dreams.

I was told that all would arrive on the Friday before wedding day as they were very busy. I was nervous but paid, thanked my wonderful helper but the two girls at the counter got me worried. They never stopped giggling... I left with my heart lighter than ever.

However, on the Friday I went to pick up my order, once again alone. My helper was nowhere to be found but the two giggling girls were there. They handed me the 3 bags and told me to scoot as they were closing early. Put it that way, I had an oh-oh moment.

I rushed home to drop the bags off then went back downtown to pickup hubby-to-be from work. In the evening I finally had time to myself to look at my outfit. Looking at my notes and the numbers on the bill. Nothing matched except the two garters.

The store was now closed for two weeks and my wedding was on Saturday morning. The dress was heavy satin meringue (Sarah, Duchess of York, yes, the basic style of dress, minus the big train and haute couture lol. My veil barely reached my shoulders and the pointiest shoes I'd ever seen. Something blue became me...

I may have looked awful but my handsome fiancƩ was there and the ceremony was lovely. The rest didn't matter. After the honeymoon, I went back to the store to find it boarded up. So, never got reimbursed. I finally gave all to charity a few years ago. Too sad. Sorry but true. I found out years later that they were a bad company.

Below are the dress and shoes I'd chosen but never got.
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Now, your turn. Did you have the wedding of your dreams or a disaster? I married in the 80s in June with silk roses, I still have them.
 

Sorry..?.. the first dress shop said ''who wants to marry you , get out ''?.. are you sure ? ... why would someone say that... :eek::eek: you must tell us more.. did you make a complaint? where was this ?


That's a beautiful dress and shoes.. .. how come you didn't get to wear it ?
 
Had to go apply for the marriage license with a sergeant from the local Army base as my fiance couldn't get in town early enough for the waiting period. Not very romantic but it got the job done. At least he was here in time to go pick up the license, get a couple of wedding rings and get a tux.

Already had a wedding dress and veil I had bought in Vienna, Austria a couple of years before. Didn't have a need for it then, but I saw it in a shop and HAD to have it.

Mom made the bridesmaid and junior bridesmaid dresses for my maid of honor (best friend from college) and my sisters.

Married by my long-time minister and the reception was in the church fellowship hall. Very typical for my group of friends. Not that many had big receptions with food and alcohol. Cake, punch, nuts and mints were the usual fare.

The wedding was vigorously and viciously boycotted by my in-laws, except for my husband's eldest brother, who was delighted that someone else had taken his place as the family Black Sheep. One of his sisters was kind to me, but wouldn't come to the wedding. I wasn't the right religion, they had counted on him being a priest, and because I had been engaged before (at 18), I was told that I was "damaged goods". My mother-in-law referred to me several times as "The Wh0re of Babylon".

We were married for 37 years before I lost him to a heart attack.
 

... Is something most of us ladies do (But please gentlemen if you want to speak of yours do so?)

We hope that someday will find the perfect guy for us girls or perfect girl for you guys.

Some of us know what dress we want, the flowers, the shoes, the veil... Something new, something borrowed, something blue and a penny in your shoe.

My sibling was the first one to do so (and I wrote the story about it, I'll put it up on my blogger later on, if you're curious). I'd been the flower girl then. Never was a bridesmaid or a maid of honour...but...

Thanks to a palm reader, I found my soulmate and my wedding day took place. The Month we wanted, the flowers, the church, the cake (yummy) and the overall size of the party. My darling took care of his dressing which was simply amazing.

Unfortunately, my dressing was ruined, thanks to the weirdest situation I'd ever been in.

To begin with, my maid of honour refused to accompany me for my bridal outfit, straight after I'd got her the outfit she wanted to wear at my wedding. Weird One!

So, I waited on a Saturday morning while hubby-to-be was at work. I had 4 appointments booked. The first one, there goes the Weird Two, took one look at me and rudely said: "Who'd want to marry you, get out..." Yup, in tears 😭 in my car, had to wait for appointment two almost an hour away. I went to coffee shop and sat in to recharge my frayed nerves.

