Flattery on your looks ?

Debby said:
Here in Nova Scotia it's very common for people (mostly women) to use the word 'dear' even when they don't know the person they're talking to. The waitress may say, "what can I get you dear" or the cashier may say "hello dear, lovely day we're having wouldn't you say?" or "now dear, let me get that down from that high shelf for you". All casually friendly just because Maritimers are casually friendly. I don't mind it now although when we first moved here from British Columbia it was kind of weird because in BC most folks (in the lower Mainland where I lived) are too busy and stressed to want to even make eye contact. My mom on the other hand gets positively ballistic if someone makes the dangerous mistake of using it when speaking to her. Personally, I think there's lots more important and worrying things in life than for some friendly person to use words like 'gal' or 'dear'.

Sometimes I get the feeling that too many folks are on the look out for something to get riled up about. For example, in Florida a 12 year old girl is being sued because during the course of some stupid kids game, she pinched a boys backside and the boy's mother is planning on continuing with battery charges which means the kid got hauled off to 'juvey' and will probably have to do community service, take classes of some sort and submit to drug testing. Do you think this could be handled some other way? I smell a 'pay day' plan here.
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Sad but true.

Oh, back to the topic:
Flattery on your looks ?
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Where did you say that bakery is, IKE? ;) ;) ;)



Seriously tho'...

....as for receiving flattery, a gal at the gym complimented me on my appearance, which was O.K. but I felt a little uneasy because it seemed like getting "hit on".


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I find compliments from women easier to accept than from men, probably because there is no 'hidden agenda'. Many times, I have had women ask where I bought my coat, handbag, etc. and I've complimented other women on their outfit or hair. It's nice for women to be supportive of one another's appearance.
 
Pinky said:
I find compliments from women easier to accept than from men, probably because there is no 'hidden agenda'. Many times, I have had women ask where I bought my coat, handbag, etc. and I've complimented other women on their outfit or hair. It's nice for women to be supportive of one another's appearance.
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I agree.

I have a friend who os 4 years older than me and she looks amazing and hot and when I tell her she doesn't believe me.

Lol
 
I enjoy receiving positive feedback provided it is sincere and done with respect and not just manipulative flattery.
 
Yesterday a young woman stroked my chest and told me she liked my waistcoat.

I was flattered that she felt confident enough to make such a such gesture without being concerned that I might read anything into it.
 
I would be highly suspicious if a total stranger made a personal comment about me, even if it was meant to be flattering, especially if the stranger was male.
 
I use to be bad about seeing someone who's face would be striking to me, and before my mind engaged, out of my mouth would come words like, "God your face is beautiful". And, that face might not have what most see as beauty, but I see it.

You should see some of the looks I get when I tell someone that they have great bone structure. I don't care if it's a male or female, but I love doing protraits, and when I see a face that make my finger itch, the words just tumble out my mouth before I think of what that person might think. Then I make it worse by asking if I can take photos of them.

My 18x24 protrait start at $300. and go up in price depending on what is wanted. But, many has been the time that I will give the portrait to the subject if I can only convince them that I'm not a nut case, but I need a few photo shots to work from.

But I do admit I learned that if I'm after a shot of a guy, and he is with a woman, I'll ask her for permission first, and the guy will generally follow suit.
 
oohjarwatsit said:
I would be highly suspicious if a total stranger made a personal comment about me, even if it was meant to be flattering, especially if the stranger was male.
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How sad. Why is it people accept compliments about their house, or their car, but if you make similar remarks about them, or their children, you're immediately regarded as some sort of latent sex fiend?
 
Good heavens, how is it possible that a woman can reach a certain level of maturity, and not be able to discern the difference between gentlemen and perverts? Compliments, like anything else, have as much to do with delivery as the actual words

spoken. I appreciate all sincere compliments from gentlemen of any age. I also compliment a well turned out man, or woman, on their appearance. So far, no one has taken offence.
 
Shalimar said:
Good heavens, how is it possible that a woman can reach a certain level of maturity, and not be able to discern the difference between gentlemen and perverts? Compliments, like anything else, have as much to do with delivery as the actual words

spoken. I appreciate all sincere compliments from gentlemen of any age. I also compliment a well turned out man, or woman, on their appearance. So far, no one has taken offence.
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Agree. If I see an item of clothing that strikes me as really unique and pretty, I've made comments. The wearer usually looks very surprised at a stranger complimenting them, but they are pleased.
 
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