I've been married for almost forty years to a wonderful man, but if I was interested in a serious relationship, I don't think I would seek it out through internet dating. What do you think? Have you visited a dating site with success, or were you disappointed? I think I'd just look forward to bumping into someone of interest around my hometown. Please voice your opinion in the poll.
Online Dating for Seniors...For or Against?
- Thread starter SeaBreeze
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That Guy
Homegrown Unknown
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- Monterey Bay
Gee, it's been over ten years but I did try them and it ranged from OMG bad to OMG good. Actually connected with a women I liked in high school . . .
Had to vote "None of the above" as my results varied so wildly. After that experience . . . I quit.
Had to vote "None of the above" as my results varied so wildly. After that experience . . . I quit.
Warrigal
SF VIP
- Location
- Sydney, Australia
I've been married for 50 years to the same man so I'm speaking hypothetically.
I think I'd like to size someone up discreetly without them knowing that I was interested before any dating overtures were extended or received. Putting my name on a list of availables would not be the way that I would prefer to look for a companion.
However I have a niece who found her partner after putting up a pretty feisty advert on a dating site. She basically said this is who I am, and these are my interests and if you don't share them, then don't bother to respond. It worked.
I think I'd like to size someone up discreetly without them knowing that I was interested before any dating overtures were extended or received. Putting my name on a list of availables would not be the way that I would prefer to look for a companion.
However I have a niece who found her partner after putting up a pretty feisty advert on a dating site. She basically said this is who I am, and these are my interests and if you don't share them, then don't bother to respond. It worked.
Casper
Silver Streak
We've been happily married for nearly 47 years........so the last option was what I selected.
I do know of one younger couple who met online and are now happily married with 2 children.
It works for quite a lot of people but I don't know if I'd like to take that kind of chance.
I do know of one younger couple who met online and are now happily married with 2 children.
It works for quite a lot of people but I don't know if I'd like to take that kind of chance.
Jillaroo
Demented
- Location
- Mid North Coast NSW Australia
At my age and being on my own for so long it's the last thing i would want is a man in my life. 
Michael.
Senior Member
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- UK (Surrey)
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Against Internet dating
As a single man, I have tried internet romance through several low/no cost
sites and I advise against it for most seniors, especially men. Some younger seniors may be successful.
depending on where you live, how choosy you are, your age, race and of course
your photo which should be excellent. I have been so disappointed at the deception,
hypocrisy, vanity and pickiness of the participants that I will never bother with it.
PlentyofFish is the most notorious and largest free site where men outnumber women, easily.
SeaBreeze why are you asking if you are happily married anyway?
As a single man, I have tried internet romance through several low/no cost
sites and I advise against it for most seniors, especially men. Some younger seniors may be successful.
depending on where you live, how choosy you are, your age, race and of course
your photo which should be excellent. I have been so disappointed at the deception,
hypocrisy, vanity and pickiness of the participants that I will never bother with it.
PlentyofFish is the most notorious and largest free site where men outnumber women, easily.
SeaBreeze why are you asking if you are happily married anyway?
SifuPhil
R.I.P. With Us In Spirit Only
- Location
- Pennsylvania, USA
I blogged about my last attempt at using an online dating service ...
The full article is on my Philstivus blog if you'd like to see it ...
That being out of the way, I voted "No but I would consider using them" because the original post mentioned SENIOR dating services. Also it made no mention of Russian Bride sites, so I'm keeping THAT option open for now ...
The full article is on my Philstivus blog if you'd like to see it ...
That being out of the way, I voted "No but I would consider using them" because the original post mentioned SENIOR dating services. Also it made no mention of Russian Bride sites, so I'm keeping THAT option open for now ...
I was just asking to hear what seniors think about those sites, and if they're using them. From everything I've heard, they sound a little bit risky, especially to someone who's elderly. They're easier to scam out of money, or physically abuse in my opinion. Honestly, if I ever lost my husband, I'd be devastated. I wouldn't want a relationship with anyone else. I would be content to live alone, with the loving memories of my hubby to keep me company, along with my dog and cat. :love_heart: :sentimental:
SifuPhil
R.I.P. With Us In Spirit Only
- Location
- Pennsylvania, USA
Sifuphil, did she take her medication that day?
Unfortunately no ...
rkunsaw
Well-known Member
- Location
- Clarksville, Arkansas,USA
I am happily married but if I was single I might give it a try. Who knows? Never say never.
TICA
Senior Member
- Location
- East Coast
My nephew met his wife through e-Harmony and I have two very close friends who also met their partners through a dating site. I tried one a few years ago and had a lovely e-mail relationship for about a month. We actually met once for dinner, but didn't have a thing to say to each other that had any meaning. We chit-chatted and he was a nice man, but I couldn't see having any kind of relationship. He was BORING!!!! I know that sounds silly, but honestly, he wasn't anyone that I'd want to hang out with for any length of time.