Appt two, only offered high collar type dresses and puffy meringues. One, I've a short neck, I look awful in turtleneck. I've big hips... Well no to meringue...

Appt 3, had one I wanted but couldn't order the dress in time... I left panicking.

Appt 4, had exactly what I'd always wanted. Everything went amazingly, the court shoes with laced hearts, the blusher veil elbow length, two garters (one to give away, one to keep) and the dress of my dreams.

I was told that all would arrive on the Friday before wedding day as they were very busy. I was nervous but paid, thanked my wonderful helper but the two girls at the counter got me worried. They never stopped giggling... I left with my heart lighter than ever.

However, on the Friday I went to pick up my order, once again alone. My helper was nowhere to be found but the two giggling girls were there. They handed me the 3 bags and told me to scoot as they were closing early. Put it that way, I had an oh-oh moment.

I rushed home to drop the bags off then went back downtown to pickup hubby-to-be from work. In the evening I finally had time to myself to look at my outfit. Looking at my notes and the numbers on the bill. Nothing matched except the two garters.

The store was now closed for two weeks and my wedding was on Saturday morning. The dress was heavy satin meringue (Sarah, Duchess of York, yes, the basic style of dress, minus the big train and haute couture lol. My veil barely reached my shoulders and the pointiest shoes I'd ever seen. Something blue became me...

I may have looked awful but my handsome fiancƩ was there and the ceremony was lovely. The rest didn't matter. After the honeymoon, I went back to the store to find it boarded up. So, never got reimbursed. I finally gave all to charity a few years ago. Too sad. Sorry but true. I found out years later that they were a bad company.

Below are the dress and shoes I'd chosen but never got.
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Now, your turn. Did you have the wedding of your dreams or a disaster? I married in the 80s in June with silk roses, I still have them.
Sorry you got stiffed. What a horrible thing to do. With the two girls constantly giggling, sounds like it was intentional. No wonder the store closed down. Your dress choice is gorgeous.
Had to go apply for the marriage license with a sergeant from the local Army base as my fiance couldn't get in town early enough for the waiting period. Not very romantic but it got the job done. At least he was here in time to go pick up the license, get a couple of wedding rings and get a tux.

Already had a wedding dress and veil I had bought in Vienna, Austria a couple of years before. Didn't have a need for it then, but I saw it in a shop and HAD to have it.

Mom made the bridesmaid and junior bridesmaid dresses for my maid of honor (best friend from college) and my sisters.

Married by my long-time minister and the reception was in the church fellowship hall. Very typical for my group of friends. Not that many had big receptions with food and alcohol. Cake, punch, nuts and mints were the usual fare.

The wedding was vigorously and viciously boycotted by my in-laws, except for my husband's eldest brother, who was delighted that someone else had taken his place as the family Black Sheep. One of his sisters was kind to me, but wouldn't come to the wedding. I wasn't the right religion, they had counted on him being a priest, and because I had been engaged before (at 18), I was told that I was "damaged goods". My mother-in-law referred to me several times as "The Wh0re of Babylon".

We were married for 37 years before I lost him to a heart attack.
Good grief! I best not say what I’m thinking.
You can pick the husband . Too bad you can’t pick the in-laws
 
Had to go apply for the marriage license with a sergeant from the local Army base as my fiance couldn't get in town early enough for the waiting period. Not very romantic but it got the job done. At least he was here in time to go pick up the license, get a couple of wedding rings and get a tux.

Already had a wedding dress and veil I had bought in Vienna, Austria a couple of years before. Didn't have a need for it then, but I saw it in a shop and HAD to have it.

Mom made the bridesmaid and junior bridesmaid dresses for my maid of honor (best friend from college) and my sisters.

Married by my long-time minister and the reception was in the church fellowship hall. Very typical for my group of friends. Not that many had big receptions with food and alcohol. Cake, punch, nuts and mints were the usual fare.

