What is your definition of 'love'?

I think 'love' is a very overused word, imo. I use it very sparingly indeed, and could never love anyone unconditionally, not even my children.
 

Ken N Tx said:
My wife and I have been in love for 58 years now..I hope that I will go first..
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Ken, You have a rare thing. I'm sure you know it. Cherish every minute. I lost my love last March after 58 years. I was glad that I was able to be there for her. It hurts like Hell, but it was worth the price. There is no happy ending.
 

jujube said:
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 :

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
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The best passage in the Bible and the only one worth keeping.
 
Sassycakes said:
I met my husband when I was 15 yrs old and in high school. It was love at first sight for both of us. I broke off with my boyfriend that day and my husband broke up with his girlfriend. We are approaching our 50th wedding anniversary this May.Our feelings for one another has never changed. We have 2 children and 3 grandchildren that we love with all our Hearts. I wouldn't want to spend one second on this earth without any of my Hearts.:love_heart:
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You are part of a rare group of people who find their life partner at an early age. It pays huge dividends. Enjoy every minute.
 
Bluecheese50 said:
My husband and I have managed 46 years so far, and haven't murdered each other yet, so that is an achievement I guess!:D
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That counts as love in the real world. When I retired, I used to joke about whether my wife and I would end up killing each other with sex or with steak knives. Sex came close, but in the end we left each other with gentle touches and loving looks.
 
Underock1 said:
You are part of a rare group of people who find their life partner at an early age. It pays huge dividends. Enjoy every minute.
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I was 15 when I met my husband and he was nearly 18, that was 51 years ago. We married four years later and have stuck it out ever since. We aren't romantic which is YUCKY, but I guess we see something in each other, even if I am not exactly sure what.
 
Bluecheese50 said:
I think 'love' is a very overused word, imo. I use it very sparingly indeed, and could never love anyone unconditionally, not even my children.
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So are you saying that if your child does something bad or something you don't approve of you'd no longer love them? You've put 'conditions' on loving them?
 
Ameriscot said:
So are you saying that if your child does something bad or something you don't approve of you'd no longer love them? You've put 'conditions' on loving them?
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It depends what they did of course, but if it was something terrible I couldn't love them.
 
Underock1 said:
Ken, You have a rare thing. I'm sure you know it. Cherish every minute. I lost my love last March after 58 years. I was glad that I was able to be there for her. It hurts like Hell, but it was worth the price. There is no happy ending.
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Underock1 said:
You are part of a rare group of people who find their life partner at an early age. It pays huge dividends. Enjoy every minute.
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Not as rare as you state..There are 2 couples on our road that are close to 50 years..Another enjoying 38..
 
Therapist or not, the idea that a mother would stop loving their child for any reason appalled me. I have seen some terrible things, if my child had ever committed those atrocities, I would be horrified, angry, terrified etc. I would not like who they were, but I would always love them. I had a mother who used conditional "love" as a whip. That is not genuine love, but emptional blackmail IMHO.
 
Shalimar said:
Therapist or not, the idea that a mother would stop loving their child for any reason appalled me. I have seen some terrible things, if my child had ever committed those atrocities, I would be horrified, angry, terrified etc. I would not like who they were, but I would always love them. I had a mother who used conditional "love" as a whip. That is not genuine love, but emptional blackmail IMHO.
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If one of my children turned out to be a paedophile, for instance, not only would I turn them into the police, I would disown them completely. I could never love evil scum like that!:mad: Fortunately for me my kids are good people and I am very fond of them.
 
A mother's love knows no boundaries in some case. An infamous murderer killed a mother and her two children here when he was only sixteen. His mother continued to visit him while he was in prison here before he was sent to Florida to spend his time. Don't know if she still visits him down there...
 
Philly, my narcissistic mother disowned me on a regular basis over pique,well into my forties, until I finally told her if she did it again, I would not be back. Not all women are maternal or capable of that type of nurturing. Lack of strong parental love damages children for life.
 
Shalimar said:
Philly, my narcissistic mother disowned me on a regular basis over pique,well into my forties, until I finally told her if she did it again, I would not be back. Not all women are maternal or capable of that type of nurturing. Lack of strong parental love damages children for life.
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I guess I've been spared such experiences. I tend to extend the rules of nature into the human arena, and am often surprised that they don't always apply.
 
I couldn't imagine my life if I thought my Mum didn't love me.

As far as my children go.....I could be disappointed in them, ashamed of them, devastated by their actions but I can't believe I could ever not love them.
 
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