That was enough for me though. Single I am and single I'll stay unless I happen to meet someone that is the perfect match and chances of that are slim to none. I couldn't even tell you what the perfect match would be. I just don't want to bother with the drama that goes along with a new romance.
That was enough for me though. Single I am and single I'll stay unless I happen to meet someone that is the perfect match and chances of that are slim to none. I couldn't even tell you what the perfect match would be. I just don't want to bother with the drama that goes along with a new romance.
That Guy
Homegrown Unknown
- Location
- Monterey Bay
Too bad these sites weren't happening when I was studying psychology in grad school. Would have been great material for discussion. Anyway, couldn't help but become interested in varying degrees of narcissism displayed in the ads. Many seemed to be way over the top in their wonderfully high opinions of themselves and/or had an impossible laundry list of exactly who and what they wanted. Most just seemed to be an unrealistic wish list. I'm glad some people have found each other this way, though. Although flawed, it's still another way to connect...
SifuPhil
R.I.P. With Us In Spirit Only
- Location
- Pennsylvania, USA
But what if you're a shut-in? What if, like certain people on this forum, you are barred for life from ever entering night clubs, bars, theaters, bingo halls and public libraries?
(It's a long story ...
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What if you have all the real-world social graces of a spastic bull elephant?
What if you've exhausted the available supply of local talent?
What if you're just curious ... or yellow?
(It's a long story ...
What if you have all the real-world social graces of a spastic bull elephant?
What if you've exhausted the available supply of local talent?
What if you're just curious ... or yellow?
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But what if you're a shut-in? What if, like certain people on this forum, you are barred for life from ever entering night clubs, bars, theaters, bingo halls and public libraries?
(It's a long story ...)
What if you have all the real-world social graces of a spastic bull elephant?
What if you've exhausted the available supply of local talent?
What if you're just curious ... or yellow?
Well, if it's gotta be... make sure they know it will be romance in a broom closet!
SifuPhil
R.I.P. With Us In Spirit Only
- Location
- Pennsylvania, USA
Yeah, those are fun ... at least, that's what I've heard ...
Actually, I can see the advantages of dating services from a theoretical stand-point, but I admit that the application doesn't always live up to expectations. Many friends of mine have tried services and they were disappointed, but a small number were happy with the results. I know there's a risk involved, but if you keep a few basic principles in mind you can't go far wrong.
Archer
Member
- Location
- Adelaide, South Australia
I never would, I figure if I couldn't attract someone off my own bat socially, I wouldn't bother...
After my sister died, my brother in-law tried a few of these sites and every woman, without fail, was a gold digger...out for a man with a house and some money to look after them...!!
One b***h on the first date, despite being told it was dutch, had the gaul to say she had left her money home by mistake which forced Rob to pay for her meal (the most expensive on the menu) and drinks...needless to say there was no second date...
After my sister died, my brother in-law tried a few of these sites and every woman, without fail, was a gold digger...out for a man with a house and some money to look after them...!!
One b***h on the first date, despite being told it was dutch, had the gaul to say she had left her money home by mistake which forced Rob to pay for her meal (the most expensive on the menu) and drinks...needless to say there was no second date...
pchinvegas
Member
- Location
- Las Vegas, NV
I had a 6 year relationship that started from an internet dating site and although that relationship is now over it was good while it lasted.I really don't know how to explain it but I am very happy and content alone right now. I have friends and family that keep me busy and work and I enjoy my alone time.
So, if your lonely, go for it. It's easy to read a profile, chat or email back and forth and follow someones status and conversations with others and get a good idea of what they are all about. Then phone calls and public meeting till your comfortable. It can work.
So, if your lonely, go for it. It's easy to read a profile, chat or email back and forth and follow someones status and conversations with others and get a good idea of what they are all about. Then phone calls and public meeting till your comfortable. It can work.
That Guy
Homegrown Unknown
- Location
- Monterey Bay
I have noticed one thing since I've slowed down in the female companionship department: I've got lots of extra money . . . !
fureverywhere
beloved friend who will always be with us in spiri
- Location
- Northern NJ, USA
My experience is a bunch of vain male twits who want a Victoria Secret model...even if they are paunchy and gray themselves. The pickings for women seeking women are much easier. So easy that after a few weeks of conversation they're ready to pack up their cats and move in. But regardless I'd rather meet people in person at this stage of my life.
Grumpy Ol' Man
Senior Member
- Location
- Kansas, U.S.
On-line dating? Just a minute and let me ask my wife if it's okay...........
If I weren't married to the most beautiful lady in the world, I still would not go to an on-line dating service. Just read way too much about the "crazies" out there. If I were to have a relationship, it would need to be with someone I have known for some time... know and trust.
If I weren't married to the most beautiful lady in the world, I still would not go to an on-line dating service. Just read way too much about the "crazies" out there. If I were to have a relationship, it would need to be with someone I have known for some time... know and trust.