This may be selfish but you gotta know what you gotta know.

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friar said:
So my avatar is pretty much me and at my age I don't understand why all my wives left me.
Am I that ugly or are other men just better looking?. I truly don't understand why I find myself alone.
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You look like an attractive man. It must be something else.
 

I think for me this has raised some interesting thoughts of things in the past etc and may be worthy of a fresh thread say : " Loves we've had and lost?" - but please continue with this one if needed?
 
Men who fancy themselves modern day Adonis are almost always All up in themselves and don’t know how to interact with a woman when they do find a good one.

You aren’t listening to anything anyone on this forum is saying because nothing is what you want to hear in answer to your self-seeking question. Maybe you could try finding someone who is as egotistical as you.
 
dilettante said:
Women are hypergamous by nature, and they are always on the lookout for "a better deal." This is a big part of why they gush over celebrities, foreign royalty, politicians... and it doesn't have to be about looks as much as money and power and potential aggrandizement by association.

If your looks and assets are as high as you seem to think, then your standards for women are probably higher. Women who consider themselves "high value" have even higher standards than you and they're probably far more fickle and prone to hypergamy.

There is a reason why celebrity marriages and associations tend to be more fragile than others.

Of course you could just be poor relationship material. I can't say.
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Men and women both are hypergamous in nature if there is an opportunity for them to be so. Many wealthy older men dump their old wives for younger, more attractive women. In fact, it is quite rare for wealthy older men to get equally old age women.
And, many women dump their husbands when they find wealthier men.
Etc, etc.
Welcome to the real world.
 
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Men and women both are hypergamous in nature if there is an opportunity for them to do so. Many wealthy older men dump their old wife for younger, more attractive women. In fact, it is quite rare for wealthy men to get a equally old age women.
And, many women dump their husbands when they find wealthier men.
Etc, etc.
Welcome to the real world.
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you including the clergy also??
 
wow a lot of very negative comments to a very simple question. Must be the internet because I am not that rude to people at any time. It's my nature to be nice. as far as history, wife one was cheating with best man even before the wedding. everyone knew but me. wife two had an affair with her boss as did wife three. wife four is leaving me for an internet scammer she thinks after 25 years. so there is a little background and no I don't need my ego boosted but a good dog would be nice. I have no more faith in people whatsoever as the next answers will obviously be hateful . what is it about the web?
 
RadishRose said:
I'm guessing this entire thread is just a put-on. :rolleyes:;)
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friar said:
wow a lot of very negative comments to a very simple question. Must be the internet because I am not that rude to people at any time. It's my nature to be nice. as far as history, wife one was cheating with best man even before the wedding. everyone knew but me. wife two had an affair with her boss as did wife three. wife four is leaving me for an internet scammer she thinks after 25 years. so there is a little background and no I don't need my ego boosted but a good dog would be nice. I have no more faith in people whatsoever as the next answers will obviously be hateful . what is it about the web?
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Maybe you never showed them enough attention
 
Here's what Chat GPT says about this, although it may differ depending on how the question is framed:

A failed marriage can affect future marriage prospects, but it doesn’t necessarily destroy them. The impact depends on several factors—emotional, social, and practical. Here's a breakdown:


✅ Ways It Can Negatively Affect Future Marriage:​


  1. Emotional Baggage
    Unresolved hurt, mistrust, or fear from the past marriage can make it harder to open up or commit again.
  2. Cynicism or Fear of Repeating Mistakes
    Some people become more guarded or skeptical of the institution of marriage itself.
  3. Children or Financial Complications
    Ex-spouses, child custody, or ongoing financial responsibilities (like alimony) can complicate new relationships.
  4. Stigma (in some cultures)
    In certain cultures or communities, being divorced may be viewed negatively, especially for women.
  5. Patterns of Behavior
    If someone hasn’t done the inner work to understand what went wrong in the first marriage, they might repeat the same patterns.


✅ Ways It Can Actually Improve Future Prospects:​


  1. Self-Awareness
    A failed marriage can lead to deep personal growth, helping someone understand what they want and need in a partner.
  2. Clarity on Boundaries and Red Flags
    Many people are more selective and emotionally mature the second time around.
  3. Better Communication Skills
    Experience—especially if therapy was involved—often makes someone a better communicator.
  4. Greater Appreciation
    People who’ve lost a marriage may value a healthy relationship more and not take it for granted.
 
