Do You Like Being on your own?

hollydolly

hollydolly

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Do you live on your own, are you happy to live alone or would you prefer to live with someone ?

Many on here live alone, either due to loss of a partner or by choice, but do you enjoy living by yourself?

What about those of us who live with someone, do you spend most of your time with your partner, or do you like to snatch a few hours, days or even perhaps vacations alone.



I'm a person who very much needs her own space, so I'm happy that both of us work, and we don't live in each others' pockets, although we do go out a lot together on days off quite often . That said I'm very happy to have a day or 2 alone when he's away on business, and I'm also delighted to go away on my own for a few days and just clear my head and do my own thing...

There's a vast difference between being alone and Lonely...but what about you folks how do you cope with being alone..?
 

Holly, after my divorce a LONG time ago, I was lonely and relied on some good friends and my little family of one son, DIL and 2 tiny grandsons for company but was alone still, quite a bit. It was terrible.

I did get used to it and even began to love it. Freedom. Company when I chose.

Later still, they all starting moving in on me... first my son after his divorce, then one of his boys just before he turned 14. Son left, boy stayed.

Older boy moved in later on for awhile. The his friend who had no place to go. Eventually older boy moved out and the friend also.

I'm down to the original boy, who now works and I don't see him so much. When he goes camping for a long weekend though, I am dismayed that I feel extremely uncomfortable while he is gone! Oh my, I think I have grown accustomed to having someone here and then when he does finally go out on his own I'll have to get used to it all over again!
 
I love living alone; I’ve always preferred it.

If someone spends a night/weekend with me I’m a good host, but after a day or two I want my space back.

I really dislike staying at someone else’s house – I avoid it and prefer a hotel or even a cheap motel.

I was in a house-sharing situation for awhile about 10 yrs ago and I was miserable. I shudder to even think about it.

One thing I hated was someone asking "where you goin"?, "going out"?, or "where ya been"? or "what are you gonna do today"? :mad:
 

Hi Holly!! I once approached a female dealer in Las Vegas who had no one at her table and innocently said "Hi you look kinda lonely!" She quickly informed me that she was alone but not lonely in a less than friendly voice. I was kinda hurt and played at another station.
 
Holly, my wife and I have been together 38 years. I love having her with me of course, but do relish my alone time. I tend to need less sleep, so my time to be by myself is early in the morning, usually an hour or so before she wakes up. I like my routine of a simple breakfast and my iPad for catching up on the latest news. On those rare occasions when she's had to travel, I like the solitude at times, but also find that I miss her, especially at night. It's interesting because the other day I had to go into Boston to my office (I work from home most of the time) and she told me that she missed having me home, even though we don't see each other much during the work day. We eat lunch together, but then I'm back into my downstairs office. It works out well. She also knows when I need some alone time and will suggest I get out by myself to go take some pictures or run some errands on my own.
 
After my husband of nearly 54 years passed away 5 years ago, I wondered what life would be like on my own. I had never lived alone, as I got married very young, straight out of college. (We did that in those days!) I'm finding it surprisingly satisfying to be on my own, at times a little scary, but mostly very enjoyable. I've downsized to an apartment just the right size for me, and live in a community with tons of activities and a very lively social life. I spend lots of time with friends and family, so I don't really feel all that much "alone."

The biggest surprise to me was finding out how much fun it is to travel on my own, something I had never really done. The part I could do without is having to deal with taxes, etc. every year, something he always took care of.

By and large, I guess life is what we make of it. There are certainly many alternatives to loneliness!
 
I do worry about my wife if I die before her. She relies on me for so much that it's a running joke that I have to create an instruction manual for all the stuff that I take care of. I think she'd be totally lost on her own. I have to make sure there's a support network for her just in case.
 
I love living alone. My job entails a great deal of sharing on an intense emotional level, rewarding but exhausting. I need alone time to reflect, reframe, and relax. Mr. Right Now is a welcome addition to my life, but not on a live in basis, regardless of commonality etc.
 
I've posted before that truthfully I have never lived alone ever.
I lived at home...
College roomates
Married too young...
Had baby one
Single Mom
Met hubby for life
Bunch more kids and pets
Still me, hubby, two kids and bunch of pets
I don't think I'd want to live completely alone, too used to noise, chaos, and sharing the bathroom.
 