The wedding was vigorously and viciously boycotted by my in-laws, except for my husband's eldest brother, who was delighted that someone else had taken his place as the family Black Sheep. One of his sisters was kind to me, but wouldn't come to the wedding. I wasn't the right religion, they had counted on him being a priest, and because I had been engaged before (at 18), I was told that I was "damaged goods". My mother-in-law referred to me several times as "The Wh0re of Babylon".

We were married for 37 years before I lost him to a heart attack.
Sorry about your loss. Got 36 nearly 37 with my better half. Died end of April, our anniversary was in June and his birthday in May. 😢. My sibling didn't show up with husband and child, couldn't be bothered. Only one from his family was future mother-in-law who kept repeating I wasn't good enough for her boy. Typical!
 
Sorry..?.. the first dress shop said ''who wants to marry you , get out ''?.. are you sure ? ... why would someone say that... :eek::eek: you must tell us more.. did you make a complaint? where was this ?


That's a beautiful dress and shoes.. .. how come you didn't get to wear it ?
Yes, positive. I was working for government back then, so through internal mail, I made complaint. Found out she's very snooty and caters only for high fashion models or WAGS. If I'd gone back to the store I'd slapped the schinitz out of her, but I received compensation and bought our wedding bubbly with it.

I never got what I'd purchased. The giggling girls changed the numbers and letters on everything so no, I never got that beautiful dress, which fitted me like a glove. I was able until two years later to get reimbursed. But the damage was done. I can barely look at my wedding album photos 😢

Daughter, when her turn comes, wants one similar which is available on Amazon.šŸ™‚
 
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With the family I'd left, at least I got the amount of guests to a tiny amount compared to the 125+ relatives for sibling's.

There were 8 of us altogether. We had a lunch time wedding, so Mother made all the sandwich party platters, I made a tuna pasta salad and a summer veggie salad. We had our three tier cake and homemade profiteroles (which turned out more popular than the cake lol) Our bubbly, by sheer luck, was the exact same as my sibling's wedding. The owner who recognised me, used the reimbursement we got as stated above and gave us two extra free cases as a wedding gift (my father knew how to choose great bubbly).

We had bubbly for a month lol!
 
You had a bad experience but you are lucky my Mom did go with you to pick out your gown. My Mom and I went to the first bridle shop and after I tried on one dress my Mom screamed to me "We are never going to find anything that looks good on you !" then she called her sister to meet us at another store. My Aunt fell on the floor when my Mom said to me "You look ugly in everything." On the way out of that store, a new shipment of gowns came in and I picked one without even trying it on. I was told by my Dad and Husband that I looked Beautiful and got compliments from all the guests. I guess you can tell my Mom wasn't crazy about me.
 
You had a bad experience but you are lucky my Mom did go with you to pick out your gown. My Mom and I went to the first bridle shop and after I tried on one dress my Mom screamed to me "We are never going to find anything that looks good on you !" then she called her sister to meet us at another store. My Aunt fell on the floor when my Mom said to me "You look ugly in everything." On the way out of that store, a new shipment of gowns came in and I picked one without even trying it on. I was told by my Dad and Husband that I looked Beautiful and got compliments from all the guests. I guess you can tell my Mom wasn't crazy about me.
Oh dear, so sorry... Your Mother and mine are in the same boat... Mine wanted a boy for her second child and she got me instead. I didn't have anyone to help and some of the bridal shop assistants were bad.

Frankly, looking back at it and after watching episodes of "Say yes to the dress!" I should have brought hubby with me, my fiancĆ© at the time. It would have helped me tremendously...šŸ™‚
 
I was never one to dream of my wedding day. The most important thing to me was to meet my soul mate. We eloped and ended up saving a hell of a lot of money. My parents ended up giving us a cheque for $5000 and also bought us furniture, washer, dryer instead of spending money on a wedding. Sorry to me it's a waste of money for one day. And hubby and I have been together 35 years.
 
