Do You Like Being Your Age

Mike

Mike

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I normally, like being my age, but sometimes I get down,
over the previous several months, I have lost 3 very good
friends, yesterday, I got a phone call just as I sat down to
lunch, from Jane's husband, telling me that she passed
away on the 5th July, after 3 days in hospital, I am really
upset as she was making light of things, we often spoke
on the telephone, and she always said that I calmed her
down, she is calm now.

R.I.P. Jane.

Mike.
 

Very sorry you've lost another friend. Sadly this is the price everyone pays for growing old.. a hard price, but inevitable.

The secret I suspect if we wish to avoid it, is to make friends who are younger than ourselves..

May your friend Jane R.I.P.. and thoughts go to her devastated family..
 
Yes, you have my sympathy too, Mike

I like what you said about Jane making light. I take that to mean she was what we'd call light-hearted, positive, good humored. I like that in people... I find it very hard to be around people who are complete opposite of that.

While we certainly don't avoid people our own age, my wife and I have numerous friends who are younger. I feel benefits include that their liveliness is enjoyable to be around, and keeps the mind more open.
 
As we grow older, losing people close to us is inevitable but, of course, that doesn't make it any easier to bear. I try to remind myself that I should be thankful that I got to spend part of my life with them but, that doesn't stop the sadness.

Reading your post, it strikes me that Jane left you a gift in the knowledge that you helped her when she needed someone to bring calmness. That is, I think, a lovely thing for you to remember. You were obviously a true friend. x
 
Condolences to you Mike, dealing with death is painful at any age, it never gets any easier. As for liking my age, never gave it much thought, I really miss our ballroom dancing, although we still meet up with the friends that we made. Sadly we have mourned the passing of some of them.

What's to like about being old? Well it has some perks, for example, you’re good at using what you’ve learned. You will probably get more agreeable as you age, sanguine is a good description. Life seems to be less stressful as you age, but it's probably down to life's experiences that help you deal with that stress.

All in all age has some advantages, but what wouldn't I give to banish the arthritis and have one more quickstep around the ballroom floor with the lady whom I love and adore, in my arms!
 

Do You Like Being Your Age​


Mike, like you, I too have lost several close friends who were all younger than me, my condolences for your loss.

To answer your question though, I wish that I was only 75 again, it was a very good year. (y)
 
I'm very sorry for your loss. While I was growing up I received a lot of words of wisdom about growing older. Most of it was financial stuff or things about trying to stay in good health. No one prepared me though for how to deal with losing those close to me while getting older. I don't think anyone can be "taught" that or be prepared for it.

Aside from losing friends and family as I have gotten older, I am happy with my age. Not much I can do about it so I accept it and I hope that I will be one day older tomorrow.
 
I once attended a mass for Year 10 schoolgirls and I have never forgotten the words he spoke to them.

He said that as babies we are born with our fists clenched and when we die, our hands are open.
Then he said that during our lifetimes we must let go of many things - our childish innocence, things we hold dear and people we love. He said that life is a long process of learning to let go until, at the end, all we have to hold onto is God. It is the love of God that makes all the losses bearable.

I thought at that time that there was some deep truth in his words and now that I am old, I have come to experience the wisdom of his words.
 
It is difficult losing friends and loved ones. Please accept my condolences. I went to my sister in law's funeral a few years ago and my neice reminded me that I am now the oldest person in our family. Somehow I never thought that would happen. But yes, I like being this age - just don't like all the losses.
 
I'm 89 and definitely feel far different than when I was a youngster at 29. My eyes burn all the time (I use TheraTears for relief and warm water compresses). Walking is getting difficult so I take two 20 minute walks inside my house every day to prevent the wheel chair necessity. My wife is 85 and is my main comfort. I see my daughter for an hour every Sunday (she lives across the street). I rarely see my son.

As I approach 90 I feel the oncoming "death decade." My only consolation is the knowledge all pain and impairment will disappear as Jesus calls me Home.
 
I like my age but that really isn't the point. The real point is do other people like your age, for whatever reason you would like them to. It's'when you're designated too old for whatever that age can become a problem making one feel unwanted, and Irrelevant. I think it's easy for some folks to forget that if they're lucky they're going to get older too.
 
Thank you all for your replies, it looks to me that
we are all in the same boat with the same losses,
death doesn't care who it upsets, does it?

That old saying, "Only the good die young", this
is true in many respects, I think that it applies to
my recent loss, even though she was in her 70s,
still makes her young in years and definitely young
at heart.

Mike.
 
Olivia said:
I like my age but that really isn't the point. The real point is do other people like your age, for whatever reason you would like them to. It's'when you're designated too old for whatever that age can become a problem making one feel unwanted, and Irrelevant. I think it's easy for some folks to forget that if they're lucky they're going to get older too.
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Spot on...good post Olivia....
 
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. We too have lost quite a few friends and family members. I try to remember the good and fun times we had together. That takes me away from sadness and nostalgia.
As far as my age is concerned, I am OK with it.
Living in a 55+ community, I am often reminded how precious life is and how much we should take advantage of each moment.
 
Life is so unpredictable and our age seems to have very little to do with when our time to rest will come. 7 years ago I had a major stroke and the doc's brought me back from deaths door after telling the family it was all over. I am told I awoke cussing and my wife of 40 years said 'now I know he is going to be OK' and indeed after a year of recovery I did indeed have 90% return to 'normal'.
Loosing my younger wife to cancer just a year after that brought home just how much of a random draw life is as I seem destined to carry on for quite a few more years yet. My lifelong friend who has 8 years more time here than I at 86 also lost his younger wife of 60 years not that long after. We both wonder what we did to last longer than these two wonderful ladies.

Life is a lottery but I sometime wonder if winning the prize on this one is a bonus or not, what do you folks, many of whom have more years than I, think?
 
No I don't like my age and I haven't liked it for over 15 years. Old age is nothing to brag about in itself. Seems only elderly rock stars and actors get respected when they are very old. Those who complain about their birthday need to be glad they are having one
 

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