Is she flirting with me?

I think that 'photo' exagerates both sides though - the man looks older than 70 and the woman looks younger than 40.

However I agree with Patty - asking her Are you flirting with me? unless said in very jokey way, will make future encounters very awkward for both parties.

If a client tells you there was a sale on roses - how should she react?

Jokingly saying 'Did you buy me one' seems good response to me. Keeps it light and general.
I guess she could just say 'that's nice' (but bit 'I'm not really listening' answer to me) or did you buy your wife one? ( tricky if she doesn't know if he has a wife and possibly upsetting if he were widowed or separated) or just Did you buy one? (but he would interpret that as "for me" anyway)

If her response is not appropriate how do posters think she should have alternatively responded?

the implying eyes and sexy hips are purely OP's interpretation, I can't see how she could change them, she can hardly change her eyes or her body or not enter rooms when she should be doing so.
 

another side of the story...

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davey said:
fake photo??
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Imaginary artificial generated image. What is so different about an imaginary image, and an imaginary scenario of words describing the motives and feelings of these people? Both are highly speculative, both are poking in the dark for "what is really happening.", both are just opinions of the dynamics of situation. They both are fake. Ronna Barrette style of gossip gone wild. :)
 
Della said:
LOL I think she had her clothes on, Beezer. Not all posing is nude. Simmer down now.;)

I think we women, and I've been guilty of this myself, think if the age difference is wide enough it's save to be flirty without any fear of it being taken seriously and that may be what she's doing.
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Absolutely! I like the fact that men no longer hit on me and I feel safe to flirt. However a few times I have been shocked when a man wanted to take things further. It is a hormonal thing. I am no longer flooded with the hormones that cause us to think sex and I did not expect men to have sex on their minds when looking at an old woman.

However, if a man were thoughtful and intellectually attractive and expressed interest in me I might melt. I would love to have a male companion who likes to travel and enjoys movies. So what is the quality of the relationship begun with flirting going to be? Playfulness is an important part of having more meaningful relationships. That may or may not include sex.
 
Vida May said:
However, if a man were thoughtful and intellectually attractive and expressed interest in me I might melt. I would love to have a male companion who likes to travel and enjoys movies. So what is the quality of the relationship begun with flirting going to be? Playfulness is an important part of having more meaningful relationships. That may or may not include sex.
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But this thread is about a man well over 70 thinking a woman "around 40" meaning possibly in her 30s, was flirting with him when it appeared that HE was doing the flirting and probably making her uncomfortable. There's a history of doing this, apparently.
 
I don’t flirt with anyone any more. I try my best to not draw any attention to myself. I don’t even sing outside any more. If I do see people I try and walk a different direction so we don’t meet.
 
CallMeKate said:
But this thread is about a man well over 70 thinking a woman "around 40" meaning possibly in her 30s, was flirting with him when it appeared that HE was doing the flirting and probably making her uncomfortable. There's a history of doing this, apparently.
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Victor is probably sorry he wrote it now.
 
CallMeKate said:
Not sure about that... he wrote a thread right like it in 2020 with another medical professional "around 40" and he was "over 70" back then, too. @PeppermintPatty
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It doesn’t appear that he’s acting on it though. Maybe he’s just expressing his wishful thinking. Maybe he doesn’t notice or acknowledge the fact that he’s the one starting the flirting. Luckily he’s got us to let him know. 😂
 
CallMeKate said:
But this thread is about a man well over 70 thinking a woman "around 40" meaning possibly in her 30s, was flirting with him when it appeared that HE was doing the flirting and probably making her uncomfortable. There's a history of doing this, apparently.
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Perhaps I should have you explain posts to me before I reply to be sure I understand them correctly? 😁

But I think thinking about the quality of the desired relationship has merit. Some women are attracted to older men. I am not sure we know what she wants.
 
Vida May said:
Absolutely! I like the fact that men no longer hit on me and I feel safe to flirt. However a few times I have been shocked when a man wanted to take things further. It is a hormonal thing. I am no longer flooded with the hormones that cause us to think sex and I did not expect men to have sex on their minds when looking at an old woman.
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Well Victor seems to be gone so I'd like to take this in another direction along with Vida May.