It's just me and the cats. I'm not lonely. I do feel isolated a lot of the time. I don't want to live with another human.
 
I AM all but living alone. Medical issues, long-term doubts of fidelity, conflict over each and every issue, no matter how inconsequential, drives me closer and closer to my bottle. Should I withdraw into it, several thousand more years may amass before some other poor female fool rubs it's surface!

I reveal more than I intend, with hopes some having understanding of such travail, might intercede. In simple words, HELP!! imp
 
Happily married for 53 years, I am now perfectly happy to be alone, with my memories and my wife's presence all around me.

Let no-one disturb that, not even family!
 
Bobw235 said:
I do worry about my wife if I die before her. She relies on me for so much that it's a running joke that I have to create an instruction manual for all the stuff that I take care of. I think she'd be totally lost on her own. I have to make sure there's a support network for her just in case.
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Bob, don't put it off, start teaching her something every day. You'll feel much more comfortable knowing that if she's left after you that she can cope!!
 
Sunny , it must have been very difficult after over 50 years with your husband to try out new things alone, it would have been so easy to sit back and think you can't do it..but absolute Kudos to you for making the very most of what life has given you..and I totally agree it can be great fun travelling alone can't it?

I was alone (albeit with little daughter) for 16 years after my divorce and I quickly learned how to deal with everything. Loneliness was a problem sometimes ..family not close, but I learned a lot about how to deal with life and all it's difficulties, thank goodness I did. if my ( 6 years younger) o/h was to go before me I'd be able to cope as long as my health holds out!
 
Shalimar said:
I love living alone. My job entails a great deal of sharing on an intense emotional level, rewarding but exhausting. I need alone time to reflect, reframe, and relax. Mr. Right Now is a welcome addition to my life, but not on a live in basis, regardless of commonality etc.
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Shali that is the absolute ideal scenario. If I was alone again, I wouldn't allow anyone to move in...just have a nice easy as and when relationship..
 
AZ Jim said:
Hi Holly!! I once approached a female dealer in Las Vegas who had no one at her table and innocently said "Hi you look kinda lonely!" She quickly informed me that she was alone but not lonely in a less than friendly voice. I was kinda hurt and played at another station.
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LOL Jim she probably thought you were trying to chat her up... but she could have been more pleasant about it. ''Thank you for thinking of me but I'm really fine on my own'' I'm sure !
 
Bobw235 said:
I do worry about my wife if I die before her. She relies on me for so much that it's a running joke that I have to create an instruction manual for all the stuff that I take care of. I think she'd be totally lost on her own. I have to make sure there's a support network for her just in case.
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1 ditto.gif...We have a large family, but I would be hopelessly alone without my life partner..
 
Rose....I can imagine how you feel about your last child moving out permanently.. Unlike a person with whom you may be in an intimate relationship, an offspring is company, someone who you care about and cares about you but without any other types of baggage..even if they're hardly home, it's a comforting relationship. Isn't it lovely tho' that they know they can always go home to mum if and when they need?
 
applecruncher said:
I love living alone; I’ve always preferred it.

If someone spends a night/weekend with me I’m a good host, but after a day or two I want my space back.

I really dislike staying at someone else’s house – I avoid it and prefer a hotel or even a cheap motel.
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Hellooo twinnie, *ditto* I am exactly the same...I'd rather not having anyone staying here if I can help it, but I'm the perfect hosts like you and enjoy their company but I want them gone after a couple of days...and I definitely do not want to stay in anyone's home if I can afford my own space in a hotel which I almost always can .
 
hollydolly said:
I understand that totally Ken!!
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5 of our 6 children live within 30 miles from us, we live out in the country. They work all week and are with their families during the week-end plus their shopping and cleaning etc..

I would not impose on them unless I was invited.

I would probably enjoy a few friends (retired) and maybe travel to see other friends.
 
Yep I can understand that. Mine live abroad, I only wish they lived here in the UK..but daughter said if I'm left on my own she'll build a cottage next to her house for me to live there close by.... Nice idea but nope I don't want to live wayyyyy up in the Spanish mountains when I'm old, I want to live near facilities and things to do.....
 

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