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I had my deacon and his wife over for supper tonight... 3 of the four advent candles were lit, we enjoyed baked chicken with tomato/lemon topping, rice, baked zucchini with Parmesan/Asiago/Romano cheese on top and chocolate mousse for dessert. They brought a bottle of Prosecco, so we each had a glass of that (italian champagne) after our meal as we sat around and chatted.

I found out when I drink champagne, I talk like a sewing machine =P

They had just returned from a recent trip to Portugal, so I was delighted to hear about that. All in all, a lovely, relaxed evening!
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CS..I just noticed your new avatar... you really suit those colours in the scarf..really pretty....:love:
 

Following DH to body shop to drop of DASH1.
Bought it new in April.
It got scraped already.
We didn't do it; DHs increasingly "impaired" sister did.
Long story, I want to vent and ask what boundaries I should stay in, but fear I will make everyone depressed.
 
Mystery solved. I realize why I've been in a funk for so long.

Weeks ago, I was looking for something in my closet, forgot what. Instead, I found two suitcases stuffed with my mother's stuff. One suitcase contains her papers, etc. The other is stuffed with the clothes she brought, and was wearing, when she was killed in Florida by a car. I didn't know what to do with the suitcases, so I put them under my bed, so I would remember to 'get rid' of her things.

I found the prospect unbearable and pushed it to the back of my mind. But just now, while making the bed, I noticed them, and the feelings came back in a rush, showing me what has been getting me down for weeks, hiding in my mind.

I dread going into those suitcases, though I promised myself I would. The suitcase with her clothes, after all these years, still smell like her. When I smelled her, I became unbearably sad. I miss my mother so much. I think of all the people I lost, including my husband, I miss her the most.

She was so 'There'.........she talked so much, so much. When I lost her, my world became silent without her noise, her presence.

So, at least I know now what has been keeping me down, those two suitcases.
 

@CooCooforCoCoPuffs If "impaired" is a euphemism for alcoholic, sounds like it's time for an intervention.

Okay then. The weatherfools lied yet again. It's gonna be warmish, but the sunny part isn't going to happen:mad:, and it may even rain tomorrow. More:mad::mad:

There are a few things that need to be done around here today...vacuuming, dishwashing...boring stuff.

Maggiecat is napping. A catnap is needed when said cat gets up so early.
 
hollydolly said:
yes I had to physically apply for it online ... but that's done now, so goodness knows how long I'll wait for that...
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Well, if you had to apply online to get something you overpaid...oh, like a refund income tax like we pay here? Is that what a council tax is?

Not even sure what a council is comparable to in the US.
 
My early walk around 6:45 wasn't wearing boots for a change the 2 inches of snow we had melted as I went around the building,no wind it was refreshing,temp was 37
My plan this morning will be walking to Walgreens, takes me about 30 min,need a few items
no other plans today, read NYT,take afternoon walk before it starts raining
 
Good morning folks...43F outside, into 50's later, no rain today,
won't be here long, hands are hurting a lot today...no big plans,
other than some laundry maybe, got the Topsy popcorn gift
tins ordered last eve finally...learning the streaming a bit at a
time, saw final on yellowstone last eve, and saw another
witch/magic show, so getting to watch something different
at least.....take care all, thanks for having me.... :love: :cool: :) :love::coffee:
 
Georgiagranny said:
@CooCooforCoCoPuffs If "impaired" is a euphemism for alcoholic, sounds like it's time for an intervention.

Okay then. The weatherfools lied yet again. It's gonna be warmish, but the sunny part isn't going to happen:mad:, and it may even rain tomorrow. More:mad::mad:

There are a few things that need to be done around here today...vacuuming, dishwashing...boring stuff.

Maggiecat is napping. A catnap is needed when said cat gets up so early.
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No is not alcohol. Not entirely sure what it is. I get information on her via my DH, or for short snippets when I happen to answer his phone for him.

She has been my SIL for just over 10 years and she is now 79. Her husband of 59 years is 86.
My DH and I are both 69, married only 10 years.

