Do you feel very ambivalent toward your life?

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Victor

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I am becoming more and more ambivalent toward things
that I used to enjoy doing and going. I wonder how common is this.
Sometimes I look for excuses not to do the activities or hobbies
I used to enjoy just a few years ago. Mixed feelings.

Example: I was supposed to go on a vacation/business trip this week
but yesterday, after talking it over with my agent, I decided to cancel.
as planned for over a month. Anxiety, fear, uncertainty. Is this normal?
 

hey victor---yes i have lost interest in a lot of things---i use to like to go different places but now i dont go out unless i have to
 
Victor said:
I am becoming more and more ambivalent toward things
that I used to enjoy doing and going. I wonder how common is this.
Sometimes I look for excuses not to do the activities or hobbies
I used to enjoy just a few years ago. Mixed feelings.

Example: I was supposed to go on a vacation/business trip this week
but yesterday, after talking it over with my agent, I decided to cancel.
as planned for over a month. Anxiety, fear, uncertainty. Is this normal?
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I think perhaps you may be experiencing anxiety/depression. For some, that can be part of aging as our lives and bodies change.
 

My kids are always wanting me to travel, go out, sightsee, art galleries, performing arts, hike, etc. My first reaction is always ho-hum (or even "no") until I go and then I'm so glad I went!

But I've become very ambivalent towards TV and Movies...ugh. I blame it on Hollywood but others my age seem to enjoy the TV shows so maybe it's me.
 
It's funny because I was thinking the same thing just this morning.

I travel a lot, and I'm due to fly overseas in a few weeks to visit my daughter , and right after I get back, I have a big wedding to attend...now normally I'd be out buying new clothes for the wedding, getting everything sorted early for my trip abroad..arranging this and that, looking forward to the break, and planning all my activities..but I just don't feel I have the energy or the interest.
Granted I'm not in the best of health at the moment..but even so..I've been poorly before and still able to enjoy my hobbies, and trips, but somehow just recently my get up and go ..just went..
I'm looking forward to being away but I just can't seem to get up the enthusiasm I always have
 
Lara said:
My kids are always wanting me to travel, go out, sightsee, art galleries, performing arts, hike, etc. My first reaction is always ho-hum (or even "no") until I go and then I'm so glad I went!

But I've become very ambivalent towards TV and Movies...ugh. I blame it on Hollywood but others my age seem to enjoy the TV shows so maybe it's me.
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"My first reaction is always ho-hum (or even "no") until I go and then I'm so glad I went!"

LOL...not laughin' at'cha.... laughin' wit'cha...sometimes it's just hard to get up & get at it.

I believe as we age we are just slow to get motivated.

"But I've become very ambivalent towards TV and Movies...ugh. I blame it on Hollywood but others my age seem to enjoy the TV shows so maybe it's me."

No, it's not just you..as I agree completely
 
Victor said:
I am becoming more and more ambivalent toward things
that I used to enjoy doing and going. I wonder how common is this.
Sometimes I look for excuses not to do the activities or hobbies
I used to enjoy just a few years ago. Mixed feelings.

Example: I was supposed to go on a vacation/business trip this week
but yesterday, after talking it over with my agent, I decided to cancel.
as planned for over a month. Anxiety, fear, uncertainty. Is this normal?
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I understand Victor and am experiencing some of the same feelings.There are many things that I would like to do but am unable to do because of physical limitations. With other things I have just plain lost interest.
 
At one time no matter what time it was I would get up and go.

Now I don't anymore.

After midnight forget it.

How to tell when you are getting old.

You go home at the same time you used to go out.

I even notice dances now for seniors starting at 5 p.m. Unheard of previously.
 
When my son was in 6th or 7th grade his teacher asked him if he knew what "apathy" meant - my son just shrugged and said "I don't know, and I don't care...." Nailed it. :)

I think most of us lose that sense of adventure as we age.
 
I look at it this way...When I was / we were kids, our world was our backyard...then we got a bike and that opened up our street , whole neighborhood [when mom wasn't looking] our inquisitiveness was endless. Our world continued to be explored as it expanded , explored,expanded...& so on.

Well once we've seen it all, or all we care to / have the ability too...our inquisitiveness begins to fade. And before we know it....we're back in our backyard....with little desire to leave.
 
I'm there as well and it increases as time goes on. Even though I can access hundreds of channels, very little on TV interests me any more. About 1/3 of the books I begin to read are abandoned before completion. Other hobbies only interest me for a little while, then I put it away. Only go out unless it's absolutely necessary, can't wait to get home and am very content when I get there.

Where did the zip go? I miss it.
 
helenbacque said:
I'm there as well and it increases as time goes on. Even though I can access hundreds of channels, very little on TV interests me any more. About 1/3 of the books I begin to read are abandoned before completion. Other hobbies only interest me for a little while, then I put it away. Only go out unless it's absolutely necessary, can't wait to get home and am very content when I get there.

Where did the zip go? I miss it.
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WoW! does that sound familiar...

Wish I knew the answer....
 
I have definitely lost some of my "Joie de vivre." Mostly, I blame it on the internet, for reminding me, daily, just how horrible a species/group I belong to. No other species on this planet is as greedy, self-centered, cruel, self-absorbed, destructive, etc. This realization sometimes manifests as a feeling of: "I don't actually care for this world, anymore, so why should I go out and be involved with it?" I still like doing projects around my properties, still like climbing trees, still like playing with other great musicians, but, even then, there are times when I just want to go on long walks in the forest and get lost in nothingness.
 
treeguy64 said:
but, even then, there are times when I just want to go on long walks in the forest and get lost in nothingness.
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There is nothing….nothing wrong, and everything right with that

But while you do that, look around, breathe deep the magic of…of…just being

Man, once retired, we have all the time in the world to enjoy this…this romance of the soul

As for being ambivalent with what seems we once enjoyed?
Why wouldn’t we?
We’ve done it.

This is what intrigues me with Traveler’s quest to reside in the mountains
And anything any of us, at our age, hasn’t had the time, or the care to do before

What ‘that’ is isn’t even important

It could be just curling up to a book, or even merely gazing out the window of a severe winter
Or
‘getting lost in nothingness’

We now have time, time to savor
anything
 
helenbacque said:
I'm there as well and it increases as time goes on. Even though I can access hundreds of channels, very little on TV interests me any more. About 1/3 of the books I begin to read are abandoned before completion. Other hobbies only interest me for a little while, then I put it away. Only go out unless it's absolutely necessary, can't wait to get home and am very content when I get there.

Where did the zip go? I miss it.
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This pretty much sums up my life!

I notice myself taking comfort in the daily rituals of my life and don't have much interest in shaking things up with new interests or adventures.
 
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