Finding True Love in older ages

SifuPhil said:
Understood.

Not having had any "dates" nor even relationships for many years (hence my self-proclaimed "monkhood :D) I'm out of the loop. Plus, I'm a guy, so I have a bit of difficulty empathizing with the feminine point of view - it must be scary these days on those sites.



Probably a good idea - the in-person approach has worked for centuries, and you can get a better idea of someone up close and personal.



I've never trusted anyone who is cruel to animals of any kind.



Hmph ... they should do a study on those guys, but then they would probably never admit to their true motivations.
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I think I am going to stop with the dating site. I think the worst guys are there. It is better to meet in person with someone.
 
fureverywhere said:
For me books are my great passion. If I wanted to meet a gentleman of a certain age, I would frequent the coffee area in the local Barnes and Noble. After a while you know the frequent flyers who are just there to type the next great novel. But perhaps someone who just shows up weekly to read. Especially if they shop like me, browse twenty and buy three. Chat them up about books...Key questions Are you unattached? Do you like companion creatures? How about meeting me here next week sailor?
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I don't know where a Barnes and Noble is in this area. We do have some coffee shops, though and they used to have poetry reading and it made for a good place to meet someone but now..The coffee shops are like fast food places where people have their coffee and leave or are with a bunch of people. I'm not bold enough to go up to some of these guys. I guess my self esteem is still suffering.

SifuPhil said:
Ah, yes, but we are soulful creatures who are quite loving and kind and passionate and WILL DESTROY ALL THE NON-BELIVERS WHEN MY NOVEL IS FINALLY PUBLISHED !!!

... ahem ...
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SifuPhil said:
Cats, canines and coffee-table books - yep, works for me too.

Now if only I can get rid of this flea infestation in my ponytail ... *itch, itch, itch*
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jujube said:
You can find love again. It ain't easy and it frequently ain't pretty and quite often you'll want to give up, but YOU.CAN.DO it. Just be prepared to kiss a lot of frogs. You might want to put a little Chapstick on first, though.
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I'm getting sick of looking for a guy, really sick of it. My step sister has sworn off men and I am thinking of doing the same thing. I have kissed many frogs and they stayed frogs and I guess I'm just tired of it all. I am getting too old for this.
 
RuthJD said:
I'm getting sick of looking for a guy, really sick of it. My step sister has sworn off men and I am thinking of doing the same thing. I have kissed many frogs and they stayed frogs and I guess I'm just tired of it all. I am getting too old for this.
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well you don't have to swear off men. There are nice guys out there. I wouldn't do any dating websites if I was single. I'd join an in person singles group for older people. I will say I personally know people who met and married from online so who knows..lol
 
Karen99 said:
well you don't have to swear off men. There are nice guys out there. I wouldn't do any dating websites if I was single. I'd join an in person singles group for older people. I will say I personally know people who met and married from online so who knows..lol
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The dating sites really haven't worked for me. That's a good idea for an in person singles group. There used to be one in my area some years back. They used to advertise in the local paper. I will have to get a local paper and see if they still exist. Thanks for your feedback.
 
I tried dating sites...two of them. I met three men who were interested in marriage for the purpose of obtaining citizenship! THREE!! I met one real gentleman among the six that I dated, but he moved far away for his job. I am no longer interested in a relationship. I'm thoroughly enjoying my independence - completely single for five years now.
 
Ruth do you have any interests that could lead to a relationship? Joining a group is a safe way to meet men of all ages or taking a class that interests you. You could attend a lecture or a walking tour at a local museum if that appeals. Join a gym or take a yoga class. Having something in common with a man while surrounded by other people in some sort of a group is both safe and usually successful and can lead to some wonderful discoveries.

Age can be a problem for us senior ladies because so many of the eligible men are already married. I'd still recommend a group though as oppposed to a dating site.
 
I was in the US but looking for someone in the UK or Ireland, so a singles group wouldn't have worked. I actually placed an online ad in the Ireland section of a dating site. I wasn't really 'older' then, just 48. Worked for me but it was pure luck that I met my hubby. 16th anniversary in April.
 
chic said:
Ruth do you have any interests that could lead to a relationship? Joining a group is a safe way to meet men of all ages or taking a class that interests you. You could attend a lecture or a walking tour at a local museum if that appeals. Join a gym or take a yoga class. Having something in common with a man while surrounded by other people in some sort of a group is both safe and usually successful and can lead to some wonderful discoveries.

Age can be a problem for us senior ladies because so many of the eligible men are already married. I'd still recommend a group though as oppposed to a dating site.
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I want to get back into drawing and may take an art class in the Spring or Summer. I have another barrier, too, I am overweight and not all men like that.

Ameriscot said:
I was in the US but looking for someone in the UK or Ireland, so a singles group wouldn't have worked. I actually placed an online ad in the Ireland section of a dating site. I wasn't really 'older' then, just 48. Worked for me but it was pure luck that I met my hubby. 16th anniversary in April.
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That's great you met your true love Annie!
 

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