What is Our Role, and Aren't We Wrong?

VaughanJB

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Apologies of this seems a little esoteric, but I've been pondering this for a bit.

The question is - what is our role in society today?

I define "our" are oldsters, no longer working and contributing significant taxes to fund overpaid politicians and wars in places we didn't know the name of a year ago. I refer to outnumbered, and out worked, people who rely on their past achievements as a way to seem relevant to tomorrow.

So much is going on around us. Political thinking, the use of language, ideas and potential outcomes are evolving the whole time. But we don't participate at the same level of, say, twenty year olds. Isn't it inevitable that our opinions and views will be somewhat out of sync with them? Potential outcomes for them, are likely more acute and significant. For us, ten years, fifteen years, perhaps twenty, and it's all over. For them, they're middle aged and have to live with the consequences.

I know when I was twenty, life seemed to go on forever, and I knew I'd have a long time to live with the consequences of my actions. Be that something I physically did, or something I proselytized. Today I'm becoming aware that my time is limited, and I won't have to live a lifetime of consequences - only immediate ones.

I think back to the earlier years of my life. Back then there were Skinheads, extreme right-wing politics (in the UK from National Front, among others), and punk rock with threatened the establishment. Music was banned in some cities and bands were told they couldn't play there because they affronted morals. All these years later and much of that music seems quaint. Tattoo's, for most people, were a no-no. To have them was a mark of degeneration. Today? People with tattooed faces line up politely in supermarkets with people like..... well like me. Things that were supposed to threaten the fabric of society came, made a noise, and went. Nothing much happened.

Of course, people with families will point toward their grand children and such, saying that's the future, and those are the people they care about. But the question is, how distorted is your vision of the future? How relevant are our ideas of right and wrong in the modern age? We have outcries against trangenderism, pronouns, and political leanings, but how much of our opinions are based simply on what we "know" from our past, and don't include any elements of what could be? How often do we catastrophize based on old data and ideas? How do we work out what is important, and what is simply a bias based on past events that aren't truly relevant today? How can we know one from the other?

Be it language used, ideas expressed, and emotions invested, how much of it is just oldsters telling others how it was, and therefore to maintain equilibrium, how it should/must be? And how much of it truly has an eye to future? Doesn't getting old make a lack of balance inevitable?

Personally, I perceive people being consumed by minutia. Be it letters that were published 20+ years ago, that suddenly become super-relevant - despite is being out there the whole time but languishing in Google obscurity- or ideas of sexuality, trying to take these ideas and project what it means to the future is surely rooted in where we are now, and can we as oldsters truly know what the "now" of a teenager is?

So, where do we stand? What's our role? To warn against the bigger picture (most people here won't have been through a World War), or to dig into the details and pretend we know what it means to be a teenager (we do, but only in the context of the era we grew up in, which is grossly outdated).

What say you?
 

I say, none of that mess matters. I have a home, food and a reasonable way of life, which I will live to please me as best I can, and maybe help one or two others along the way, and y'all can go ahead and fuss over all that that doesn't matter. Yes, I have opinions, and they are my opinions. They may not be yours, but please respect my right to have them.
 
How do we get exempt from these taxes? I'm still paying plenty of income tax at both State and Federal levels.

Who are these outnumbered people? We already face demographic collapse, far worse in places like Canada than in the U.S. Most of the industrialized world is aging, depopulating from the bottom upward.

Sorry, I'm not feeling well right now. But you seem to be burying yourself in strawmen.
 

To be kind. That's my opinion anyway.

When you are kind, you're doing a lot more than you'll probably ever know; you are teaching, you are encouraging someone, you're doing something that feels good and probably improves your health and your outlook on life, you might even be helping someone...preventing them from harming themselves or others, inspiring them to improve their lives, you may be diffusing a moment of anger, or helping someone appreciate what they have or where they are ...or whatever; you just don't know.

But it's never a bad thing. I mean, use good judgement - I wouldn't be kind to someone sticking a gun in my ribs at an ATM - but I've never had an experience where me being kind was a bad mistake. And it's such an easy job. And it's rewarding, even if it just makes me feel good.
 
Apologies of this seems a little esoteric, but I've been pondering this for a bit.

The question is - what is our role in society today?

