What are some illusions in life that don't match all the hype?

LIVING ALONE is NOT lonely as predicted/warned by many. In a "couple relationship", invariably one will be come alone.

I prefer to live with Flash (dog) and he provides all my needs - exercise (3 miles walks/day,) security (body slams the door when he hears people approaching the property), companionship (I am an introvert and do not need "daily people interaction") and HE IS NOT A FUSSY EATER.
 

Flarbalard said:
Funny you should say that. Funny to me anyway. When I was young, late teens, early twenties girls seemed to really be into my hair. I was told by lots of different women how much they liked my hair and wished they had hair like mine. This was such a thing that on two separate occasions from 2 separate women that were cutting my hair at the time, I got asked out because they loved my hair.

The one incident that really points this out was for about a year I had a romance with woman that was the stuff novels are written about. We were in each other's arms and she asked me what do you love about me? I told her and then asked and what do you love about me? She started running her fingers through my hair and said a couple of nice things and then said, but I LOVE YOUR HAIR! Talking ceased at that point-- go figure.
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Ok, now we await for a photo of your hair (when young, if possible)! Just curious.
 
Sassycakes said:
He was charged with rape, incest, and corrupting the morals of a minor.The guy was found guilty on all counts
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In a way making ordinary , law abiding citizens sit through harrowing trials like you describe can cause life long trauma... seeing visions of multilated bodies.. hearing testimony from S*xually..assaulted children etc.. has to do some kind of traumatic harm to a person who is a law abiding citizen with no training in law....

It's an oddity to me that in this modern day.. there has never been an alternative to a Human Jury
 
hollydolly said:
It's an oddity to me that in this modern day.. there has never been an alternative to a Human Jury
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Trial by Jury or Judge Alone in Canada.

”Most civil cases in Canada are tried by judges without a jury. However, anyone charged with a criminal offence for which there can be a prison sentence of five years or more has the right to a trial by jury.”
 
Jules said:
Trial by Jury or Judge Alone in Canada.

”Most civil cases in Canada are tried by judges without a jury. However, anyone charged with a criminal offence for which there can be a prison sentence of five years or more has the right to a trial by jury.”
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Precisely the same here...
 
hollydolly said:
In a way making ordinary , law abiding citizens sit through harrowing trials like you describe can cause life long trauma... seeing visions of multilated bodies.. hearing testimony from S*xually..assaulted children etc.. has to do some kind of traumatic harm to a person who is a law abiding citizen with no training in law....

It's an oddity to me that in this modern day.. there has never been an alternative to a Human Jury
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I thought it was horrible to hear all that he did to the victim and then I had to explain a couple of things to another juror. He was about the same age as me ,and I had just turned 21 yrs old and was so embarrassed to explain sexual things to him.
 
Sippican said:
Maserati's are highly overrated as a luxury auto. There are so many that have much better quality.
I know, I know, people like to throw around 'mid-life crisis' for men that are successful and have lesser commitments from a money standpoint, and actually want to start enjoying their lives once they have taken care of everyone around them.
Mid-Life Crisis is a good 'tag line' to put on people, but in most cases totally false.
Sure, you see the fool sometimes buying something out of character for them and their lifestyle, but those are the exception rather than the rule.
I have 2 motorcycles. One, I've spent $30,000 on. Why, because I enjoy it tremendously. Its an extension of my creative side, it brings me enjoyment that many others could never relate to. I don't care who sees it, actually it is stored away 8-9 months a year. I'm proud of it, not because of the money, but the value it adds to my life.
The money? Doesn't matter to me.
See, the thing is, many people gauge others lives through their 'life lens'. What is acceptable and what isn't by their own life journey. Thats not fair at all.
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I'll file this one in the "humble brag" drawer. As respectfully as possible, you sound exactly like a casualty of the marketing teams I mentioned in my earlier post.
 
Rich said:
I'll file this one in the "humble brag" drawer. As respectfully as possible, you sound exactly like a casualty of the marketing teams I mentioned in my earlier post.
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Thats ok, you can have any opinion that you want. Just know there are people that think differently than you, come from different backgrounds, have different life stories. Your view, is just that, your view based on your life.
People can have nice things in their lives that they enjoy. Thankfully, we don't have to conform to your narrow views.
As respectfully as possible...I enjoy keeping people employed so they can feed and raise their families.
 
