What would pull you in?

BlunderWoman

BlunderWoman

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When you were dating what was it that attracted you to an individual the most? ( romantic/sexual attraction)

With me if they could make me laugh they could get my full attention.

Once I had a date with this guy and we went out for Chinese food. At the cash register there was a basket of mints. He asked the cashier if they were free. She said yes. He then quickly dumped the entire basket in his coat pocket and said " Thanks a lot!" She didn't say a word..just looked shocked.

The thing I later learned is that some real ba%&rds can be really really funny ..

The second thing I would be attracted to was intelligence . Hey otherwise it would be the stupid leading the stupid :p

The next things.. well nice thighs never hurt anybody ;)
 

Ah yes, the thighs. Ahem. I like men who are compassionate, witty, warm,intelligent, love animals, non sexist, racist etc. Not egocentric. Don't have to have a lot of money. Long hair and moustache a plus, but not necessary. Men who like to be spontaneous and play, be silly, have fun. Blue eyed ones are dangerous. They steal my mind. Lol.
 
Shali,long hair,yes! Lol

I like a man that can make me laugh.
Nice lips.
Tend to like the biggger boys.
Witty
:)
 

A good sense of humor was a must. But it had to be intelligent humor. Corny jokes and cliches are still turn me off. I was always attracted to men with superior minds. It didn't matter to me whether he attended college or not, just that he was intelligent. A sense of humor was very important, but intelligence was one place above it on my must have list.
 
Long hair was a must. I also preferred someone artistic and sensitive, a man who treated a woman like a lady which was already becoming rare when I began dating. It was nice to date a man who was intelligent and could converse, someone with a good head on his shoulders and knew where he was going in life. Tender quiet moments were essential. I loved romance and cuddles preferring that to outright sex. :eek:
 
I am initially attracted to the strong, large, silent type. That hasn't changed since my high school dating days soooo very long ago, lol. But if there is no depth of character, or aloofness (is that a word?), after getting to know them, I lose interest quickly. Any man in my life, be it platonic or a love interest, MUST love animals first and foremost. I think that quality says a lot about a man in general. No macho egotists for me either! Affectionate and attentive melts my heart. Long shaggy hair is always the first thing that gets my attention! Facial hair too. Sam Elliott and Jeff Bridges....:love_heart:
 
I've heard people say that looks don't matter and it's what's on the inside that counts.......IMO that's total BS !

Think about it, there is no way I can be convinced that if you saw a really, really butt ugly but yet brainy and good natured person across the room that you'd think of them romantically.......I believe that we've all got a little "Shallow Hal" in us.

Now with that being said, back to 'being pulled in'..........for first impressions naturally I like an attractive face, longish hair and I've always been a leg and thigh man first vs large breasts being on the top of the list. Then I look at overall personality, wit, confidence, funny etc.
 
Someone well read of course, must enjoy all companion critters, an intelligent sense of humor, oh and did I mention they have to love books?
 
Well,my dating experience is pretty limited,given that I met Mr. Robinson when I was 15. But I fell in love with him on our first date. He opened doors for me,planned a really fun date in San Francisco,was polite and engaged and a really good kisser ;). All of this is still true. Oh,and yeah,the thighs. He was an athlete,all the way until his 50s and a stupid surgeon ruined his knee. Gotta love athletic thighs :)
 
Mrs Robinson, I still choke up a little at the beauty of your love story. May I share it with some of my child clients?. I would like to show them that beautiful possibilities exist. That love is still magical and powerful, and can last a lifetime.
 
IKE said:
I've heard people say that looks don't matter and it's what's on the inside that counts.......IMO that's total BS !

Think about it, there is no way I can be convinced that if you saw a really, really butt ugly but yet brainy and good natured person across the room that you'd think of them romantically.......I believe that we've all got a little "Shallow Hal" in us.
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I'd take the butt-ugly guy who had all the qualities you mentioned. I'm assuming you are a man (I didn't check your profile), and in my experience (with my 4 brothers, mainly) looks are more important to men than women. That's natural, imo, because men are more focused spending a lifetime with the face they marry while women focus on the person they'll be talking to all that time. Again, just my opinion, but I do think it's wired in.
 
Shalimar said:
Mrs Robinson, I still choke up a little at the beauty of your love story. May I share it with some of my child clients?. I would like to show them that beautiful possibilities exist. That love is still magical and powerful, and can last a lifetime.
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Aww,thank you Shalimar! Yes,feel free to share it. I know that all four of our adult kids love and appreciate the fact that we always stayed together,raised them in a happy,tranquil home and still are head over heels in love to this day. I have heard them brag about us several times.
 
men having any hair on their head at our age is a plus!I never really looked at hair years ago, but a good smile is important,
a sense of humour ( but dry wit, not crass etc) and intelligence as well.
 
When my mom was still kickin', she'd always get excited about the single men in her neighborhood who had their own hair, teeth and no walker! Nowadays, I chuckle when I think about that.
 
I'd like a man who could fix everything (looks, age, wealth totally unimportant): The broken lamp; the leaking taps; the unstable fence; the rattling car.
A love of paint would also be nice (paint house inside and out).
Not asking too much, am I?
The reward: A smile, and a tasty lunch or dinner!
:magnify:
 
I think physical appearance usually catches our eye, then other characteristics hold us there. When I met my hubby around forty years ago, I liked his looks, sexy eyes and yes, at that time he did have shoulder length hair which was a plus. He was smart, strong, responsible, good sense of humor and wasn't too anxious like many of the guys I encountered. He was quiet and a bit mysterious in my mind, and everything fell into place. :love_heart:
 
SeaBreeze said:
I think physical appearance usually catches our eye, then other characteristics hold us there. When I met my hubby around forty years ago, I liked his looks, sexy eyes and yes, at that time he did have shoulder length hair which was a plus. He was smart, strong, responsible, good sense of humor and wasn't too anxious like many of the guys I encountered. He was quiet and a bit mysterious in my mind, and everything fell into place. :love_heart:
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Sounds like you got yourself a keeper SB......I hope you two have another 40 together.
 
I keep forgetting that most on here are twenty years younger than I. I am surrounded by flower children. I always thought I would have made a good Hippie, but long hair? :rofl: I'm out!

What pulled me in? The first one to come along who said "You'll do". When I met my wife, I was the classic "loser".
Bad teeth, a high school drop out, and had a low paying job with dim prospects. I was always a great lover though, if I do say so myself. In my proposal I said "You will never have a car or a house", but she said yes anyway.
In the end, we had two cars, a debt free house in the suburbs complete with Roses, a neurotic dog, and raised two great boys. Oh. She did have great legs, Lon. So a happy ending all around.
 
I've often wondered where some guys get their egos from. I was on a dating site briefly some years ago. This guy agreed to meet me. He came by and hissed "You don't look like your picture" and flounced off. If I had been thinking quicker I should have said "Unfortunately you DO!". Basta, balding and the beginning of jowls and he came up to my chest. I'm 5'4 so you figure out where this nasty little troll came from.
 

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