Which would you rather have, love or money?

Sunny said:
But are you equating "little money" with "no money?" That's what the question does.

If it was little money and real love, I'd probably go with that. But no money means starving,being homeless or living in unspeakable conditions, probably no medical care, etc. Really? For anyone other than maybe a 15-year-old girl, I can't imagine anyone seriously opting for that.

Of course, that doesn't mean that love doesn't count, and if someone rich proposes to you, marry them anyway, even if you can't stand them. Real life is a lot more complicated than that. Human decisions aren't a simple matter of 1 or 0, unless you are an A-I entity.
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I wouldn't leave someone if we became poor, but I wouldn't move to India to starve and live in a hut with a starving Indian for love either.
 

I think if the original question were reframed to say "little money" and leave the "no money" part out of it, then it becomes a realistic situation that can be imagined and discussed. "No money" is an entirely different ball game.

If someone is living in a situation where there is literally no money, and no hope of ever climbing out of that situation, it doesn't seem to me that romantic "true love" would be the first thing on my mind.
 
If the question is rephrased as little or modest money, maybe you would choose that? No money doesn't always mean destitute. Problem is that no one would love or marry me if I had nothing, or nearly. Now I have enough money for my modest life and unrequited love and crush which is sad and impossible. It is so easy to "love " another but hard to get someone to love you. Or if you don't find love, love finds you!
 

Marv Malone said:
If the question is rephrased as little or modest money, maybe you would choose that? No money doesn't always mean destitute. Problem is that no one would love or marry me if I had nothing, or nearly. Now I have enough money for my modest life and unrequited love and crush which is sad and impossible. It is so easy to "love " another but hard to get someone to love you. Or if you don't find love, love finds you!
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In the time that I still wanted a partner and was quite desperate and talking about it on a singles forum, these guys were like: no if they met someone it all had to go veeeeeeeery slow.

I had no time for that nonsense. I went to the pet store, paid 25 bucks and bought a rabbit. Give him a bag of hay and he's happy. He never whines that I have to clean better. He used to attack me when I cleaned cause it was his mess.
 
I think that between love and money the question can be better answered with a few clarifications. If two are working together then they can overcome the adversities. If they are not, than money becomes the issue because they are not working together. It get's back to the bible that I know. Mark 10:8, Mathew 19:5.
The two shall become one.

You either are....or you are not................one.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 says “And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Two together can overcome anything put before them. Are the two together?

Just my thoughts.
bob
 
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When you're with the right person, and in love, money isn't that important. I always remember this story:

A wealthy businessman is visiting a small coastal village. He sees a fisherman bringing in a few excellent fish from his small boat.
Curious, the businessman asks: “How long did it take you to catch those?”
The fisherman replies: “Only a little while.”
“Why don’t you stay out longer and catch more?”
The fisherman answers: “I have enough to feed my family and enjoy my day.”
The businessman, thinking like a businessman, proposes this plan:
Fish longer → earn more money
Buy a bigger boat
Hire more fishermen
Build a fleet
Open a processing plant
Become rich
Eventually retire to a quiet coastal village… where he could relax, fish a little, spend time with family, and enjoy life.
 
Too narrowly posed thread. Greatly depends on where one is per Maslov's Hierchy of Needs. This m-f 8-5 working person was frugally at Level 5 most of my adult life. Many adults are constantly dealing with and struggling at lower levels. Some people are never satisfied at any levels of wealth while others like this person find significant value and happiness with far less.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs - Wikipedia

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That Lady in PA said:
It would be horrible to have money and be pining over someone for the rest of your days.

One-sided affection often leads to longing, heartbreak, and emotional distress, and that is no way to live.... even if you have money.

So, yeah, that would NOT be my choice.
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I'm pining over someone anyway so I might as well have money!! Unrequited love is awful and for the rest of my days?? Money---for the shelters, street people, and if enough building and repairing the condition animals have been trapped in by humans.

Money for me, too! I want a hot shower!!
 
David777 said:
Too narrowly posed thread. Greatly depends on where one is per Maslov's Hierchy of Needs. This m-f 8-5 working person was frugally at Level 5 most of my adult life. Many adults are constantly dealing with and struggling at lower levels. Some people are never satisfied at any levels of wealth while others like this person find significant value and happiness with far less.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs - Wikipedia

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Understand this completely. Studied it years ago. Perfect sense on an individual level.
The question however was basically about love or money.
Ironically the question really is at the top in the self actualization area.

If You have time to answer? Then you are well fed, secure. Have self respect, confidence. Even have time to respond to the question.

Hungry, tired, no place to sleep?............you wouldn't be answering this post.

So we get back to the original question which is only valid at the top level.

The two shall become one. To clarify. At my age I have seen what losing a long time spouse can mean. Like someone ripped your arm out. You are no longer whole. You are missing your love one and you are missing yourself. I doubt that you will understand so I will stop.
Love or money?? If you have real love then no question. If you don't, than go for the money.

just my opinion
 
Beezer said:
I think most women would rather cry in a Lamborghini, than cry in a Chevy Chevette.
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but nobody is saying they want to be poor or have no money

if it were a polarised choice, as posed in thread - all the lamborghini's in the world vs keeping my husband and family - no amount of lamborghini's would come even remotely close to winning
 
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