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Sippican said:
Thats ok, you can have any opinion that you want. Just know there are people that think differently than you, come from different backgrounds, have different life stories. Your view, is just that, your view based on your life.
People can have nice things in their lives that they enjoy. Thankfully, we don't have to conform to your narrow views.
As respectfully as possible...I enjoy keeping people employed so they can feed and raise their families.
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I'm always willing to listen to other's point of view. If, in this case, you're telling us that your goal in operating an expensive motorcycle is to help the company that sold it to feed their families, who am I to argue? I'm sure you enjoy driving it. Be careful out there though, there are far too many people texting and talking when they should be driving!
 
Rich said:
I'm always willing to listen to other's point of view. If, in this case, you're telling us that your goal in operating an expensive motorcycle is to help the company that sold it to feed their families, who am I to argue? I'm sure you enjoy driving it. Be careful out there though, there are far too many people texting and talking when they should be driving!
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Very true about people not paying attention these days. Thats why I put less and less miles on it.
As far as the marketing aspect, I get where you are coming from on people being more gullible these days to marketing ploys, but there is a different view on this as well.
People that are successful and can afford luxury items (watches, cars, paintings, etc) demand more from a company that is trying to sell them 4,5,6 times what another product can be bought for. The marketing people at a Jaguar, Maserati, or Lamborghini are not the same marketing people working for McDonalds or Burger King. They know their clients can go elsewhere so they have to be better. Successful people can sense BS a mile away. The target audience of luxury brands are people that will not be swayed into BS talk.
Point is, marketing can be McDonalds or it can be Maserati. Two different animals,
 
palides2021 said:
Ok, now we await for a photo of your hair (when young, if possible)! Just curious.
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I'm afraid I have to disappoint you on that one. The real reason is I'm pretty shy especially around people I don't know. In general disclosure on the internet does make me quite uncomfortable. I don't have many pictures in the first place and I wouldn't post group pics without the others permission.

My hair wasn't all that long and I never understood it. Was always a surprise to me. Both the girls who asked me out were just a one time after work drink thing, which was fine.

I hadn't thought about it in 30 years. The last time I was invited to a party where my old girl friend would be. She was back in town visiting with her husband. She'd asked her friend to invite us. We hadn't seen each other in 15 years. The first words she said to me "Oh God, your hair isn't black anymore." Struck me odd, I thought mostly it was. What struck me funny was the man she married was quite bald.

My wife never mentions my hair unless I have a highly amusing cowlick.

And yes, I still have all of it, so far. The color now is pretty much all gray.
 
What are some illusions in life that don't match all the hype?
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All the oh-so-wonderful traditional holidays- Thanksgiving and Christmas, with all the heavy food and general overeating expectation. That plus all the senseless gift giving, very stressful. Of course it's all become so commercialized, maybe the gov't can just give retail business another big fat tax cut, and ban the gift hype in one legislative package.
 
What are some illusions in life that don't match all the hype?
Human memory. We know exactly what happened, years ago, in great detail- well, supposedly. If you talk to old friends about a long-passed event, those dolts with their lousy memories got it all wrong. And not only that, the star of their memories is them, while I know I'm the star of the event-Geees! Those people have such faulty memories. 🤔 🤔
 
palides2021 said:
Retirement

Many people think it is a great way to end the last twenty or thirty years of our lives, but to me, it isn't. Society places senior citizens in a category and we are suddenly out of the "loop."
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IMO, the best senior's input on this thread. And it isn't that any of us can't see those shortcomings decades beforehand. Instead people tend to be so caught up in day to day moments and struggle, especially those with careers, that about all they tend to address is squirreling away nuts for that vague distant day. And as noted, upon reaching middle age, much less retirement age, their degenerated physical body is so limiting that it disappointingly limits what is possible.

In this enlightened era, there are significant numbers of we folks that reached their seventh decade that are still quite physically capable of much. I'm on several outdoor enthusiast boards where many seniors still regularly hike, ski, backpack, fish, and play sports. Like the guy with white hair fly fishing below. And the common thread for most is that we've enjoyed being active all our lives. Use it or lose it. I can't help any older folks suddenly return to their youth, but if any younger people are reading this, you can.

Sure genetics plays a significant roll in maintaining one's youth but a sure way to degenerate sooner with no possibility of recovery is to spend several years to decades sitting at a desk and or as a lump on a sofa each evening watching tv only to expect once they reach retirement, that they will then just get into shape. No, No, and No. Our aging body's don't work like that. Neither do our minds that also need to be exercised beyond reading and writing one-liners on post smartphone social media sites and watching Happy Days on TV.

