Friend will not patronize any local businesses

debodun

debodun

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way upstate in New York, USA
Every time she mentions she went here and there to: buy a furniture, have auto body work, buy fuel oil, etc., it's a business 20 to 30 miles away. When I ask her why she doesn't use local businesses (which would be a lot closer), she just gets that look on her face like she got a whiff of cow patty and won't explain. Each to his own, but it makes me wonder...
 

De, Whatever the reason; If it bothers you, you should put a limit on the number of times you associate with her.

People with that kind of personality are toxic as "friends". Life's too short for that.

For MY sake. I give a wide berth to that sort of individual.
 

Shalimar said:
Is she from a big city?
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No. She's been here in our small town for decades. It's just that I am the opposite - I don't go out of own for ANYTHING I can get locally. Of course, since she doesn't offer any explanation, she may have had trouble with certain merchants from time to time, or think because they are in a small town, they have to charge more because the clientele is less than in a larger community, but that is speculation on my part.
 
I hate to say it but it could be that your friend is a deadbeat that needs to shop in an every widening circle of merchants that are not familiar with her.

Who knows, like applecruncher said, it's her business.
 
debodun said:
Every time she mentions she went here and there to: buy a furniture, have auto body work, buy fuel oil, etc., it's a business 20 to 30 miles away. When I ask her why she doesn't use local businesses (which would be a lot closer), she just gets that look on her face like she got a whiff of cow patty and won't explain. Each to his own, but it makes me wonder...
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Deb, for some people a short drive is not a big deal to buy things, so to her it's just a hop, skip and a jump to go somewhere where there is probably more selection in the furniture, appliances, clothing, auto or beauty services than in your immediate small town area.

Maybe she had some bad service by some of your local businesses and she doesn't want to associate with them any more or spend her money there. You'll only know the true reasons if you ask her specifics personally, she may share her reasons or keep them to herself so they are not repeated to others.
 
I tried patronising our local Foodland supermarket when we first moved here ,however I like specials and when I’d go to buy them ( useally on a Wednesday ) they would say oh sorry that won’t be in until Saturday on the truck. :aargh::aargh:
They rarely have the icecream in stock my husband likes ,and constantly run out of other items with the same excuse ...”it’s coming on the truck on ???

It frustrated me to the point that I started going to the city shopping once a fortnight ,where I was able to get what I wanted as well as so much fresher fruit and vegetables ,cheaper than here
so now days I only buy essential day to day items of food like milk locally .

I live about a 2 hour drive from the city of Adelaide ,shop in one location where there is a Coles ,Aldi and Costco supermarkets as well as a very good fruit and veg shop,the savings we make on our shopping pays for our fuel to go down and back ..we also buy that at Costco beacuse we are members we get their petrol for 30 cents ( or more ) a litre cheaper than other competors ..today we paid $1.11 a litre ... at Costco ..A shell ( Coles servo ) right next to Costco fuel was $1.49
 
Kadee, hubby and I have never bothered to investigate Costco. How many people do you shop for and how often?
We tend to shop in our suburb and run down to the shops several times a week as necessary.
 
I know people that refuse to shop at Hobby Lobby or Walmart because they don't agree with their "politics" . Maybe she read something that influenced her thinking.
 
Warrigal said:
Kadee, hubby and I have never bothered to investigate Costco. How many people do you shop for and how often?
We tend to shop in our suburb and run down to the shops several times a week as necessary.
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I'm not Kadee, but I'm a single person living alone and I shop at Costco. I don't buy some things (who wants to store a lifetime supply of toilet paper), and I don't use paper towels or napkins so I generally avoid those aisles, but other things they sell make it worthwhile. I like their produce, meats, nuts, olive oil, organic sugar and quite a number of other things.
 
Maybe she just likes a drive out to a different area, seeing different things, sights, people, shops ? It can get pretty boring going round the same old place all the time, if you have a car and the time, why not ?
 
Warri I only shop for us ,I buy selected items from Costco to suit our needs ,last fortnight I bought a pair of sketchers walking shoes for myself for $41 ..two years ago I bought a pair of the exact shoes from a shoe shop that cost me $130
Now let me think what did I buy yesterday ...I like their super grains breakfast cereal which is made by a Byron bay NSW bakery which I buy about once every 6 weeks it’s a 1.3 kg pack it costs $19 ...but when you work it out it’s not expencive

I buy meat like a pack , almost fat free minced beef that tastes like beef not a wonder mix of who knows what ....
We also buy really thick porterhouse steak which we cook on a bbq for ourselfs

I no longer cook cake I buy a pack of three bar cakes cooked on the premises ..one banana one butter cake one blueberry ..the cost is $10 for the whole three I cut them into slices and freeze taking one slice a day out as needed ,I also buy a 16 pack of lamingtons that are $10 for the pack I freeze them as well
I buy fresh fish ,really what ever we need and they have

I buy frozen berries that are NOT from China , :yuk: By the way I’m one of the 23 in Australia who was poisoned by frozen mixed berries from China two years ago .....
Back to what I buy from Costco ..bananas they keep for a week after buying them and in summer we eat quite a bit of greens so I buy 1 kg tub of mixed lettuce leaves they keep for a month or more they cost $10 for the kg ..where one little tiny lettuce costs up to $3 ...it all depends on what we need ,as I said we also shop at Coles and Aldi and have our favourites we buy from each of them
But most of all we get cheap petrol when the others are so expencive

Costco is more than a food shop ,( to,us ) we recently got new Tyres for my car good quality name brand ones that one time the average person couldn’t afford my new ones cost $440 fitted ect ...the previous ones I’d had put on my car three years ago locally cost me over $500 , ( I Enquiried before going to Adelaide and the same ones we’re going to cost me $600 )
We needed a new battery for hubs car recently ,shopped around for the best price ..Costco was beat them all by $100 with a three year warranty
 
Warri I forget to mention I bought my iPad and my IPhone from Costco as well cheaper then I could get them from Apple shop
so it’s not just a food shop to us .. if you have to return something for some reason there is no questions asked ..they keep a record of everything you buy and if you have lost your receipt it doesn’t matter because they look it up .

I’m sure other supermarkets that have loyality cards like flybuys do the same.
 
Wren
Our hobby to keep us fit is ballroom dancing and as there is only one dance a month here where we live, we quite often combine a afternoon dance, in Adelaide ( city ) with shopping .
our supermarkets are open until 8.30 pm ..
 
Kadee46 said:
I also buy a 16 pack of lamingtons that are $10 for the pack I freeze them as well
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Not to hijack the thread, but I'm so jealous that your Costco has lamingtons. They are almost unheard of in the USA. The bakery we patronized when I was growing up in the Cleveland suburbs always had them and they were my favorite bakery treat!
 
I will,post some for you nvtribefan
Here is your lamingtons :giggle: the Costco ones are nice big ones as well
 

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This is funny. We used to travel to another city for a shopping trip.
One of our local business owners was. an acquaintance who asked me why I don't support local businesses instead.
To which I replied 'if you stop going to the U.S. in the winter for 3 months I might consider it.'

I'm speculating that something turns people off and that's why they go elsewhere.
 

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