Thank you all for the replies, I really appreciate it.
I'm not very good with search engines, but with only one exception everything I've found is about weapons/deadly force. The exception was a law firm (same state, different city) that said on their site in some cases self-defense can be a defense to an assault charge. Sounds to me it means you risk getting charged with assault- which is what locals have been saying. And while the now-former governor passed the Stand Your Ground law a few months ago, this is the way it's worded:
https://www.legiscan.com/IA/text/HF517/2017
In contrast, though, my (and other people's) concern is defending oneself
without a weapon,
without the intent of deadly force. What the individual from the state dept. of human rights said when I presented the situations I mentioned in the first post
and details:
Each case has a different set of facts and are treated according to the circumstances, the parties involved, and how the laws are applied.
She would not give me a clear-cut answer, even though I very clearly described the situations. I'd take that to mean if you do anything to defend yourself, you take your chances as to what an officer coming on the scene will do.
So, in the situation where I was jumped in a public place, I did not act at all- not afraid of being injured if I did, but not willing to risk getting arrested for it.
In the home intrusion situation, I was able to get in front of the guy and managed to shove him out the door and locked the door. Considering I'm a small-sized senior-aged female, I probably wouldn't have been able to do that if he hadn't been seriously intoxicated on heaven-knows-what. I should have been relieved that I got him out, but my concern was that he'd run to the police and go 'Oh that person
pushed me!'
And like I said, it's a widespread belief- that you cannot put your hands on another person to protect or defend yourself, and it doesn't seem the Stand Your Ground law addresses that particular issue.