Is she flirting with me?

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Victor

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At a clinic where I have gone for 2 years the business assistant sometimes says flirty comments even though I am over 70 and she is about 40. I say there's a sale on roses she says buy me them. A joke? I say I want to go out to celebrate and she subtly implies with her with eyes. One time she came in posed in the clinic room very sexy hips then left. She is very professional at her job
The age gap is too much. And I stopped dating 10 years ago. I'd feel so shy embarrassed to say anything. I am a patient and she deals finance
Is she interested? Or is it my ego imagination?
 

Victor said:
At a clinic where I have gone for 2 years the business assistant sometimes says flirty comments even though I am over 70 and she is about 40. I say there's a sale on roses she says buy me them. A joke? I say I want to go out to celebrate and she subtly implies with her with eyes.
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Not flirting. I do this... some dude says "There's a sale on chocolate" and I say "oooh, did you buy any for me!?" And yeah, especially if he's an age to be my dad (because naive or not, I wouldn't even consider that he may think I was flirting.) I assure you I'm not flirting when I do that! I'm being friendly! Frankly, if you're telling a stranger about sales on roses and "going out to celebrate," it kind of sounds like you're the one flirting, and quite possibly making her uncomfortable. Just my 🪙🪙
 
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Della said:
I think we women, and I've been guilty of this myself, think if the age difference is wide enough it's save to be flirty without any fear of it being taken seriously and that may be what she's doing.
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Agreed. I worked in a hospital and absolutely loved my work and the patients. To think of it now all these years later, that every time I patted an older man's arm, said something like "well don't you look handsome today?!" or gave a genuine warm smile, they may have thought I was flirty is sobering. I'm just friendly and of course treated women patients the same.
 
Murrmurr said:
I think he described it pretty well, though....well enough to get opinions.
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He described it really well. If she’s posing in provocative ways maybe she IS flirting. Maybe he should have bought her a rose.
I don’t know. 🤷‍♀️ One day I wore a summer dress at my chiropractors and he told me off. It was a knee length summer dress.
I certainly wasn’t flirting.
 
It's sort of a form of elder discrimination, even if it's unintentional, isn't it? The woman probably doesn't mean it. She just thinks that she's safe from older men so can joke about it.

Young people don't think they'll ever get old. I'm shocked that it's happening to me. 😲🙃
 
It seems to me she is just being friendly, and this is just fun banter that she doesn't expect to be taken seriously.
The comments like ' did you buy me some?' chocolate - people say that sort of thing all the time, knowing both parties know it is a joke.
And the sexy hips and eye imploring - yes I think you are probably seeing things or interpreting things that are not there.
 

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