I define "our" are oldsters, no longer working and contributing significant taxes to fund overpaid politicians and wars in places we didn't know the name of a year ago. I refer to outnumbered, and out worked, people who rely on their past achievements as a way to seem relevant to tomorrow.

So much is going on around us. Political thinking, the use of language, ideas and potential outcomes are evolving the whole time. But we don't participate at the same level of, say, twenty year olds. Isn't it inevitable that our opinions and views will be somewhat out of sync with them? Potential outcomes for them, are likely more acute and significant. For us, ten years, fifteen years, perhaps twenty, and it's all over. For them, they're middle aged and have to live with the consequences.

I know when I was twenty, life seemed to go on forever, and I knew I'd have a long time to live with the consequences of my actions. Be that something I physically did, or something I proselytized. Today I'm becoming aware that my time is limited, and I won't have to live a lifetime of consequences - only immediate ones.

I think back to the earlier years of my life. Back then there were Skinheads, extreme right-wing politics (in the UK from National Front, among others), and punk rock with threatened the establishment. Music was banned in some cities and bands were told they couldn't play there because they affronted morals. All these years later and much of that music seems quaint. Tattoo's, for most people, were a no-no. To have them was a mark of degeneration. Today? People with tattooed faces line up politely in supermarkets with people like..... well like me. Things that were supposed to threaten the fabric of society came, made a noise, and went. Nothing much happened.

Of course, people with families will point toward their grand children and such, saying that's the future, and those are the people they care about. But the question is, how distorted is your vision of the future? How relevant are our ideas of right and wrong in the modern age? We have outcries against trangenderism, pronouns, and political leanings, but how much of our opinions are based simply on what we "know" from our past, and don't include any elements of what could be? How often do we catastrophize based on old data and ideas? How do we work out what is important, and what is simply a bias based on past events that aren't truly relevant today? How can we know one from the other?

Be it language used, ideas expressed, and emotions invested, how much of it is just oldsters telling others how it was, and therefore to maintain equilibrium, how it should/must be? And how much of it truly has an eye to future? Doesn't getting old make a lack of balance inevitable?

Personally, I perceive people being consumed by minutia. Be it letters that were published 20+ years ago, that suddenly become super-relevant - despite is being out there the whole time but languishing in Google obscurity- or ideas of sexuality, trying to take these ideas and project what it means to the future is surely rooted in where we are now, and can we as oldsters truly know what the "now" of a teenager is?

So, where do we stand? What's our role? To warn against the bigger picture (most people here won't have been through a World War), or to dig into the details and pretend we know what it means to be a teenager (we do, but only in the context of the era we grew up in, which is grossly outdated).

What say you?
First, I commend you on how insightful and relevant your posts are. My role in the business world was to mentor my team to become successful, and when I retired their thanks meant the world to me.

But now that I'm retired, what my role is in the world is a great question. I think my role is to live my remaining years as happy and comfortable as possible, supporting my partner and family, while trying to enhance others' lives through charitable giving and just striking up meaningful conversations with friends and strangers.

When I was in my 20s, I was completely oblivious to what was going on outside of my little world, but then there was no internet or social media from which I could learn. These days, I am happy to absorb every bit of credible information I can when it comes to politics, various generational trends and what is happening in the world around me.

Baby Boomers have always been a very influential generation, but we are getting old and dying off and the future of our world belongs to the GenXers, Millennials and GenZers, so I pay attention to what makes them tick because I want to understand other points of view. Also, they will ultimately determine the type of life I have as I get older.

I will still do my part politically until I am no longer able.
 
Try and live peaceably with other people, as much as that's possible. Avoid passing judgments on people. Don't bring suffering to anything that's alive, as much as is possible. And I agree with Murrmurr, try to be kind......the Dalai Lama tells us much the same thing.
 
I think there are a lot of possibilities for our roles as seniors.

I have witnessed seniors mentoring, volunteering, and teaching (like me). There was a poem I wrote once, a while back, that focused on the topic "Your Presence is Important." Whatever we do here on earth has an impact on others, whether directly or indirectly. Even now, as I am writing this, I am sharing my thoughts, and these thoughts will influence (or not) others who read this. We are all connected.

