Perils of living alone, with little outside . Tenant in my building died alone days ago..not discovered til today

This story does throw a bit of a wet rag on all those ladies that have written over the last few months things like, "I'm Through With Men." There are plenty of books in my local library about how "wonderful" it is to live alone.

Ya! Well, each to their own. Some like to be active and get around. Others like to sit and watch commercials on their TV all day long. It's your life! Don't waste it! Live your life; not the life of some TV personality.
 

Della said:
I hope not! They don't know if Saul talked his way out of prison or not!
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It still gave more info than other viewers may want to see. Can you edit your thread and put in it a spoiler? I’d be upset if I‘d read that prior to watching the last season.
 
In a world that prides itself on super communication systems ; rapid speeds and new advances every year we still fall short at really really communicating on a daily basis with those around us and the challenge should be greatest when we come across those who do not communicate well. Sometimes we need to invent fail/safe methods - let's get smarter that's the challenge! [and it doesn't need to be high tech - probably better if its not]
 

Jules said:
It still gave more info than other viewers may want to see. Can you edit your thread and put in it a spoiler? I’d be upset if I‘d read that prior to watching the last season.
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Sorry., I thought we were just kidding about spoilers. I was thinking that the show had been over for a long time so who could seriously be spoiled? I forgot that some people have ways of watching TV shows other than when they come on the TV.
 
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Dad lived alone in his final years. He was quite capable of taking care of his garden and house as well as preparing some meals to supplement the meal deliveries a few days/week. We (sister, brother and I) organized a seniors' "phone in" from the hospital each morning. He kept his independence and we felt he was "safe" being alone.
 
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In any 55 and older situation this happens almost yearly in a mobile home park i know ........ several seniors .their kids only call once in a while and if neighbors are not watching if you come and go ....... this spring they had 3 some who were not discovered quickly either.
 
Jeni said:
In any 55 and older situation this happens almost yearly in a mobile home park i know ........ several seniors .their kids only call once in a while and if neighbors are not watching if you come and go ....... this spring they had 3 some who were not discovered quickly either.
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This is what I worry about with my huzz and I, since we don't have kids.
 
We ALL have the same problem. ALL of us will die. Whether our dead body is found or not does NOT change the outcome. By the way, the dead STOP suffering at death.
 
Yes in a way it is not very considerate to leave a mess for others to clear up. That's why relatives attend to say farewells and then funerals are arranged - we can always request a quiet one but nice not to leave a mess behind?
 
I rather like the Eastern style middle eastern and far eastern and any other easterns of care for the elderly which unfortunately is npw beginning to copy the west - why do they do this so much when we keep stuffing up ourselves even more? In eastern traditions the elderly never even considered they would live alone but would naturally move into either their own family lineage or their inlaws family lineage - once there they could play with the grand kids ; take them to school at times ; and teach them wisdom. The elderly would never be left to die alone
 
I like the idea of each block of tenements forming their own TCG's tenements caring groups which can be as formal or informal as you wish but the soul objective is to care for each and all tenements whether they want it or not!! - the trick is to do it successfully without offending anyone - that's the challenge!! - there are a miriade of ways - and its fun finding them and then exercising them politely and lovingly!
 
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EVERYONE should find someone to live with. Living alone is one's own fault. Every single man should be looking for a suitable woman to become a room mate and every single woman should be looking for a single man.

There is a service on the internet called "Instant Checkmate." The price is reasonable. Every single person should subscribe to it and checkout new friends before getting close to them.
 
Mitch86 said:
EVERYONE should find someone to live with.
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I think that might be true for some, maybe even most; but I also think that there are some people--including myself--who'be be happy living by themselves in a nice little room/apartment/flat/cottage with neighbors nearby. So if you wanted privacy and/or solitude, you could just stay in your little place and curl up with a good book/the tv/the internet. And when you wanted company, you could walk outside and find it. Sounds great to me.
 
officerripley said:
I think that might be true for some, maybe even most; but I also think that there are some people--including myself--who'be be happy living by themselves in a nice little room/apartment/flat/cottage with neighbors nearby. So if you wanted privacy and/or solitude, you could just stay in your little place and curl up with a good book/the tv/the internet. And when you wanted company, you could walk outside and find it. Sounds great to me.
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I think that would be good.
 
Mitch86 said:
EVERYONE should find someone to live with. Living alone is one's own fault. Every single man should be looking for a suitable woman to become a room mate and every single woman should be looking for a single man.

There is a service on the internet called "Instant Checkmate." The price is reasonable. Every single person should subscribe to it and checkout new friends before getting close to them.
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Men are always looking for women to take care of them and most women are sick of it. You can have people check on you without living with them.
 
Every lonely person accessing this site could contact another lonely person here and arrange to start email with them. Before actually meeting them, one should check out their background using Instant Checkmate once you know their real name and address.
 
That happened to a guy down the street. But he didn’t die. After a fall that left him helpless he was on the floor for two days. A package delivery guy dropping off something at another house thought he heard a voice inside asking for help. He contacted neighbors who contacted the police. EMTs were called. He survived. He sold the house and moved closer to his out of state son.

I guess some good came from all those Amazon delivery trucks.
 
I think that particularly anyone who has pets MUST make some arrangements to be found in a "worst case" scenario. This is not about how soon, or how late, your dead body will be found on the floor. It's about simple human decency.

I don't have pets (any more) but have done all I can think of to prevent lying on the floor for days. Here's what I've done:

1. The Lively alarm pendant I wear around my neck. (You can go to lively.com to learn about them, and there are lots of other alarm companies as well.)

2. I set the alarm on my cell phone to ring every morning at the same time. It reminds me to send a short text to my son and daughter. The text is very short, usually just a friendly "Hi!" unless I actually have something to say. We do communicate a lot during the day. But they know they have to get that message from me every morning. If they don't they send me a text asking if everything is all right.

And this part hasn't happened yet, fortunately, but if they get no answer, my son (who lives nearby) would call me on the phone. If no answer, he'd come over. He has a key. Or, if he is out of town, he has the phone number of my next door neighbor, who also has a key for emergencies.

So, I feel reasonably protected. There's no reason to live in fear that you will lie on the floor for days. And for anyone with pets, that is inexcusable. The pets must be part of a "what if" plan, as if they were your children.

P.S. There are other options as well. Some elder organizations provide a service where they call you every day at the same time. If you don't pick up, they send the medics.
 
there is a juxtaposition here? - at that very moment or almost when death approaches many have suggested that we or some of we wish to do it alone - "not surrounded by family or well wishers whoever" - I can very very well understand that and support it - maybe death with dignity is about being allowed to perform it or experience it alone? - who are we to argue NOT? - however bodies left to start decompossing is another matter all together - so how do we rationalize the two opposites of this occuring for very hygenic and plausible reasons - that surely is the challenge?? And of course there may also be the issue of "the role of the clergy" at this final moment?
 

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