Showing off

[Ameriscot]

If people translate your excitement over something you just got as showing off, then they have the problem, not you.

 

[Shalimar]

I think the situation can matter also. If I had a new red Corvette, I would not parade it around a person struggling on Disability.

 

[Cookie]

I agree Shali, its about context and consideration. Also some people's self-worth and value system is tied to material possessions, so they get a big kick out of displaying what they have. Others who are less materialistic may not care and find it gauche. Also it could be a cultural thing. Some people in certain cultures are are more modest.

 

[Laurie]

"Visiting USA for 5 weeks"

I wondered where you were.

Have a nice time!

(Oops, I forgot. You don't like quotes!)

 

[oldman]

So if you get something really nice... you shouldn't show it to anyone.. but wait for them to notice... because it's showing off.. to show it..

I think in most cases, you have hit the nail on the head. I think most of us have some really nice things that others may or may not have and may or may not be able to afford. So, like Shirley, if I have something nice and someone notices it and comments on it, I don't make a big deal out of it. I thank them for noticing and move on. After all, I didn't buy it to impress anyone. I bought it to satisfy my own desires or wants.

This reminds me of the old joke where a woman goes out and buys a very expensive dress to impress her friends. They tell her how wonderful she looks in that beautiful dress and she says, "What, this old thing?"

 

[Jackie22]

Nobody should be ashamed of having nice things. No need to be obnoxious about nice things, but you're entitled to be proud of them. Just be sure to pick and choose who you show-and-tell to; some friends/relatives will be happy for you; some will be jealous and it will ruin their day.

I agree, jujube.

 

[venus]

Depends on how and whom you show it to. I don't see any need to show off, we buy products because we like them others may have different tastes.

 

[SeaBreeze]

If people translate your excitement over something you just got as showing off, then they have the problem, not you.

You hit the nail on the head Ameriscot! :iagree: When I was working and bought a new car, I'd definitely be excited about it and tell my coworkers, who would come outside with me during lunch to check it out or go for a ride. When others have something new to show off, I'm very interested to see it, and share in their excitement. How many ladies here have shown off their engagement rings or something else to their friends and co-workers? I bet a lot of us!

Nothing wrong with having nice things, we're not children, it's not like 'na na na na na...I got somethin' that you don't have'. Like Jujube said, you don't have to be obnoxious to be proud of something you have.

 

[Falcon]

I go into the city park and open my trench coat really wide. Is that considered 'showing off', or is that something else?

 

[Shirley]

I go into the city park and open my trench coat really wide. Is that considered 'showing off', or is that something else?

is that something else?....................................It's showing the squirrels where the nuts are. :lofl:

 

[Falcon]

:lol1:

 

[ndynt]

Linda, I'm the same way. :shrug:

Me three, Linda.

 

[Cookie]

is that something else?....................................It's showing the squirrels where the nuts are. :lofl:

OK, or is it more like showing the squirrels and everyone else WHO the nut is.

 

[Sunny]

Well, that exchange is a hard act to follow, but getting back to the original question, I agree with the statement someone made that there is a big difference between sharing and gloating. The difference is all in the attitude.

 

[Manatee]

We recently bought a new to us convertible. My wife took a picture of me in it with the top down and Tampa Bay in the background. She sent it to our friends in Arizona where we used to live. It tells them we are enjoying life since we moved back to Florida.

 

[Ruthanne]

You hit the nail on the head Ameriscot! :iagree: When I was working and bought a new car, I'd definitely be excited about it and tell my coworkers, who would come outside with me during lunch to check it out or go for a ride. When others have something new to show off, I'm very interested to see it, and share in their excitement. How many ladies here have shown off their engagement rings or something else to their friends and co-workers? I bet a lot of us!

Nothing wrong with having nice things, we're not children, it's not like 'na na na na na...I got somethin' that you don't have'. Like Jujube said, you don't have to be obnoxious to be proud of something you have.

I agree totally!!

 

[chic]

Depends on how and whom you show it to. I don't see any need to show off, we buy products because we like them others may have different tastes.

I agree with this. When I got a new car years ago, I didn't say a word but neighbors noticed and came to me about it to compliment it. I'd tell family because they ARE family, but wouldn't show off to strangers in general.