Do Your Kids Scold You?

StarSong said:
LOL Given that my children frequently let loose with the F-bomb, they don't flinch when I use it.

My language took a serious turn for the worse when I went into the apparel industry. F-bombs were everywhere, and I'm talking the mid-1970s! It's far from a genteel industry.
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As far as I know, my youngest daughter never lets loose with the f bomb, well maybe with friends (I hope not). My older daughter and I, never. It's a foul word imo.
 

No, my children have never scolded me. I still scold them, lovingly, but mostly in the form of advice, such as reminding my older daughter, who is pregnant, to be sure to take enough calcium-containing foods or supplements, and anxiously reminding my younger daughter to not work too hard. I have a hard time shutting off my "mom" function.
 
StarSong said:
LOL Given that my children frequently let loose with the F-bomb, they don't flinch when I use it.

My language took a serious turn for the worse when I went into the apparel industry. F-bombs were everywhere, and I'm talking the mid-1970s! It's far from a genteel industry.
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you see that's the thing, on the very odd occasion when I use the F-Bomb, straight away my DD will say ''Mother that unnecessary''..... it's very annoying tbh, because I only ever use that word in front of her when I'm furious about something that's happened...

In the recent past due to all that went down because of my long drawn out divorce... I said to her I can't believe that X did that.. it was horrendous.. and used the F word just once.. so when she ticked me off..I told her immediately to stop.. that I'm my own person if I feel it's necessary for me to use a particular word I'll use it. I was using it long before she was born.

I think some of my DD's problems is she's never had children.. she's certainly been in relationships, but no kids to soften the edges.. always a career girl... had her own businesses in some cases and employing staff.. and she gets bossier as every year passes.
 
My son does lose it a bit when he is trying to explain to me the workings of my computer. I told him to be a bit patient as I was the one who taught him to walk and talk. He doesn't get too mad at me, but I said I was raised in a time when we had to do all our maths mentally. Pounds, shillings and pence had to be added mentally in our heads. I'd like to see the young ones today trying to add up without their little adding machines.
 
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MACKTEXAS said:
Oh, I think you wrote it fine. It's just I have no adult child who tries to tell me what to do. But, your question reminded me of how I had to take charge in my own mother's situation. And even then, it only worked for awhile before she required more care than I was able to provide.
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My Power of Attorney and Medical Guardianship papers are in place for my daughter to use when she needs to take over from me. In the meanwhile she is my dutiful daughter, helping me, and at the same time I am helping her. She doesn't scold but she offers advice based on her experiences as a nurse.

I am grateful to have her with me and am in awe of her capacity to deal with bureaucracy. I, on the other hand, am helping her out with finances and performing time consuming tasks of washing clothes, shopping and cooking. She takes care of the outside chores.

Neither of us judges the other.
 
Warrigal said:
My Power of Attorney and Medical Guardianship papers are in place for my daughter to use when she needs to take over from me. In the meanwhile she is my dutiful daughter, helping me, and at the same time I am helping her. She doesn't scold but she offers advice based on her experiences as a nurse.

I am grateful to have her with me and am in awe of her capacity to deal with bureaucracy. I, on the other hand, am helping her out with finances and performing time consuming tasks of washing clothes, shopping and cooking. She takes care of the outside chores.

Neither of us judges the other.
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It's wise to have those papers. My mother had them, and I needed them to effectively help her. I also have a medical directive, etc, - and copies on file at my doctor's office, and my cousin has a set, since he's named as Medical POA. He's a responsible person, and would do what needed doing, even though we're not close; I make do with what I've got.

Like you, I have a daughter, but we don't have a working relationship. I'm not even sure where she is at this time. But even if I did, she is the last person I would want helping me.

I'm glad for your sake that things are better with your daughter. You never know when you may need her.
 
If any of my kids have ever felt the urge to scold me, I don’t know about it because it’s never happened! 🤣

I in turn don’t scold them. I will offer advice, but they all know that I’ll be supportive no matter what my personal opinion might be. I think that’s why they will all seek my advice, because even if they don’t take it there is no offense taken and I will continue to be supportive.
 
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oscash said:
My son does lose it a bit when he is trying to explain to me the workings of my computer. I told him to be a bit patient as I was the one who taught him to walk and talk.
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A dear friend has everything Apple. Watches, phones, TV, computers, you name it. As do her kids, who live fairly close by.

When needing help, she goes to an Apple store rather than asking her children, despite them being well-versed in all things Apple.

I asked her why she goes to an Apple store instead of asking her kids. Her response, "Apple store employees never roll their eyes at me while fixing my devices or explaining how to use them."
 
This thread reminds me of a happy memory.

When I was a teenager I was putting new shingles on our house, old two story farm house. Our neighbor Big John comes over and climbs all the way up the ladder to talk to me while I'm up on the roof, he was in his sixties at that point and certainly slowing down. Then his daughter happened to drive by and stops the car in the road and her and Big John's young grand daughter hop out of the car and start yelling at Big John to "get on down off that ladder", I still remember his grand daughter yelling "grandpa no, you're too high up there!". Of course Big John just keeps telling them to "hush up" he's fine.

I loved that old guy, it's funny the memories that stick with you forever.
 
Once, I presumptuously began a rant to my son about I never wanted him to start smoking. I was going to say that I wish he would quit. Before I got the 2nd sentence out of my mouth, he said, Mom. That one word and the tone silenced me forever on the subject. I must have perceived that if I pressed on, his scolding would not be pretty. I don't think he would have wanted that to happen either.

My rant was unexpected and unintentional but, for so many years, I'd been having sorrow that he ever began to smoke. I understand something about why, as a late teen, he started the habit but since I never did, I feel especially sad about him being addicted to tobacco. I'm glad though that he silenced me. BTW, it was not that long ago when this happened. I think he was in his 40s. 😔
 
I had never scolded my parents but, later in life I should have. Mainly because of the verbal abuse. However, one day I had reached my limit with my father and I did scold him and told him when he was ready to be nice he could let me know.

Needless to say that p*ssed him off for quite a while but his verbal abuse made me so mad I've only said two words to him in 8 months. There's only so much a person can take before they lash out. I should've said something years ago but I just took it.

I thought since they were my parents it was just something I had to put up with but I was wrong. Frankly I'll be fine if he never speaks to me again. I'd rather say something than just let it happen anymore. Almost 60 yrs of that crap. I'd had enough. I never thought I'd see the day I'd scold one of my parents for their behavior.
 
DailyArtsyCrafter said:
Once, I presumptuously began a rant to my son about I never wanted him to start smoking. I was going to say that I wish he would quit. Before I got the 2nd sentence out of my mouth, he said, Mom. That one word and the tone silenced me forever on the subject. I must have perceived that if I pressed on, his scolding would not be pretty. I don't think he would have wanted that to happen either.

My rant was unexpected and unintentional but, for so many years, I'd been having sorrow that he ever began to smoke. I understand something about why, as a late teen, he started the habit but since I never did, I feel especially sad about him being addicted to tobacco. I'm glad though that he silenced me. BTW, it was not that long ago when this happened. I think he was in his 40s. 😔
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My son had approached me a couple times to make his thoughts of worry/disapproval known but I noticed his body language when he began. I stopped him and asked "Am I listening to my son or the Cop Son? When my son returns discuss it then". He had to laugh and realized he was in Police mode.
 

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