Do men ever lose interest in It? After my mother died when they were both 72, my father started dating. The women were mostly age appropriate and after dating a really nice 80-something woman for a few years, he asked her to marry him and she refused. Mainly because she knew he was interested in certain activities, that she no longer wanted.

He continued to date other women and then had a very serious affair with a woman in her forties while he was over eighty. (?)

Finally, in his late 80's, he began to get dementia and ended up in assisted living where he only lasted a few days because he got into a big argument with another old man. He told me it was because the other man had been bragging about once being a Golden Glove boxer. Dad claimed it was to impress the ladies who were present. I imagine that was my father's motive for telling the guy, "You're lying! I'd like to get my gun and shoot you!"

Little did they know that my father didn't own a gun and that was just one of his usual pointless threats, one directed at me on a regular basis. So we had to find another home for him and it was hard because some homes came right out and said they didn't like to take men.

My brother found him a place and after he'd been there a week I went to visit. As soon as I said his name at the nurses station, I could tell they had all come to hate him and looking around I suspected he had told them all they were fat. He always seemed to think women gained weight deliberately, just to spoil his view. So it went for the poor man for the next few months when the mini-strokes he was having finally put him out of his misery. I felt sorry for all concerned. There should be more understanding places for old men who are not going gently into that goodnight.
 
thanks for your responses! To clarify: I never thought this gal was into me or wanted to do anything.
At my age that is not possible with younger ones. So I suspected she was playing jesting with me (Being Nice). There is no reason why she or anyone would take a social interest in a guy remotely close to my age. Subconsciously, I think men (like me) signal to women that we are attracted without intending to. In the eyes. It is automatic and they react to it.
My conversations with her are business with occasional friendly asides. Soft drinks, food.
She came In my room and stood next to me, jutting her wide hip to one side with a big smile-- said hello and left. Weird but I liked it. She probably didn't mean to look "sexy". As a poster said, life is not a sit-com, far from it.
Am not looking for relationships or friends. Women 50 and under usually don't talk much with me at a gathering.. Sure wish I was a lot younger!
 
So the answer to this thread is, "yes," she was flirting with him.
But, just like many of the women on this thread, it was flirting, but it wasn't really flirting. 🤔
It's the clueless men who don't understand, that just because it's flirting, does NOT mean it's flirting.
 
Della said:
Well Victor seems to be gone so I'd like to take this in another direction along with Vida May.

Do men ever lose interest in It? After my mother died when they were both 72, my father started dating. The women were mostly age appropriate and after dating a really nice 80-something woman for a few years, he asked her to marry him and she refused. Mainly because she knew he was interested in certain activities, that she no longer wanted.

He continued to date other women and then had a very serious affair with a woman in her forties while he was over eighty. (?)

Finally, in his late 80's, he began to get dementia and ended up in assisted living where he only lasted a few days because he got into a big argument with another old man. He told me it was because the other man had been bragging about once being a Golden Glove boxer. Dad claimed it was to impress the ladies who were present. I imagine that was my father's motive for telling the guy, "You're lying! I'd like to get my gun and shoot you!"

Little did they know that my father didn't own a gun and that was just one of his usual pointless threats, one directed at me on a regular basis. So we had to find another home for him and it was hard because some homes came right out and said they didn't like to take men.

My brother found him a place and after he'd been there a week I went to visit. As soon as I said his name at the nurses station, I could tell they had all come to hate him and looking around I suspected he had told them all they were fat. He always seemed to think women gained weight deliberately, just to spoil his view. So it went for the poor man for the next few months when the mini-strokes he was having finally put him out of his misery. I felt sorry for all concerned. There should be more understanding places for old men who are not going gently into that goodnight.
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Wow, now that is an issue. I have always been appalled by how some men taunt each other. I see it in different forums all the time and occasionally it is friendship and intended to be as harmless as playful flirting. However, calling someone a liar, especially before a friendship is established is apt to get a negative reaction. Thanks to the internet I have learned how important relationships are to how we interpret another's meaning.