Married in my inlaws first home, in front of the fireplace, justice of the peace. No fancy dress, hubs wore a sport jacket and tie. Family and friends packed in. It was wonderful IMO. We are the only couple from both sides that did not divorce. All the others had big fancy weddings, lots of money spent. To us it was not the wedding, it was the joy of being together and making a life the best we could. I really think the whole wedding thing is silly, why throw a costly affair when that money is better spent on a home. I hate to say it but I was not happy that my son and his wife chose to spend a great deal of money on the wedding. That was their choice, her parents and I did not contribute to the cost. Her parents were also wed in the home of their inlaws.
 
Married in my inlaws first home, in front of the fireplace, justice of the peace. No fancy dress, hubs wore a sport jacket and tie. Family and friends packed in. It was wonderful IMO. We are the only couple from both sides that did not divorce. All the others had big fancy weddings, lots of money spent. To us it was not the wedding, it was the joy of being together and making a life the best we could. I really think the whole wedding thing is silly, why throw a costly affair when that money is better spent on a home. I hate to say it but I was not happy that my son and his wife chose to spend a great deal of money on the wedding. That was their choice, her parents and I did not contribute to the cost. Her parents were also wed in the home of their inlaws.
Same here, no divorce per se, except my sibling and now her son has divorced to. Learned years later, by discovering papers that things weren't right as rain with my parents and grandparents. Sad!

We saved loads of money too by doing lunch wedding. One piano lady. MOH drove us to and from. The most expensive were our rings lol!

Our honeymoon, we drove to our destination and due to the mix-up we only had two days in our hotel and they reimbursed the balance.

We replaced it with a week in Niagara Falls for our second wedding anniversary and a weekend at a Grand Hotel, for Christmas, £100 off special for 3 nights, from regular price just no access to mini bar lol! The same year.

Then we had a vows renewal on our 25th. Another away great weekend and our munchkins bought us the most delish dinner and anniversary fruit cake. It was marvellous.

We'd planned to do it again for our 50th wedding anniversary. We were going to have a weekend in Italy for Pizza/Pasta feast...
 
Married in my inlaws first home, in front of the fireplace, justice of the peace. No fancy dress, hubs wore a sport jacket and tie. Family and friends packed in. It was wonderful IMO. We are the only couple from both sides that did not divorce. All the others had big fancy weddings, lots of money spent. To us it was not the wedding, it was the joy of being together and making a life the best we could. I really think the whole wedding thing is silly, why throw a costly affair when that money is better spent on a home. I hate to say it but I was not happy that my son and his wife chose to spend a great deal of money on the wedding. That was their choice, her parents and I did not contribute to the cost. Her parents were also wed in the home of their inlaws.
We second this. We had an unpretentious wedding and had our silver wedding last year. Most of our relatives and friends that had an expensive wedding got divorced only some years later. If the wedding itself is more important than living a good life together often something is wrong.
 
I never had dreams of a big or fancy wedding, just finding the perfect someone to spend many happy years with... so when it came time to plan a wedding, it was very low-key and private exactly as I wanted it. We celebrated with family and friends later (it was a different part of the state) and it all worked out great. I would do it 100% the same way if I'd be planning it today.
 
I got married in a trouser suit.. mid 70's...he was in his Naval Uniform... we lasted 8 years.. can't be married to someone who is never there...

Second marriage I got married again in a Suit,... skirt suit this time.. in fact that was the the last time I wore a skirt.. that was 22 years ago.. that marriage lasted 20 years...
 
I'm very happy to have married Mrs. L and it's our golden wedding in Sept. However, I wish I could have done it without the wedding as we were made to feel that we were gatecrashing someone else's party. One amusing incident was when I went to see the church organist to choose music. I asked for a piece of Bach, but the organist said it would be difficult as not all the notes on the organ worked. His rendition of "Here comes the bride" was a bit "unique".
 
I got married on the beach with a chaplain, maid of honor, best man, and several puzzled looking beach-goers.
Needless to say it was our honeymoon also which was in a different location than our apartment. šŸ‘°
 


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