Hardly any philosopher, nor student of the "mind", I still marvel at the degree of enchantment folks seem to gain by making others look inferior, in lots of ways, to themselves.
Suggests an imp imponderable. My wife just returned from 2 weeks in Indiana, where her kid sister revealed more about her pending divorce. Their oldest child is 33, her sister being married almost as long as we are. Betsy spoke of her husband's infidelity having gone on for years now. Came to ba head when HE sought divorce. Seems Vince, 58, has taken up with a 28 year-old lady whom he met while they were Town Board members. She, divorced, has at least one child, is evidently a very "mod" and "today", politically totally correct, complete with a shaved head covered with sexy tattoos! Stuff mens' dreams are made of, I guess.
Vince and Betsy have 3 kids, the boy is 33 and single, and the girls are 28 and 31, both quite well-adjusted family-wise. They despise their Dad for his actions. The son had his first ever Son-Father real discussion, not a happy one at all.
Vince grew up poor, many siblings, worked consistently throughout the marriage, but acted always as though "inflated", the need to "show out", as the Hoosiers call "showing-off". He was driven by ego. Betsy was initially emotionally devastated, gradually became accepting of the fact that she allowed circumstances to remain intact for far too long. She would now like to get the deal done. Resolution will not be quick, nor easy. There are several communally-owned paid-off properties which must be disposed of.
We are viewing their situation from afar, wishing a way to help out were present, but there is none. The story is much more involved than I explain it, but why would strangers care? Looking back over the years, we both privately viewed Vince as a worm, at best, A. H. at worst. We likely will never see him again, though he was "family" over thirty years.
So, I reflect upon the thought that, usually, Ego drives young folks, from very early on, rarely does one "come on" as obviously self-respecting, observant of events, but not driven by need to "look better" than his/her peers. Such rarities are readinly distinguishable: I married such a person, TWICE, actually! But two different girls. It seems, Ego drives the elderly, for lack of a better term, much less intensely than the young. Am I wrong?
Don't bruise my Ego!
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Suggests an imp imponderable. My wife just returned from 2 weeks in Indiana, where her kid sister revealed more about her pending divorce. Their oldest child is 33, her sister being married almost as long as we are. Betsy spoke of her husband's infidelity having gone on for years now. Came to ba head when HE sought divorce. Seems Vince, 58, has taken up with a 28 year-old lady whom he met while they were Town Board members. She, divorced, has at least one child, is evidently a very "mod" and "today", politically totally correct, complete with a shaved head covered with sexy tattoos! Stuff mens' dreams are made of, I guess.
Vince and Betsy have 3 kids, the boy is 33 and single, and the girls are 28 and 31, both quite well-adjusted family-wise. They despise their Dad for his actions. The son had his first ever Son-Father real discussion, not a happy one at all.
Vince grew up poor, many siblings, worked consistently throughout the marriage, but acted always as though "inflated", the need to "show out", as the Hoosiers call "showing-off". He was driven by ego. Betsy was initially emotionally devastated, gradually became accepting of the fact that she allowed circumstances to remain intact for far too long. She would now like to get the deal done. Resolution will not be quick, nor easy. There are several communally-owned paid-off properties which must be disposed of.
We are viewing their situation from afar, wishing a way to help out were present, but there is none. The story is much more involved than I explain it, but why would strangers care? Looking back over the years, we both privately viewed Vince as a worm, at best, A. H. at worst. We likely will never see him again, though he was "family" over thirty years.
So, I reflect upon the thought that, usually, Ego drives young folks, from very early on, rarely does one "come on" as obviously self-respecting, observant of events, but not driven by need to "look better" than his/her peers. Such rarities are readinly distinguishable: I married such a person, TWICE, actually! But two different girls. It seems, Ego drives the elderly, for lack of a better term, much less intensely than the young. Am I wrong?
Don't bruise my Ego!
imp
