Cremation or burial.........Your preference ?

IKE

IKE

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Mama and I made our decision on what to do with our remains a few years ago, we both agreed to go with cremation.

She ask that at some point she'd like her ashes to be thrown in the ocean. I told her to just bring my ashes home in a old Mason jar so I could keep an eye on her and her new boyfriend........I swear sometimes that gal has no sense of humor at all. :)

What's everyone's choice, burial or cremation ?
 

We're both going with cremation, nothing special for the ashes, perhaps casting them to the wind in nature.
 
Cremation, beyond any doubt. But, keeping "cremains" around is not always a good idea. My Dad died in '72. I kept his remains with me many years, my Mother passing in '86. Then, two urns were following my various nation-wide moves. Finally, I took a long hard think about it. My Dad had made no request; my Mother asked to have her ashes buried by a Bottlebrush plant. Living in Missouri, my own longevity becoming dubious due to respiratory problems, I decided jointly with my wife to scatter them both in the local private cemetery. Maybe illegal, maybe a disgusting thought to some, maybe OK? I believe them to be resting peacefully. imp
 
Cremation. My wife is sitting in a box on her dresser right now awaiting my arrival.
When I go, the plan is to have our ashes mixed and disposed of together to continue on as a team in whatever form the universe determines.
 
Funeral.
All paid for and even have the clothes selected for me and the happy music I want played.
I have planned a going away party.
 
Undecided , However in the city ( Adelaide ) if you are buried you only have a lease for 25 years after that your grave is reused unless a family member is prepaired to pay fees to extend the lease .
 
Underock1 said:
Cremation. My wife is sitting in a box on her dresser right now awaiting my arrival.
When I go, the plan is to have our ashes mixed and disposed of together to continue on as a team in whatever form the universe determines.
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Good plan! Have you someone sufficiently trustworthy to carry out your wishes? imp
 
Kadee46 said:
Undecided , However in the city ( Adelaide ) if you are buried you only have a lease for 25 years after that your grave is reused unless a family member is prepaired to pay fees to extend the lease .
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Reused? Gosh! I know they "stack" them one atop another in Europe (so they say!), is that how it's done? (shiver!) imp
 
Kadee46, I too am wondering about that "reuse" after 25 years.

I feel like I just wrote this somewhere on this forum a few days ago. Cremation for us and we have never said where we want our ashes. I think our kids are inventive enough to come up with something. As I said a few days ago my brother's wife died about 10 years ago and she requested that part of her ashes would be scattered on the strip. He went to one of the walking overpasses near the NewYorkNewYork and tossed some over. (Yes, he knows it's illegal)

When our son died his son and he had planned a trip to Hawaii as our grandson had been there a few times with his mom and loved it. The director at the mortuary told us human ashes appear a lot like (I forget what it's called but in a scan at the airport it could come up looking like some sort of explosive) so he filled out some official paperwork saying our grandson at some point plans to go ahead and take part of his dad to Hawaii. So there will be no problems on the plane. This was all news to me. A friend of our son's gave us a dwarf lemon tree so we planted that in our front yard and put some of our son's ashes on that. He loved the ocean so our grandson took some ashes to school with him in the bay area so he could leave some ashes in the ocean. I know he and some friends went camping at Santa Cruiz so I'm guessing he left some up there too. Our son was a truck driver for a few years and loved to travel so I put some ashes in tiny jewelry urns so he can travel when ever his siblings go on trips. I also carry one in my purse at all times. Of course the joke is on us as he was extremely interested in outer space and I think he is out there now checking out this water on Mars news and traveling all over the place. Probably Hawaii or the Grand Canyon is old news to him.
 
imp said:
Good plan! Have you someone sufficiently trustworthy to carry out your wishes? imp
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Yes I do. I have one surviving son who knows the plan. He also has complete flexibility as to how he disposes of us.
The place is not important as long as we're together. Its all the same universe.
If he fails its no biggy. Just an idea that appealed to us. If it doesn't happen we're hardly going to get excited about it! :eek:hwell:
 
Linda said:
Kadee46, I too am wondering about that "reuse" after 25 years.

