Biggest fears after a certain age!

Ralphy1

Ralphy1

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It seems that falling and breaking a hip or having a disabling stroke are the most common ones. They certainly are mine...
 

That broken hip thing hits the nail on the head for me. It seems that a broken bone is the start of the rapid deterioration for many.
 
Can't think of any big ones except maybe falling or passing out and no one missing me, haha. Each day is a gift and I don't want to waste energy worrying about stuff--I did that all my life. Lost two more neighbors since right before Christmas (women both in their 80's) so if I am fortunate to be granted another 15-20 yrs I want to do it without worry.
 
Not being able to take care of my pets - also, nursing homes. As introvert (introverts recharge by being alone, extroverts recharge by being with others), living in a nursing community is the horror of horrors for me, even without abuse. I am prepared to choose the final exit should a nursing home become my only option.
 
IKE said:
We've all seen and read about the abuse that can happen......being in a nursing home scares the crap out of me.
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I'm killing myself at work as a nurse in a nursing home. Abuse is not what it's made to be in the media. Unless you want to call understaffing abuse and I think that's not too far of a stretch. But the state regulates this. They are not the friend of the soul in the nursing home they want people to believe. The money making corporation isn't going to staff more for their resident's or staff.

Two nurses and four nursing assistants can only stretch themselves so far for up to 50 resident's on a PM shift. If you call that adequate staffing, OK.
 
Kitties said:
I'm killing myself at work as a nurse in a nursing home. Abuse is not what it's made to be in the media. Unless you want to call understaffing abuse and I think that's not too far of a stretch. But the state regulates this. They are not the friend of the soul in the nursing home they want people to believe. The money making corporation isn't going to staff more for their resident's or staff.
Two nurses and four nursing assistants can only stretch themselves so far for up to 50 residents on a PM shift. If you call that adequate staffing, OK.
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1. www.nursinghomeabuseguide.org

2. www.nursinghomeabuseguide.org/nursing-home-abuse-statistics/

3. www.nursinghomeabuseguide.org/shock...se-an-increasing-problem-at-us-nursing-homes/

4. http://abcnews.go.com/US/story?id=92689&page=1
 
Living in a semi-vegetative state for months or years...without being able to get out and lead a fairly active life...would almost be Hell, to me. I've seen far too many old folks whose daily existence is little more than hobbling from the bed to the bathroom and spending their days mindlessly watching infomercials on the TV. I'm hoping to be out in the woods, at about age 94, cutting down a big tree with the chainsaw, and the tree falls on me, and ends it all quickly.
 
Lon said:
I hate flies and the idea of dying and not being found until covered with flies and maggots is not a nice thought.
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I think about that too.

It happens more often than one might think.

We had a fella in my complex pass away and not be discovered for several days.

It seems like a simple app could be created that would alert a relative if you didn't check in once every 24 hours.
 
My biggest fear is out living my husband or children and grandkids. My cousin lost his 29 yr old son last week.That has to be the worse pain in the world. I pray I go first.
 
Lon said:
I hate flies and the idea of dying and not being found until covered with flies and maggots is not a nice thought.
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That's a valid concern if you live alone, and don't have anyone checking on you regularly. I have an old bachelor neighbor with many health issues, and his nearest relatives are hundreds of miles away. I call or visit him, or he stops by every couple of days. If I don't see/hear anything from him routinely, I go to his place and check on him. I have a key to his house....just in case.
 
I think dementia is the thing many fear most. My husband's much older brother has it and would be better off dead, in our opinion.
 
Has to be dementia for me and my spouse. Both of her parents (one now deceased) suffered with it and we've seen what it does to them, as well as the care and costs involved in providing around the clock home health aids for them. It's not a pretty picture.
 

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