Got a Case of the Lonelies, Anyone Else?

kaemicha said:
I get on my computer then I get angry so I sit in my massage chair and read. It works. BTW, I also sleep with a stuffed animal. It brings me comfort. Don't laugh..
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I would never laugh at that. This dog we have now is going to have to be the last one and I've already gotten some stuffed animals (all dogs, one elephant) to have for comfort. In fact, a book I read on aging suggested using stuffed animals for comfort, especially if you're not able to have a real animal for whatever reason. This is one I've got my eye on (waiting for a sale):

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Been living alone many years before I retired. Keep busy most of the time. Be nice to have someone to talk to once in a while, but they would have to leave when the conversation ends. 🙂 I guess it's just idle chat unless you're in a relationship. Haven't had one of those since my divorce long ago. Still wonder what went wrong, but it's always too many things to count when there wasn't one major issue. Only one I dwell on is I never had the money she thought I had when she married me. She did not like the stress of raising kids was a close second. She left me a house we couldn't afford and 2 very young daughters. Have two grandkids from the daughters. My grandson lives fairly close. Just can't imagine trusting someone. It's one of the main casualties of divorce. Love retirement and wish I had more money, but likely would spend too much if I had more.
 
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Sorry! I'm way too busy to even think about that word lonely. Just spent some time driving around a place called "NW Angle" which is a chunk of land belonging to the State of Minnesota but is completely surrounded by Canada.

In 3 days I'm off to visit the province of Saskatchewan for a week. Gonna go hiking in Prince Albert National Park and see Lake Diefenbaker just for starters. I'm just way too busy. Lucky me; I guess!
 
kaemicha said:
I am very alone. My friends have moved on Last year, I lost both of my cats and only have one cousin I talk to. I get tired of being alone with my thoughts. But, lonely, I guess but I recognize it as being alone.
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It might be time for a new cat/kitten. @Pepper lost her cat Buffy after a lifetime of love and companionship. She had reached the point that she is ready to love another and should have a new loving relationship soon. You might reach out to her.
 
hawkdon said:
I've been thinking some lately about another cat.....been damn
quiet since I lost my last one ..Beau....and I get lonesome just
like others....feel it esp when I'm in poor health, or recovering
from health issues.....ah well......love you all...thanks for being here.....
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Well that says it all. The love of a pet can make a big difference to our own health.

When my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer it was a shock at 46 years old. The doctors gave him 8 months. We started chemo, it was very hard. I went to the pet store to get food for my Mom's dog (whole other story). They were having a rescue event. Saw a dog that I found so precious. Went home, sister called, told her about the dog. She said, that is the dog, came and picked me up.

Got to to the pet store, someone else had him in their lap, I told them I needed that dog. They gave him to me. Adopted, went home, the husband had a fit. Did the next chemo, came home to fix Hubby lunch. Dog was on the bed with Hubby and threw a fit. Did not want me to come close.

They were dubbed stud and his bud. From then on, it was them against the world. The dog loved me but knew his job. He was right by my husbands side for days after treatments and surgeries.

Anytime the husband was ill in the hospital, having surgery, getting treatments, the first thing he would ask when he was back in his head. Where is Oz, who has Oz. He even went so far as to tell people his dog cured cancer.

He was given 5 years, one month of life after the diagnosis. No, Oz did not cure cancer but he made my husband believe that this little dog could. He was so angry that I brought home a dog without approval but that 12 pounds of terror gave him love, hope, determination. Whom ever let this little dog go so that we could have him join our family I will be forever grateful.

I hope our true story will help you make the decision that you need another pet in you life. I think every person benefits physically and mentally from having a pet that gives unconditional love.
 
MarkinPhx said:
I do every now and then. I am also content to live alone for now but there are times I feel like you. If I do and no one is free to interact with I usually go out and do something like eat lunch at my favorite place or go get a coffee somewhere and just chill out there.
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Yeah, going to a busy place for coffee or lunch and just seeing so much activities going on do keep my mind occupied atleast for that moment
 
Blessed said:
Well that says it all. The love of a pet can make a big difference to our own health.

When my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer it was a shock at 46 years old. The doctors gave him 8 months. We started chemo, it was very hard. I went to the pet store to get food for my Mom's dog (whole other story). They were having a rescue event. Saw a dog that I found so precious. Went home, sister called, told her about the dog. She said, that is the dog, came and picked me up.

Got to to the pet store, someone else had him in their lap, I told them I needed that dog. They gave him to me. Adopted, went home, the husband had a fit. Did the next chemo, came home to fix Hubby lunch. Dog was on the bed with Hubby and threw a fit. Did not want me to come close.

They were dubbed stud and his bud. From then on, it was them against the world. The dog loved me but knew his job. He was right by my husbands side for days after treatments and surgeries.

Anytime the husband was ill in the hospital, having surgery, getting treatments, the first thing he would ask when he was back in his head. Where is Oz, who has Oz. He even went so far as to tell people his dog cured cancer.

He was given 5 years, one month of life after the diagnosis. No, Oz did not cure cancer but he made my husband believe that this little dog could. He was so angry that I brought home a dog without approval but that 12 pounds of terror gave him love, hope, determination. Whom ever let this little dog go so that we could have him join our family I will be forever grateful.

I hope our true story will help you make the decision that you need another pet in you life. I think every person benefits physically and mentally from having a pet that gives unconditional love.
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what a beautiful story... so pleased that your little impulse purchase brought so much joy to your husband in his last years.. as an aside what type of dog was it 💐
 
kaemicha said:
I am very alone. My friends have moved on Last year, I lost both of my cats and only have one cousin I talk to. I get tired of being alone with my thoughts. But, lonely, I guess but I recognize it as being alone.
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I'm so sorry you are feeling alone. I know it's not the same as having someone to talk to in person, but people here do care about you. It may not help much, but here are some flowers to brighten your day a little. Wish they were real.
 

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hollydolly said:
what a beautiful story... so pleased that your little impulse purchase brought so much joy to your husband in his last years.. as an aside what type of dog was it 💐
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He was a norwich terrrier..I lost him in 2017. He was creamated and his ashes sit on top of my husbands In a china cabinet that belonged to his mother. His Mom passed 8 days after my husband. I just don't think she wanted to be in this world without him.
 
George1 said:
Yes I do feel lonely sometimes and need some companionship but I guess we just don't get all we wish for
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Not to worry George , in the absence of physical bodies, you will have us... which country are you in?

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