I feel like I just wrote this somewhere on this forum a few days ago. Cremation for us and we have never said where we want our ashes. I think our kids are inventive enough to come up with something. As I said a few days ago my brother's wife died about 10 years ago and she requested that part of her ashes would be scattered on the strip. He went to one of the walking overpasses near the NewYorkNewYork and tossed some over. (Yes, he knows it's illegal)

When our son died his son and he had planned a trip to Hawaii as our grandson had been there a few times with his mom and loved it. The director at the mortuary told us human ashes appear a lot like (I forget what it's called but in a scan at the airport it could come up looking like some sort of explosive) so he filled out some official paperwork saying our grandson at some point plans to go ahead and take part of his dad to Hawaii. So there will be no problems on the plane. This was all news to me. A friend of our son's gave us a dwarf lemon tree so we planted that in our front yard and put some of our son's ashes on that. He loved the ocean so our grandson took some ashes to school with him in the bay area so he could leave some ashes in the ocean. I know he and some friends went camping at Santa Cruiz so I'm guessing he left some up there too. Our son was a truck driver for a few years and loved to travel so I put some ashes in tiny jewelry urns so he can travel when ever his siblings go on trips. I also carry one in my purse at all times. Of course the joke is on us as he was extremely interested in outer space and I think he is out there now checking out this water on Mars news and traveling all over the place. Probably Hawaii or the Grand Canyon is old news to him.
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That's great, Linda. Very creative. When my mother died, her ashes were also divided among us. Ours arrived in the mail in a Tupperware container decorated with flower stickers and "MOM" in big letters. :laugh: We planted her under one of our Roses, with a small stone the size of an egg simply engraved "Mom".
 
I was shocked by newsreels after the war showing the crematoriums in Grmany so burial is in my, hopefully, very distant future...
 
Ralphy1 said:
I was shocked by newsreels after the war showing the crematoriums in Grmany so burial is in my,
hopefully, very distant future...
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So pictures of the ovens were more shocking to you then the mountains of un-buried corpses? Not questioning your decision or reasoning. Just curious.
 
Of course the soldier bulldozing bodies into a pit was equally disturbing, but that, thankfully, won't be my fate. I can avoid the crematorium...
 
Cremation for both of us...Found out a couple of years ago (when my brother passed) that the cremains can be buried with him and our parents..There is room for up to 5 more cremains but they must only be blood relatives such as our sons/daughters.
 
Ralphy1 said:
Of course the soldier bulldozing bodies into a pit was equally disturbing, but that, thankfully, won't be my fate. I can avoid the crematorium...
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Thanks for the reply, Ralphy, and for not taking my question the wrong way. I am always curious as to how we all look at the same circumstances and see different things.

My own reason for choosing cremation is the idea of disappearing without a trace.
Don't want a site that those left behind feel guilty about not visiting, and will someday be vandalized or dug up for a parking lot.The physical treatment of the body after death is irrelevant to me. When you're dead, you're dead. The remaining flesh and bone are no different than the finger nail and hair clippings that we throw away every day.,,but that's just my opinion.
 
Agree, Underock. I want to be cremated. Do not equate the horrendous Nazi crematoriums as being anywhere the same. A choice for after death vs body disposal methods, after mass gassings. Sad how the terrible newsreel atrocities of WWII remain in our minds after all these years.
 
I scattered most of my husband's ashes at his favorite fishing spot....it was part of his memorial service. My daughter took her portion and put them in a hole that she planted a tree in. She says when she wants to mull over something, she goes out and "talks to the tree". I have the remaining ashes in a fish-shaped bottle as a keepsake. I also have my dad's and my grandmother's ashes in nice containers that I have held onto. One of these days, when I am ready, I will finish scattering them in the right places.
 
ndynt said:
Agree, Underock. I want to be cremated. Do not equate the horrendous Nazi crematoriums as being anywhere the same. A choice for after death vs body disposal methods, after mass gassings. Sad how the terrible newsreel atrocities of WWII remain in our minds after all these years.
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Its easy when you have a TV channel almost entirely devoted to documentaries of Hitler and the Nazis. I see commercials for Auschwitz episodes a dozen times a day. On the plus side, it gives you hope to compare the Germany of that time to the Germany that is at the forefront of welcoming the fleeing immigrants today.
 

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