She hit our new car (only $450 damage) while DH was at her place, 1200 miles from us, visiting her. He was there to "check on her" as her phone calls are - off and on, strange. For several years now and getting more strange and random. I think I know what it is. DH wanted to see her face to face. So he drove 1200 miles there, stayed 2 nights and then drove home 1200 miles.

She denied hitting his new car when he showed it to her while he was there. Even though there was a scratch from one end to the other on HER car, and there is paint from her car on the place on our car that clearly needs to be repaired. My DH thinks she may have some sort of dementia going on. He had purposefully moved his car well clear of her drive path because she said she was going to make a run to the grocery store earlier that morning. She owns this large, older "boatsize" car of a Lincoln Continental and this sister is 5'2" tall and shrinking.

DH got home and got the estimate for the damage to our car, it was only the $450. He comes home, calls her and tells her the cost to fix it is only $450. to please send a check. She says, "So I don't have to pay your $1,000. deductible? I still don't think I hit your car". He says, "I will send you a copy of the estimate, no just write me a check for the $450.00". Crickets now for SIX weeks. Not even a text or phone call, which is unusual.

They can afford the $450.; her DH is a retired engineer and they are comfortable financially.


The last time I interacted with her (2018) she behaved in such a way, I was rather blown away. I dion't know her before she was 69, so I have no idea what her behavior/personality was when she was young.

However, she is what I call "difficult to deal with" personality wise. To me this is the type of person who is: "If I don't get my way, I will act like a 2 year old?". Acts indignant, angry, pouty, crosses her arms behavior, won't discuss what the problem is, why she is acting a certain way, flounces off in a huff.

My DH now admits is sister "might" have onset of dementia of some sort.

Now I am regretting I didn't go with him to check on them. I worked with psychiatrists and other docs to perform mental status exams on suspected dementia/head injury cases. I have a Gerontology Master's degree with a counseling emphasis.

This is close to home (affecting my DH) and hard to decide my role, if ANY at this point. I am not sure whether to just back off and shut up and let things go as they may. It isn't my sister or my brother in law (per se) but my DHs, I only have a short family history with these relatives.

My concern though, is that my DH isn't taking this issue as dangerous.

I am concerned for his actually having dementia. They are living there alone. Her DH has serious heart issues among a slue of other more minor health problems; balance being but one.

The husband seems to be FINE mentally but if something happens to her, he will be for sure needing physical presence help or at least someone to assist every day. I fear her husband may also in denial about his wife's mental status as he really NEEDS her medically.

I think my DH needs to call her physician, now, as his sister needs to be evaluated.

Their father had Alzheimer's by 70. My DH seems petrified his sister may in fact have Alzheimers.
They have two adult daughters, but it seems one has thrown up her hands over her mother's behaviors and ignores the whole dramatic scene. The other who lives two blocks away and has three teens on her plate also seems to be in denial saying "That's just Mom, always crazy getting crazier...!" to my DH.

I just want my DH to calm down and think rationally, get them some help. But I don't think DH wants the truth, which may ratchet up his anxiety over perhaps a familial predisposition for Alzheimers, like his father.

Sorry for long post....any ideas, suggestions. I may not be seeing something.
 
Pam said:
It was a 'hotpot'. Layers of potato, onion, parsnip, different types of bean, some chestnuts and mushrooms etc. all in a lovely gravy/sauce. No meat substitutes, he doesn't use them in his cooking. Dessert was a vegan lemon cake with vanilla glace. Thoroughly enjoyed it. To round it all off, we (granddaughters and myself) beat mum and dad in both history and geography quiz. That rarely happens!!
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Thanks Pam. This dish sounds delicious to me!
Congrats on your quiz win. :)
 
It did not rain so more weed pulling. I do not care for crabgrass and have a mild case of weekenderitis.
I inquired at the furniture store on Friday how to go about a problem with our mattress. Very personable and knowledgable young lady on the phone. We followed the instructions and got an email yesterday to please contact them when we are available for the exchange.
SO is barricaded in his office. A short week:>)
 
It snowed about 2 inches overnight, but I'm not shoveling it. It's supposed to be near 50F tomorrow. Let Mother Nature shovel it for me.