Women in general have a different reaction to this bantering than men have. Facilities run by women could be a problem for men.
 
Victor said:
thanks for your responses! To clarify: I never thought this gal was into me or wanted to do anything.
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Thank you for responding again, Victor! I think maybe the original post confused some of us because this happened to you with a medical professional in 2020 and you asked about it then, too, so it was a tad confusing... this newest post has made your feelings about the issue more clear, so I'm glad you came back to clarify. (y)
 

John cycling said:
So the answer to this thread is, "yes," she was flirting with him.
But, just like many of the women on this thread, it was flirting, but it wasn't really flirting. 🤔
It's the clueless men who don't understand, that just because it's flirting, does NOT mean it's flirting.
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According to him she was flirting. According to his own words, HE was the one flirting.
Maybe he thinks all woman that give him any type of attention are flirts. Some guys think any attention from an attractive woman is flirtation. You are right. It’s the clueless men.
Why did Victor feel the need to bring up red roses and direct his message to her? He found her attractive so instantly found a topic she would be interested in. She’s probably used to getting lots of attention.
 
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thanks for your responses! To clarify: I never thought this gal was into me or wanted to do anything.
At my age that is not possible with younger ones. So I suspected she was playing jesting with me (Being Nice). There is no reason why she or anyone would take a social interest in a guy remotely close to my age. Subconsciously, I think men (like me) signal to women that we are attracted without intending to. In the eyes. It is automatic and they react to it.
My conversations with her are business with occasional friendly asides. Soft drinks, food.
She came In my room and stood next to me, jutting her wide hip to one side with a big smile-- said hello and left. Weird but I liked it. She probably didn't mean to look "sexy". As a poster said, life is not a sit-com, far from it.
Am not looking for relationships or friends. Women 50 and under usually don't talk much with me at a gathering.. Sure wish I was a lot younger!
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Glad you are still with us. I thought I saw some male bashing that could discourage participation.

😄 It is so hard to be human. I think some of us carry baggage we would like to drop and when it comes to sex things can get messy. Our past is imprinted on us. It isn't just a bad experience or two but also how we identify ourselves and how we relate to "them". 😱

I wish we could all just relax and be more playful. I hate what puberity did to us. I was really enjoying going to the large field behind my childhood home and building forts or finding lizards. We all played together and it didn't matter if someone was a girl or a boy. But being able to run up and down the side of the wash was important. 😃 Then came puberty and it ruined everything! I hated dating and defending my virginity, so I got married very young to become the good wife and mother we were supposed to be. 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦

It was awful when I became a single mother and the married women, including my best friend, wanted nothing to do with me. I noticed men were afraid to talk to me because their wives would be jealous. It was almost as bad as having to wear a large letter A for adultery. I was very isolated in a small town and moving meant not knowing anyone. Everyone I tried to befriend already had too many people in their lives.

Can we go back to building a fort together and it not mattering if we are a girl or a boy?
 
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Victor said:
thanks for your responses! To clarify: I never thought this gal was into me or wanted to do anything.
At my age that is not possible with younger ones. So I suspected she was playing jesting with me (Being Nice). There is no reason why she or anyone would take a social interest in a guy remotely close to my age. Subconsciously, I think men (like me) signal to women that we are attracted without intending to. In the eyes. It is automatic and they react to it.
My conversations with her are business with occasional friendly asides. Soft drinks, food.
She came In my room and stood next to me, jutting her wide hip to one side with a big smile-- said hello and left. Weird but I liked it. She probably didn't mean to look "sexy". As a poster said, life is not a sit-com, far from it.
Am not looking for relationships or friends. Women 50 and under usually don't talk much with me at a gathering.. Sure wish I was a lot younger!
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Awwww… It was harmless. We made it out to sound evil and perverted. Shame on us. Sorry Victor. Individually we are good people. Together we sometimes act like pack animals.
 


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