Speaking of racism....this is a tragic result of it.

Mrs. Robinson

Mrs. Robinson

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This is my doctor`s 16 year old son. He was a popular high school student,football and tennis player,at the high school in the small town "next door" to us. He committed suicide on Mother`s Day. I don`t know all the details yet but his FB page is full of apologies from kids who say they were "only kidding","only joking around". It had to do with racism but I don`t know,at this point,exactly what was being done or said. I really thought the kids nowadays were pretty much over all of that,but I guess I was wrong....
 

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Kids learn by what they hear.. and they learn a lot of it by exposure from their parents. This is why it is still happening.. Grandpa/grandma have passed along a legacy.
 

I didn`t know him personally-the last and only time I saw him he was an infant in a carrier and his mom had him with her at the hospital when one of my grandsons was born. His mom is very involved in helping train midwives in underdeveloped countries and I`m reading that he was making many trips with her to help out as well. The kids are all posting so many happy pictures of him,he looks so happy in all of them. I just don`t get what these kids could have done to cause him to do this.
 
Racism and homophobia are the usual suspects but sometimes it is just bullies tormenting someone beyond their endurance limits.

So sad. He looks like a lovely young man and now he is gone.
 
My two eldest G/D's now aged 23, 20 suffered a few racists taunts when they started school, their father is from Vietnam.......I even had a man (about 50 years old at the time) who lived in the same street as me ,( in Adelaide) say to me " Don't walk on "my" side of the street with the girls" His wife explained to me he had served in the Vietnam war..and didn't like Vietnamese people as a result.
 
The Internet is a great power for good or evil and this case is a tragic example of the latter...
 
Mrs. Robinson said:
This is my doctor`s 16 year old son. He was a popular high school student,football and tennis player,at the high school in the small town "next door" to us. He committed suicide on Mother`s Day. I don`t know all the details yet but his FB page is full of apologies from kids who say they were "only kidding","only joking around". It had to do with racism but I don`t know,at this point,exactly what was being done or said. I really thought the kids nowadays were pretty much over all of that,but I guess I was wrong....
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Another very good reason not to be on the stupid FB
 
I don’t necessarily think we can always blame the internet and Facebook.

Kids can be incredibly cruel. Peer pressure is very powerful. Sometimes their target can’t handle it – often due to other stresses and problems.

Remember the movie “Carrie” with Sissy Spacek? She started her period, didn’t know what to do (psycho mother had never talked to her about it). The other girls threw feminine hygiene products at her and made fun of her.

When I was in high school two mean, jealous sisters resented me because I had a boyfriend, so they wrote disgusting things in the restroom. Suffice to say karma took care of them later in life.

But some kids are overwhelmed by pain/sadness. They don’t feel they can talk to anyone and they decide suicide is the only way to stop the pain. So sad.
 
applecruncher said:
I don’t necessarily think we can always blame the internet and Facebook.

Kids can be incredibly cruel. Peer pressure is very powerful. Sometimes their target can’t handle it – often due to other stresses and problems.

Remember the movie “Carrie” with Sissy Spacek? She started her period, didn’t know what to do (psycho mother had never talked to her about it). The other girls threw feminine hygiene products at her and made fun of her.

When I was in high school two mean, jealous sisters resented me because I had a boyfriend, so they wrote disgusting things in the restroom. Suffice to say karma took care of them later in life.

But some kids are overwhelmed by pain/sadness. They don’t feel they can talk to anyone and they decide suicide is the only way to stop the pain. So sad.
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Very true,Applecruncher. And John Paul was adopted,which can bring a whole host of other issues for a child.
 
Apple cruncher I am not so sure about that as FB (not the internet) is different and people can say very nasty things to a young person minute by minute and drive some people to the edge like in this case and get away with it.

FB does not have moderator functions like this forum and some young people take things very seriously and cannot just stop the person from sending messages and keeps replying.The child needs to be closer to the parents for assistance but in a lot of cases they do not want to.

There needs to be some form of control installed but due to the size of FB it would be near to impossible.
 
I would be interested I having feedback from members who have F/B .......I have never been involved in F/B so I can't comment about what's written/ photos ...... what I would like to know is If a Man, woman or Child is being harassed/ Bullied Can they delete their account? .if so why don't people being hurt by bullies shut them out by deleting account ???
Its sad the hear of young people who take their own lives, due to being bullied/ harassed, Oh yes it also happens in Australia ....I can understand harassment ...and how it can get to you..I was harassed in this area at dances by a mentally unstable women in her 70s who TOLD ME What I should wear,The length my skirt should be, the orders went on and on untill no longer attended "local "dances to get away from her ( I like most, who attend dances wear my skirt just below the knee)
 
koala said:
Apple cruncher I am not so sure about that as FB (not the internet) is different and people can say very nasty things to a young person minute by minute and drive some people to the edge like in this case and get away with it.

FB does not have moderator functions like this forum and some young people take things very seriously and cannot just stop the person from sending messages and keeps replying.The child needs to be closer to the parents for assistance but in a lot of cases they do not want to.

There needs to be some form of control installed but due to the size of FB it would be near to impossible.
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No, not correct.
There are already many controls on FB and lots of ways to stop someone's messages from coming thru.
 
koala said:
Another very good reason not to be on the stupid FB
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You obviously don't know how it works. Unless your FB is public then only people you choose as friends can make comments on your page. I don't see where it says this boy was harassed on FB. It says there are apologies on his FB page which lead me to believe they were harassing him in person, maybe in school. ? It is very easy to unfriend someone on FB who is harassing you so no one is ever forced to put up with it. And if someone is sending private messages on FB you can easily block them from sending any more.
 
koala said:
Apple cruncher I wonder why this poor young person found it so hard to do this. Maybe he was getting it face to face also besides FB.
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Let's take FB out of the discussion/equation. The fact remains that the boy was distressed and from what OP said he was being harassed. Sometimes a person feels they have nowhere to turn and no one can help. Or they think "if I die they'll be sorry and I won't be in pain". Maybe he tried to talk to someone and was told to get over it and grow up. We just don't know.
 
We don`t know and yes,my post may have been confusing. I only heard that kds were apologizing to him on FB. I have no idea if they were also harassing him there or not. My daughter in law`s nephew attended school with him and was a friend so I will most likely hear soon what was going on.
 
Doesn't do any good to apologize to him now, after he's gone. They're trying to make THEMSELVES feel better.

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