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Trish said:
It is scary but, remember all you have been through, survived and moved on from. You will soon be free of all the uncertainty and will be able to start building your new life. Having been a worrier in my previous existence, I now try not to cross bridges until I need to. There will come a time when you will need to look at the finances and the future but, for now, you just need to concentrate on getting through what needs to be done now.

I don't know you personally of course but, from what I know of you on here, you are strong. I hope the settlement is fair and you will be able to plan your new life in the not too distant future. :)
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I wish I had said that. I agree completely.
 

Murrmurr said:
There's a case here that's fairly recent, I think, where the husband put most of their assets into various accounts in his attorney's name. They got found out, and the attorney lost his license and his client lost the case. Well, they have to have another hearing, but that guy's screwed.
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Unfortunately most people who do this don't get found out...
 
Trish said:
It is scary but, remember all you have been through, survived and moved on from. You will soon be free of all the uncertainty and will be able to start building your new life. Having been a worrier in my previous existence, I now try not to cross bridges until I need to. There will come a time when you will need to look at the finances and the future but, for now, you just need to concentrate on getting through what needs to be done now.

I don't know you personally of course but, from what I know of you on here, you are strong. I hope the settlement is fair and you will be able to plan your new life in the not too distant future. :)
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I understand what you say.. but the time to look at the finances is right now...this time has come... and I will see in a few days just how much money he's declaring.. and in less than 8 weeks the court will rubber stamp a piece of paper to that effect

You're right I am strong, it's come from having people betray me all my life unfortunately, I wish it hadn't been so.... now entering the Autumn of my life.. I sincerely hope that this last betrayal by him, will have a judge stop it in it's tracks.

I'm not looking for millions.. I just want what's rightly mine and I don't have to go into my old age in poverty caused by a cheating , lying, abusive partner..
 

dilettante said:
I'm so glad my ex-wife and I handled this all open and above-board and even divided assets logically rather than breaking things like real estate and pension benefits up. It's probably part of why we remain on good terms 30 years later... or maybe the other way around.
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the joke of it all is..that he was the one in the wrong..

You would think after all he's put me through during the marriage and cheating on me and all.. that during the divorce proceedings he might have had the decnecy to say..well, I did put her through hell.. the least I can do is allow her to have what is rightly hers...

..but no... what a complete A-hole he's been...
 
Pepper said:
In my Family Court experience: those who hide assets may do so for years & years before there is obvious trouble in a marriage. IOW, it's in their nature to hide things; they have a 'secret' side. Your ex may have had accounts you don't know about for decades throughout your marriage.
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Yep....spot on......this is what I've discovered in the last year.....
 
hollydolly said:
the joke of it all is..that he was the one in the wrong..

You would think after all he's put me through during the marriage and cheating on me and all.. that during the divorce proceedings he might have had the decnecy to say..well, I did put her through hell.. the least I can do is allow her to have what is rightly hers...

..but no... what a complete A-hole he's been...
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You have a good head on your shoulders. Use your wisdom and attention to detail to your advantage while navigating through this difficult time. Do your best not to allow emotions to take you over (that's difficult but very important). All you can do is the best you can and beyond that - have no regrets; turn the page and move on to a better, self-focused life!
 
@hollydolly Both my first and second wives are college educated and have well-paying jobs. Money has not been an issue in my marriages. We have independently taken care of our children, and they are staying in touch with us daily. BTW, my first wife was ten years younger, while my second wife is almost twenty years younger than I am. It has its advantages and disadvantages. For sure, she keeps me on my toes. My chronological age is 88, but my biological age is like hers.

My parents in Germany got divorced when I was four years old, when my mom caught my dad in bed with the housemaid. Then came WWII and we lost everything we had. Tears still come into my eyes when I think of what my mom had been through in those days. And I still remember when my siblings and I went hungry to bed, and my mom was crying because of it.

It's because of these childhood experiences that my primary concerns were always for the financial security of my wives and children. I lived on three continents and studied in four different countries. I always had the misery of wars on my mind, and that kept me going. If it hadn't been for WWII, then I would still be living in Germany.
 
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MrPants said:
You have a good head on your shoulders. Use your wisdom and attention to detail to your advantage while navigating through this difficult time. Do your best not to allow emotions to take you over (that's difficult but very important). All you can do is the best you can and beyond that - have no regrets; turn the page and move on to a better, self-focused life!
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I'm almost 70... that would've been much easier if I had been 30....
 
hollydolly said:
I'm almost 70... that would've been much easier if I had been 30....
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My Mom was much like you and said the same thing in her 70's when my Dad died. A difficult time for her to have to take over all the stuff my Dad had always done all her life but she not only made it through that emotional and difficult time but became stronger for it and is still going in her 104th year. You can never tell what life has in store for you. Lean in and do your best. I bet you'll be much better for it!
 
The clean up from the storm last week continues! Every day I’ve gone out and picked up small sticks that apparently got dislodged from the three trees in my front yard. They were getting smaller and less frequent.

this evening I noticed some small sticks in the bushes and collected them… glanced up and saw a stray tulip poplar branch sticking out of the top of my Loropetalum (which is over five feet high). I could just reach it (standing on tiptoe) and I pulled and pulled. Oh no, not a stray broken off bit, it was at least six feet long and looked about 1.25 inches at the base!

I felt like I’d found Gandalf’s staff hahaha.
 
~I updated my budget spreadsheets
~Went through some papers and receipts to see what will be shredded and what could be tossed
~Thoroughly cleaned the shower curtain liner (both sides)
~Cleared the clutter off the dining table; it was mostly junk mail, including large election flyers.
~Swept the bathroom floor and dry Swiffered the kitchen floor. I was too tired to wet Swiffer them, so left that for tomorrow.
 
Well I managed to get another coffee filter maker. I never knew that such a common appliance would be so hard to find. Now I want to look for a new TV. The current one had served us well, but now it has taken to switching itself off randomly - usually at the worst possible time. I don't want anything fancy - just a TV - and a long piece of string to attach to the remote so that I don't lose it.

Weather is looking good again, so it's into the garden and get the mower going.
 
It might be a dry, but cloudy day today. That means I can work in the yard and mow. Grass is high now. I just wish it was a sunny day. The sunshine is a mood booster.

I will need to check the calendar to see who might be coming over today...I think the OT for my mom. Yesterday's appointment with her cardiologist went very well, really, could not have gone better. This weekend no one will be coming over, so it will be wonderful to get that break.
 
My goodness, the sun is shining bright out there!!!! I got up
"late" !!!!whooopee....now what is going to go wrong?? LOL...
just happy to see the sun and grass is so high got to have
it mowed again it is going to use up my pension this year to
keep the damn grass cut !!! 60deg F now *80 deg later...no
rain today i don't think....catch u later on......
 
I just want to stay out of arguments today. Both the horoscopes I regularly check insist there's trouble in the air! Since they were right about yesterday---and I was able to avoid arguments---today looks even more stormy! I'm gonna keep my big mouth shut where my son is involved. Birthday party for his son (6) tomorrow, and his wife is a nervous wreck, SO.......I will just go and have a good time and not get involved in their drama.

I remember my son's sixth birthday so well. I have a VCR tape of it. It was held in a Plaster store, where the kids painted their own choices. There was pizza. I, Me, was the Entertainment Act---I learned Magic Tricks with Balloons and you can see me expertly make all kinds of stuff which I gave out to all the kids.

Maybe it's okay if I argue and rant here instead, cause I sure ain't gonna deal with them! Why are they so nervous? I remember being so excited &: happy.
 

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