Would you want to see your First Love again?

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There are some people who meet (usually in high school), fall in love with, and marry their first love – and they’re still married. (sigh…I’m lookin’ at YOU, Mrs. Robinson :wink: ) :)

But, for many, it was not meant to be.

I met my first love when I was 14, and the fire burned until we broke up for the last time when I was 18. Took me a long time to get over him.

Would I want to see her/him again? Let's say the person got in touch with you and said s/he was going to be in town for a few days, and wanted to meet for coffee, etc. My answer would be 'No'. (I did hear that he’s stayed married to the same woman for over 40 yrs.)

How about you?
 

It actually happened to me. Through a fluke she found me. We went out for coffee and hashed out old times and friends.

She was in a very bad marriage (with kids) and wanted to keep things going with me, but I was getting married in a couple of weeks.

I felt so sorry for her but couldn't help her. Poor thing; never saw her again. I can only hope that things worked out well for her.
 
I had this experience...perhaps 20 years ago, at our 30th High School reunion. We dated for a couple of years, then I joined the USAF, and went to Germany...with the idea of getting married and taking her with me. Those plans kind of fell apart over the first few months in the military, and we parted amiably. At the reunion, we had a nice conversation, and she seemed to be happy, as was I. So, I guess it worked out OK for both of us.
 
I see him a few times a year. He's my best male friend, like the brother I never had. We didn't make a great couple (we "went steady" our junior year in high school) but we made darned good friends; there will always be a little corner of my heart that's his. If I saw my second love, I'd probably spit on him. The third and fourth ones are dead, as is the fifth (my late husband).
 
I still see my first love from time to time. In fact, we will be visiting Butchart Gardens again this summer. All very above board since he is married. Sadly, she is in the end stage of dementia. Only diagnosed eighteen months ago, the illness has run

rampant--virtually unheard of in a fifty four year old woman. He and I meet once every few years--the rapport is as effortless
as when we were in our teens. I value his friendship immensely.
 
First Love, First Wife

Divorced 40 years ago, kept in touch occasionally, stopped to see her once, she remained in Vegas all these years, called two years ago, I happened to be in town, got the cold shoulder, reason unknown. imp
 
My first love was a crush who kept me sane through those hideous junior high years. Oy that I was pitifully shy, acne, no sisters or girlfriends to teach me how to be cool, then bookish on top of that. I applauded at the end of "Carrie", it was that bad. But here was this one boy. I was too shy to speak to him...but it was love all the same. He moved just before high school and I never saw him again...until FaceBook. I was trying to crowd fund for my dog and I ventured into social media...Meh, nah I'm good without it.

But I found him again. It was wild. After like 40 years here's this handsome man smiling at you from the screen. Unusual name and the face...it was definitely him. The pictures couldn't have been recent unless he was embalmed. He looks maybe forty at most so who knows when they were posted. No recent chatter or anything, just pictures. I left a message thanking him for being there for me. He knew I was crushing on him and didn't mock me for it at all G-d bless.

In the pics he's looks like Dave Grohl. Unless he's wrinkled, fat and bald now, I'd rather just to back to FB once in awhile and remember him back in the day. If he was wrinkled, fat and bald now I might not recognize him anyways;) But yeah it would be fun to thank him in person.
 
No, not the first, second, third, fourth, etc. etc., let's keep them in the past where they belong with good memories and bad. A few died at a young age, a few are in the process of dying now.
 
My first true love was my first wife and I was hers.

She's also long remarried and lives in southern Texas, we hadn't seen or contacted each other for many, many years till 1996 when we met at a function for our son that we had together.

When we met in 1996 we talked through things and determined that we still had feelings for each other..........we haven't seen each other since 1996 but remain close today via telephone conversations three or four times a year.

I feel very fortunate in that I have been loved by two extremely wonderful women in my lifetime.
 
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jujube said:
I see him a few times a year. He's my best male friend, like the brother I never had. We didn't make a great couple (we "went steady" our junior year in high school) but we made darned good friends; there will always be a little corner of my heart that's his. If I saw my second love, I'd probably spit on him. The third and fourth ones are dead, as is the fifth (my late husband).
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At least in that respect you "been around the block" as many times as I, though my stints were of a different nature,........imp
 
Cookie said:
No, not the first, second, third, fourth, etc. etc., let's keep them in the past where they belong with good memories and bad. A few died at a young age, a few are in the process of dying now.
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Ha! I thought that's what all of us living are in the process of doing! :D

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No ...I last seen him in 1968 ..( I was married then had two children) to my knowledge he never married ..he devoted his life to serving in the Salvation Army
We were engaged but my parents wouldn't let us marry as they didn't want to loose their baby sitter for my 7 younger siblings
and he wasn't the type to disobey parents .

The only way I got away from the responsibility of being a baby sitter was to run away with the no hoper I married
 
Yes yes! But I tried on the Internet for years and never found the address or phone.
Wrong number right name. I have given up all hope because I waited too long.
I was too immature then and did not not know it.
 
applecruncher said:
There are some people who meet (usually in high school), fall in love with, and marry their first love – and they’re still married. (sigh…I’m lookin’ at YOU, Mrs. Robinson :wink: ) :)
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Haha-there was actually one before him. Bob. A friend of mine actually ended up marrying him but they divorced after one daughter a few years later. His ex and I are FB friends and have never,ever discussed him once. Don`t even know if he`s dead or alive and don`t really care. Not that I wish him bad things,I just would never have any desire to see him. He graduated with hubby-maybe that`s why hubby doesn`t really care to go to reunions lol.....
 
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