Is sleeping in separate beds the beginning of the end?

mrstime said:
We didn't need separate rooms, hubby snored, but he didn't snore loudly just enough to keep me from going to sleep. Ear plugs ladies are the answer. Nice foam ear plugs, I bought them, at an industrial store. Then he got his C-Pap machine, and the snoring stopped and I still have about 3/4 of a box of ear plugs. I used to put the used ear plugs in an old knee-hi nylon and after a while secure the top and toss them in the washer and dryer.
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Nope I disagree.. I wore Earplugs every night of my married life... there's no way they stop the noise of snoring as loud as my husbands'.... right next to my ear...

I even had to wear them sleeping in the next room.. because without them I could still hear him.. despite having concrete dividing walls.. :oops:...now that I've worn them for well over 20 years, and now he's gone.. .. I have difficulty sleeping without them despite being here alone..
 

I sleep better without spouse .....
room heats up like a furnace with him generating heat for the whole house and yet he continues to steal covers.

well not just my spouse but the darn dog he has with him .... no not a service animal just a dog who see me as a nuisance .....
get up to use restroom i come back to a dog taking my side ....... move them and spouse is saying he is such a good boy.
The dog barks at me if spouse even hugs me.................. for a 9 lb dog he is a huge pain in the backside.

Love it when spouse sleeps in guest room
i feel rested and energized without all the snoring/ tossing turning covers gone missing and dog wanting my side of bed.....
 
We have been sleeping apart for at least 15 years. I have sleep apnea, use a CPAP machine every night, so Wife is happy to sleep on the living room recliner sofa each night. Plus she is a VERY early riser ( around 4.30 AM ) every morning. Best for both of us. JimB.
 

When I was much younger, an older co-worker (60ish??) said that he and his wife had tried separate beds but it didn’t work out. He said he didn’t mind that quick little skip and hop from his bed to hers, it was that long walk back….
 
Jeni said:
I sleep better without spouse .....
room heats up like a furnace with him generating heat for the whole house and yet he continues to steal covers.

well not just my spouse but the darn dog he has with him .... no not a service animal just a dog who see me as a nuisance .....
get up to use restroom i come back to a dog taking my side ....... move them and spouse is saying he is such a good boy.
The dog barks at me if spouse even hugs me.................. for a 9 lb dog he is a huge pain in the backside.

Love it when spouse sleeps in guest room
i feel rested and energized without all the snoring/ tossing turning covers gone missing and dog wanting my side of bed.....
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Either him or the dog have to go, I think! We have two dogs, neither would dare get in bed with us...we have been married almost 53 years!
 
Having a good night’s sleep is so important that whatever works do it. Separate beds could save some marriages.
We don’t see the need for separate beds since neither of us are loud snorers and we have a superking bed anyway, so no one hogging the duvet :LOL:

However, when my husband is working late on a contract, instead of waking me up he heads for a spare room. That way we both have some rest.
 
Sassycakes said:
Hubby and I rotate where we sleep. In one bedroom we have our queen size bed ,that we have had since we married in 1966. In our other bedroom we have twin beds. We rotate between both rooms. I can not sleep in a room without my hubby. We sleep in the twin beds occasionally because hubby has nights when his legs jump around a lot. We never sleep in different rooms.
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A vitamin B-1 every day stops the restless legs.
 
Jules said:
If you can’t sleep, it’s better to toss and turn in another bedroom. Things change as we age. It’s better to wake in a good mood after a reasonable nights sleep.
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Reading stretch5881's post: "A buddy told me that he and his wife sleep in separate rooms because of her snoring and farting." You might think yourself lucky to wake up at all. The poor man could be gassed to death!
 
kburra said:
As we get older and managing to enjoy a whole night's sleep gets harder, is separate beds or bedrooms the answer?
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YES! Two dogs, a cat AND a snoring husband is too much for one bed. Having my own room is a God sent. ( send?) 🤷‍♀️
It seems most people here sleep separately from their spouse or significant other. It’s comforting to know I’m in the majority.
 
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A study found that those who slept on the right side of the bed had a worse sleep experience. It also found that the majority of the people insisted on sleeping on the same side every night.

Interestingly, right-side sleepers were found to fall asleep faster than left-side sleepers. However, they woke up more exhausted and irritated.

These sleepers were less likely to feel positive in their life. Right-side sleepers were found to be bothered more at night than left-side sleepers.
 
I don't think it's the beginning of the end. It's a choice and some feel more comfortable in a bed of their own. I certainly didn't feel this way 40 + years ago but now I do. It doesn't mean you can't share the bed with your SO when you feel to. Maybe all night or however long you wish.

As I said previously I would prefer living in separate households too. I love my alone time and maybe so would a potential SO.
 
Timewise 60+ said:
We have been married almost 53 years. Until this year we have always slept together, originally in a Queen size bed and for the last 20 years in a King. I injured my neck in high school. Over the last two years, when I lay down my neck gives me fits. They got bad enough this year that at times, I have to go out and sleep in a reclining chair. It does not happen every night so far, but I am sure in time I will not be able to sleep with my wife.
That will be sad for both of us...as we still have very close, in everyway.
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That is just so hard for you. I am so sorry.
 
I've been married to the same woman for 63 years. We sleep in twin beds positioned right next to each other. However, we had 2 kids, 6 grandkids and 3 great grandkids. However, we never ever kissed because I am afraid of catching germs. One does not need to mouth kiss at all as long as the sex organs can connect. After many decades we also do not have intercourse anymore. My sex organ does not respond for the last 30 years. I'm 88 and she is 84.
 
Jeni said:
I sleep better without spouse .....
room heats up like a furnace with him generating heat for the whole house and yet he continues to steal covers.

well not just my spouse but the darn dog he has with him .... no not a service animal just a dog who see me as a nuisance .....
get up to use restroom i come back to a dog taking my side ....... move them and spouse is saying he is such a good boy.
The dog barks at me if spouse even hugs me.................. for a 9 lb dog he is a huge pain in the backside.

Love it when spouse sleeps in guest room
i feel rested and energized without all the snoring/ tossing turning covers gone missing and dog wanting my side of bed.....
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Dog and other pets have no place in a human’s bed. They should be outside in a sheltered place where they are safe. Besides who wants dog slobber all over the house. Nasty.
 

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