Flattery on your looks ?

" but have started going elsewhere when my daughter is with me."

How sad. It's your life, live it as you wish.

Why should you be denied one of your little pleasures because your daughter doesn't like it?

 

Laurie said:
" but have started going elsewhere when my daughter is with me."

How sad. It's your life, live it as you wish.

Why should you be denied one of your little pleasures because your daughter doesn't like it?
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Because I enjoy it more when I'm alone and now I do make the effort to go shoppping before I go pick her up from school,hahhaha

Its like having a chaperone,lol

My son would be totally ok with it.

They were both raised the same,I don't know what happened,lol
 
Do more than apologize! Prostrate yourself in front of your computer and beg for their forgiveness...
 
Here in Nova Scotia it's very common for people (mostly women) to use the word 'dear' even when they don't know the person they're talking to. The waitress may say, "what can I get you dear" or the cashier may say "hello dear, lovely day we're having wouldn't you say?" or "now dear, let me get that down from that high shelf for you". All casually friendly just because Maritimers are casually friendly. I don't mind it now although when we first moved here from British Columbia it was kind of weird because in BC most folks (in the lower Mainland where I lived) are too busy and stressed to want to even make eye contact. My mom on the other hand gets positively ballistic if someone makes the dangerous mistake of using it when speaking to her. Personally, I think there's lots more important and worrying things in life than for some friendly person to use words like 'gal' or 'dear'.

Sometimes I get the feeling that too many folks are on the look out for something to get riled up about. For example, in Florida a 12 year old girl is being sued because during the course of some stupid kids game, she pinched a boys backside and the boy's mother is planning on continuing with battery charges which means the kid got hauled off to 'juvey' and will probably have to do community service, take classes of some sort and submit to drug testing. Do you think this could be handled some other way? I smell a 'pay day' plan here.
 
Debby said:
Here in Nova Scotia it's very common for people (mostly women) to use the word 'dear' even when they don't know the person they're talking to. The waitress may say, "what can I get you dear" or the cashier may say "hello dear, lovely day we're having wouldn't you say?" or "now dear, let me get that down from that high shelf for you". All casually friendly just because Maritimers are casually friendly. I don't mind it now although when we first moved here from British Columbia it was kind of weird because in BC most folks (in the lower Mainland where I lived) are too busy and stressed to want to even make eye contact. My mom on the other hand gets positively ballistic if someone makes the dangerous mistake of using it when speaking to her. Personally, I think there's lots more important and worrying things in life than for some friendly person to use words like 'gal' or 'dear'.
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I was training a waitress once that went off on me for calling her honey ( which is a very common southern thing) and she really nasty about it when there was no call for that. She said " I'm not putting up with you condescending to me and calling me honey! How dare you! That's not my name!Blah blah blah blah blah." After that I couldn't stand her. All she had to say was " I'd prefer it if you called me by my name." But no..some people love the drama. After that if she asked me a question I'd just look at her like she was stupid and walk off. In Louisiana people say honey , sugar, sweety.. many things & they are just being friendly.
 
I like compliment too, as long as whomever keeps there physical distance. Lately a lot of people have started calling me an "Earth Mother". I'm not to sure if it's a compliment, or just a different way of calling mr an old hippy, which I am.

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Ina, it is a compliment. Peeps have called me that all my life. I enjoy compliments providing they are genuine,and respectful. I dislike leering, and being patronised. My IQ is considerably larger than my shoe size, else I would be drinking out of the toilet with the cats.lol.
 
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BlunderWoman said:
I was training a waitress once that went off on me for calling her honey ( which is a very common southern thing) and she really nasty about it when there was no call for that. She said " I'm not putting up with you condescending to me and calling me honey! How dare you! That's not my name!Blah blah blah blah blah." After that I couldn't stand her. All she had to say was " I'd prefer it if you called me by my name." But no..some people love the drama. After that if she asked me a question I'd just look at her like she was stupid and walk off. In Louisiana people say honey , sugar, sweety.. many things & they are just being friendly.
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Yep,that sounds pretty much like my mom. I only found out that this offended her because I made the mistake of calling her dear (first time ever and I think Nova Scotia must be rubbing off on me:)). I should think she'd have been glad I wasn't calling her a 'rotten old ....' and instead chose something that was a term of endearment! There's no pleasing some people!
 
Ina said:
I like compliment too, as long as whomever keeps there physical distance. Lately a lot of people have started calling me an "Earth Mother". I'm not to sure if it's a compliment, or just a different way of calling mr an old hippy, which I am.
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Old hippies are cool. In fact, hippies of ANY age are cool. The Mr. Natural in me salutes the Earth Mother in you.

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Debby said:
Yep,that sounds pretty much like my mom. I only found out that this offended her because I made the mistake of calling her dear (first time ever and I think Nova Scotia must be rubbing off on me:)). I should think she'd have been glad I wasn't calling her a 'rotten old ....' and instead chose something that was a term of endearment! There's no pleasing some people!
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Best she does not move to Middle England, there she will be called "Duck". " You alraght Duck" "Fancy goin down road too pub duck". Nought meant to be insulting about it, local lingo.
 
I remember way back in 1967, (I was 15), my hubby made the mistake, (but only once), of saying to one of his buddies, "My ole lady .... I stomped so hard hard on his size 13 cowboy boot, that he couldn't wear boots for a week, and I pointed out to him that he was 10 years older than I.
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As has been mentioned isn't it wonderful how freeing it is to be a female senior? You can compliment another woman of any age. You can walk up to a younger man and compliment his cologne, an older man his cologne or taste in books. I mean if an older man tries it in the wrong situation it could gets messy. But society sees older women as harmless...I mean as long as you're not propositioning the pool boy;)
 
fureverywhere said:
As has been mentioned isn't it wonderful how freeing it is to be a female senior? You can compliment another woman of any age. You can walk up to a younger man and compliment his cologne, an older man his cologne or taste in books. I mean if an older man tries it in the wrong situation it could gets messy. But society sees older women as harmless...I mean as long as you're not propositioning the pool boy;)
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Society is often short-sighted ...
 
fureverywhere said:
As has been mentioned isn't it wonderful how freeing it is to be a female senior? You can compliment another woman of any age. You can walk up to a younger man and compliment his cologne, an older man his cologne or taste in books. I mean if an older man tries it in the wrong situation it could gets messy. But society sees older women as harmless...I mean as long as you're not propositioning the pool boy;)
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Having posted on UK Forums for 12 years the one thing I do know is older ladies are anything but harmless :( However speak as I find, this forum due to a different culture does not seem afflicted with the same mentality which is great.
 
Oh no, I worked in a senior's assisted living facility and older women can go right back to mean girls. But US society...if there's a crisis and you can't find Mommy...first choice is a police person or store person with a badge, second is an older woman.
 

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