The meal service just called and asked if I'd do the route today. I've told them numerous times that I need to know at least the day ahead of time if they need a substitute driver so I can plan on that. These calls giving an hour's notice is just too short a lead time. I don't know if the weather had a part in Monday's driver unable to do it.
 
Well..I've got quite a lot done in a realtively short time today...including showering (which I didn't do first thing this morning).. and changing my bed.... among some other stuff..Then I had another sale on ebay, :love:so I've just been packing that parcel and printing out the label ready for posting tomorrow... PO is still open now, but it;s nearly 3..30pm..and it'll be dark soon, plus the schools have just emptied so the road will be full of traffic...tomorrow morning will do fine..

However I have to buy new ink for my printer , the lord was on my side and let me print out a last prepaid label, but it's telling me there's no more ink...
 
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debodun said:
It snowed about 2 inches overnight, but I'm not shoveling it. It's supposed to be near 50F tomorrow. Let Mother Nature shovel it for me.

The meal service just called and asked if I'd do the route today. I've told them numerous times that I need to know at least the day ahead of time if they need a substitute driver so I can plan on that. These calls giving an hour's notice is just too short a lead time. I don't know if the weather had a part in Monday's driver unable to do it.
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Just be sure it's not going to turn back cold and leave you with a sheet of ice. 😉
 
My back is showing its displeasure over 10 days of long hours on my feet. I rarely have back pain and don't ignore it when it shows up. Therefore baking, elaborate cooking and clean are off today's list.

Instead I'll read some, relax a bit, and spend time inventorying the remaining cookies so I can plan tomorrow & Wednesday's baking. I expect to start shipping cookies on Weds, mailing them to friends and family, near and far. USPS Priority Mail delivers in 2-3 days so they'll arrive at their destinations shortly before Christmas.

I also need to plan shopping and cooking for Christmas Eve dinner for 21, Christmas dinner for 12 and another pizza-cookie party for 35-40 shortly after Christmas.

I so love, love, love this time of year!!!! 🎄🍪 🍕🎉👯‍♂️
 
I've mailed Christmas presents, paid bills, dropped canned goods off at the church pantry, made some soup and had it for lunch, finished watching the last episode of season 3 of "Bones," with its jaw-dropping surprise ending.

Now I'm getting ready to head to work; I have an afternoon admission. (Read that-- work this afternoon and evening and probably some of tomorrow AM; admissions are in a whole other league as far as paperwork! oy vey)

I hope y'all have a great rest-of-Monday! Cheers
 
StarSong said:
I look at the ingredients list and nutrition information. Those tell me what I need to know.
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I do too. There are many people that don’t know how to read them. Once there were three large folks reading the label on a bag of potato chips. “Cholesterol Free” in big font on the front meant healthy to them. They started filling their cart up.
 
Rant ahead.

One of these days (soon I hope!) I will learn not to go anywhere when DGD is coming along. DD will assure me that we're "just" going to do the first, the second and the third thing and won't be out for more than an hour. I fall for it every time. This morning we left at 9:30. Home at 1pm. Oy.

DD and I are supposed to go to Walmart Thursday afternoon after DGD's doc appt. I've got my fingers crossed 🤞 that DGD will be worn out after that and won't come along. We have to go then because we need to get stuff for Christmas dinner and DD/DSIL's paychecks won't be in their account until Thursday morning (it's Christmastime, and they're operating pretty close to the bone in the money department). It'll be the last chance we have before the kids are out of school next week. >le sigh<

So. Next time I post that I'm going somewhere with DD/DGD, please remind me of what it's like to go anywhere when DGD is going, too, and talk me down!

DD and I can go wherever we need to, get done whatever it is that we go out to do, and get home. DGD, on the other hand? 🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️ All that and come home empty-handed. Go figure.

Rant over.
 

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