Handsome doesn't make it if you're hogging the blankets at night. And handsome isn't what she sees when you crawl out of bed in the morning. People think they will be exactly the same when they're 18 and 81. That's not true. We all go through physical and emotional changes as we age. Both you and your wives are changing. In the long run, it doesn't matter if she said that or you did this, the relationship is over. It happens. Divorce has been a legal option for at least 6,000 years.
That said, I agree with RadishRose that this is a put on.
 
friar said:
wow a lot of very negative comments to a very simple question. Must be the internet because I am not that rude to people at any time. It's my nature to be nice. as far as history, wife one was cheating with best man even before the wedding. everyone knew but me. wife two had an affair with her boss as did wife three. wife four is leaving me for an internet scammer she thinks after 25 years. so there is a little background and no I don't need my ego boosted but a good dog would be nice. I have no more faith in people whatsoever as the next answers will obviously be hateful . what is it about the web?
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I think you gave the impression of being full of yourself and self satisfied with your appearance to the point of not seeing beyond it.

Maybe. I don't know. Sorry if you're lonely.
 
friar said:
wow a lot of very negative comments to a very simple question. Must be the internet because I am not that rude to people at any time. It's my nature to be nice. as far as history, wife one was cheating with best man even before the wedding. everyone knew but me. wife two had an affair with her boss as did wife three. wife four is leaving me for an internet scammer she thinks after 25 years. so there is a little background and no I don't need my ego boosted but a good dog would be nice. I have no more faith in people whatsoever as the next answers will obviously be hateful . what is it about the web?
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All four wives messing around on you. This explains a bit more. Now the question suggests two possibilities neither one of which paints a good picture:
1)Are you that insufferable that you drive them to it?
OR:
2)Are you attracted to this type?

There may be more questions that frame your question in a more positive light, but that's not where my head went.
 
friar said:
So my avatar is pretty much me and at my age I don't understand why all my wives left me.
Am I that ugly or are other men just better looking?. I truly don't understand why I find myself alone.
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Your wives married you, so they must not have found you hideous looking... You said four altogether? What is the common denominator in all the divorces? You. At the very least, I would take a hard look at myself - if I were you - to see what part I had in a multitude of failed marriages. It isn't all their fault.
friar said:
You folks are funny but really, what is it about me that makes women level up instead of stay? It has to be looks or average equipement . financially I have always been average and demeanor pretty much go along to get along. I am at a loss to understand it all. this time though with my wife of 25 years leaving me I am done. she is taking the dog too. so ya. I am in the market for a new dog. lol . a woman not so much
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"Level up"? How old are you? lol This isn't a game where we all try to keep moving up levels with each spouse change......
So now you have determined it must be your looks or average 'equipment'. :rolleyes: So now we, the readers, are to believe it has to be ugliness or underwhelming equipment?! You just alienated probably most of the women on here by insinuating those are things we would leave a husband for.
friar said:
wow a lot of very negative comments to a very simple question. Must be the internet because I am not that rude to people at any time. It's my nature to be nice. as far as history, wife one was cheating with best man even before the wedding. everyone knew but me. wife two had an affair with her boss as did wife three. wife four is leaving me for an internet scammer she thinks after 25 years. so there is a little background and no I don't need my ego boosted but a good dog would be nice. I have no more faith in people whatsoever as the next answers will obviously be hateful . what is it about the web?
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In short, you have stated that you're either average or unattractive, average equipment, demeanor and easy going. So not one, but FOUR women left you due to the above flaws?!

You want opinions? Go see a shrink to work on what's inside you. That's your problem.
 
Sometimes people just think they need to be married. Society pushes marriage on women. This can lead to very poor long term relationships. If you have married anyone four times you are somewhat a catch…but that doesn’t mean they are good to go for the long run. Go do something you love to do…bike riding..nascar…bingo. Look for women that share your loves and long term interests. Make friends…and you might be pleasantly surprised that love may follow.
 
friar said:
wow a lot of very negative comments to a very simple question. Must be the internet because I am not that rude to people at any time. It's my nature to be nice. as far as history, wife one was cheating with best man even before the wedding. everyone knew but me. wife two had an affair with her boss as did wife three. wife four is leaving me for an internet scammer she thinks after 25 years. so there is a little background and no I don't need my ego boosted but a good dog would be nice. I have no more faith in people whatsoever as the next answers will obviously be hateful . what is it about the web?
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Okay. If what your saying is true and this happens with every wife then my guess would be that your picker is broken.
Im not saying this to be mean but you need therapy to help you figure out why youre only attracted to this kind of woman.
My guess would be that you gravitate toward certain types of women. You need to base any new picks on personality instead of looks.

Looks are not always the main factor when you get to be this age. In fact for me it would be a detriment. Sorry but Ive always found those people to be too much work. :D
 
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