A week ago Friday morning was at Tuolumne Meadows in Yosemite National Park with a detailed photography agenda, part of a 3 day road trip. I rose at dawn, drove back into the park 9 miles, got already prepared gear out and hiked lugging maybe 25 pounds, about 2 miles half off trails, to reach this little visited magnificent location I visited decades before along the Tuolumne River. Had to wait there about an hour for tall conifer shade at frame left to recede. When I took the 18 shots in this focus stack blended 6000x4000 pixels composite, a senior fly fisherman had just arrived on the other side on the difficult to ford river with very cold waters.

Yesterday evening post processed, this set of shots that took a tedious hour.

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David777 said:
IMO, the best senior's input on this thread. And it isn't that any of us can't see those shortcomings decades beforehand. Instead people tend to be so caught up in day to day moments and struggle, especially those with careers, that about all they tend to address is squirreling away nuts for that vague distant day. And as noted, upon reaching middle age, much less retirement age, their degenerated physical body is so limiting that it disappointingly limits what is possible.

In this enlightened era, there are significant numbers of we folks that reached their seventh decade that are still quite physically capable of much. I'm on several outdoor enthusiast boards where many seniors still regularly hike, ski, backpack, fish, and play sports. Like the guy with white hair fly fishing below. And the common thread for most is that we've enjoyed being active all our lives. Use it or lose it. I can't help any older folks suddenly return to their youth, but if any younger people are reading this, you can.

Sure genetics plays a significant roll in maintaining one's youth but a sure way to degenerate sooner with no possibility of recovery is to spend several years to decades sitting at a desk and or as a lump on a sofa each evening watching tv only to expect once they reach retirement, that they will then just get into shape. No, No, and No. Our aging body's don't work like that. Neither do our minds that also need to be exercised beyond reading and writing one-liners on post smartphone social media sites and watching Happy Days on TV.

A week ago Friday morning was at Tuolumne Meadows in Yosemite National Park with a detailed photography agenda, part of a 3 day road trip. I rose at dawn, drove back into the park 9 miles, got already prepared gear out and hiked lugging maybe 25 pounds, about 2 miles half off trails, to reach this little visited magnificent location I visited decades before along the Tuolumne River. Had to wait there about an hour for tall conifer shade at frame left to recede. When I took the 18 shots in this focus stack blended 6000x4000 pixels composite, a senior fly fisherman had just arrived on the other side on the difficult to ford river with very cold waters.

Yesterday evening post processed, this set of shots that took a tedious hour.

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Wonderful response and photos, @David777! Yes, we must keep moving as much as possible. Glad you are enjoying your time at Yosemite National Park.
 
Flarbalard said:
I'm afraid I have to disappoint you on that one. The real reason is I'm pretty shy especially around people I don't know. In general disclosure on the internet does make me quite uncomfortable. I don't have many pictures in the first place and I wouldn't post group pics without the others permission.

My hair wasn't all that long and I never understood it. Was always a surprise to me. Both the girls who asked me out were just a one time after work drink thing, which was fine.

I hadn't thought about it in 30 years. The last time I was invited to a party where my old girl friend would be. She was back in town visiting with her husband. She'd asked her friend to invite us. We hadn't seen each other in 15 years. The first words she said to me "Oh God, your hair isn't black anymore." Struck me odd, I thought mostly it was. What struck me funny was the man she married was quite bald.

My wife never mentions my hair unless I have a highly amusing cowlick.

And yes, I still have all of it, so far. The color now is pretty much all gray.
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I understand your reserved response to my prompt about a photo! I was only teasing. :giggle:
 
Sex in the shower. As a very young man, this was touted as a great, wonderful, life altering thing, and as a 15 (or 16?) year old I'm sure I gave the young lady the best 2 minutes of her life. But an attempt or 2 later in life were just not the same.

YMMV
 
Buckeye said:
Sex in the shower. As a very young man, this was touted as a great, wonderful, life altering thing, and as a 15 (or 16?) year old I'm sure I gave the young lady the best 2 minutes of her life. But an attempt or 2 later in life were just not the same.

YMMV
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The shower is better for foreplay. It's meant to be a preview for the main attraction.
 
bobcat said:
The shower is better for foreplay. It's meant to be a preview for the main attraction.
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You're right about that.
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S ex in the shower or in water in general isn't all that it's cracked up to be. Contrary to popular belief, water is not a lubricant. In a lot of water, whether in a shower, pool, hot tub, or ocean, Mother Nature's natural lubricant gets washed away, which can make things uncomfortable. If you want to go there, using a silicone-based lubricant is helpful. TMI? Tuff, lol. 🤭
 

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