Also, as we age, we have much to offer to the younger generation, our wisdom, knowledge and skills. Yes, there are things that we might not like, but that's been happening for centuries. Who knows? Maybe what we are living now may be mild for what is yet to come (robots?).
 
I agree with Palides. Over the course of our long lives we have learned some very important lessons. You could say that part of that learning involved becoming wiser people.

I see my role as a senior is multifaceted. Kindness is both an action and a mindset. We can be kind to people we encounter, especially other seniors by taking time to listen to what they may have to say.

As elders, we can affirm people and let them know how special they are. When out an about at the shops I go out of my way to admire babies and to tell their mother or father how blessed they are. This is so much better than giving them a dirty look if the child is squalling and the parent is looking exhausted.

It is important to use wisdom gathered from experience to know when to say nothing and when to offer help or advice. Sometimes just a smile and a nod, or a cheery "Good morning" is all that is needed to lift the spirits of a stranger. Who knows, it may be the only exchange with another human being that they will have all day. It takes very little to be kind; all it needs is a bit of practice.

When it comes to nonhuman species I'm practically Buddhist/Fransciscan in that I try hard not to kill spiders, ants or even cockroaches - the latter are allowed to live as long as they don't invade the house. I provide water for the birds and fruit for the possum that visits after dark.

A couple of days ago, as I was on my way to bed for the night I noticed a very fragile spider in the bath tub. It could not gain enough traction to climb out but if I tried to lift it out I would probably do it mortal damage. Not for the first time, I draped a hand towel over the side of the bath in such a way as to provide a ladder for the spider to climb. It must have worked because the spider was gone the next morning.

It is easier to practise kindness if you make a habit of being kind to people, animals and other creatures every day. The world is a sweeter, happier place when people make a habit of giving and receiving kindness.

Now what was the question?

What is Our Role, and Aren't We Wrong?​


Everyone will have a different answer. If we are truly wise, we will listen to them all.
 
What say me you ask. While I relate to the thread title I can't seem to get through the verbosity (didn't you use the word 'minutia?' in there somewhere?) of the post. I'm sure it's my fault. Interesting, rich, title though. I'll try again as I respect the author.
 
My role at this time is to just try to make people think a little bit. At this age we can be so set in our ways, have thoughts and ideas that are so ingrained, that we never see anything else and never grow. That is not too bad for ourselves since we won't be around much longer, however, we need to be setting an example for those that follow behind us. Never stop learning. Don't be belligerently ignorant. Don't support book banning. Listen to ideas that are different from your own. Support the truth. It is not too late to set an example.
 
One thing I know about the future:
The people will rise again
They will be put down
The people will rise again
They will be put down..........

And so on.........
 
What say me you ask. While I relate to the thread title I can't seem to get through the verbosity (didn't you use the word 'minutia?' in there somewhere?) of the post. I'm sure it's my fault. Interesting, rich, title though. I'll try again as I respect the author.
This is what happened with me. It got a bit confusing with the explanations of the title. So I gave up, but have thought about it throughout this morning. Although our dear @VaughanJB is a prolific author, he is very original in his approach to stuff. Here is what I have come up with this morning.
For most of my life my understanding of myself was linked to the roles I filled. Musician, friend, husband, father, and much of my identity was in what I did to make $. When I retired I had none of those identities that were ACTIVE. They use to fill my days and nights. Now they are gone, and I do not have an identity. I ask myself, "What do I actually DO anymore?" I can't think of anything that entails constant vigilance except maybe staying alive. :)
So, that got me thinking about many a sage talking about the loss of identity. It is almost universally understood that to gain in this life one must lose that sense of self that needs constant feeding. Also to understand that life itself is temporary and that all things pass away. We can't hang on to things that do us no good anymore. I can think of it as losing excess weight. It can help us feel free of unnecessary responsibility. I no longer approach my moments of living to doing important things. BUT, I do attempt to fill each moment with connecting to this miraculous existence in a direct way. Being interested in life without "me or I-ness" getting in the way. :)
 
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Synchronicity? I just ran into an article "

"Everything Changes at 70​

At least it did for me"​

It pretty much covered what the OP was "concerned" about.

she ends with this...

"I not only accept but embrace, that while my outside is slowly becoming less attractive, my inside is slowly becoming beautiful."
 

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