A "must read" but remember, whoever wrote it is not perfect, but if the shoe fits..

Good advice, I'm very thankful to be in a good long-term relationship that is non-toxic...I see a lot of others that are not so lucky.
 
They've got some interesting articles on that blog - thanks. ;)

Of course, all of MY relationships are perfect, so I can't learn anything there, but still ...
 

It's interesting, there are people in this world I love dearly, but I see that "need" kind of thing, before the actual "want", or the need being the basis I mean. I think picking toxic relationships is like when I was just feeling desperate, "oh, I just know a man will fix everything". Not so easy to admit, but I felt that way to the extreme when I first entered menopause, geesh! I picked someone that was totally wrong for me, and he even ended up stalking me. Hey, I asked for it, well, not that exactly, but I was vulnerable because I looked for help in the wrong places. I don't regret because I learned a lot about myself.

I think if you have a good marriage, you had a good handle on your mental and emotional. One thing I know today, is don't look for someone because you feel a need. You probably just "need" to go out for a hike, then a hot bath, and snuggle in with a good book, lol;) I think I am liking this age deal, I am seeing I "have" learned some things afterall;):playful:
 
SifuPhil said:
They've got some interesting articles on that blog - thanks. ;)

Of course, all of MY relationships are perfect, so I can't learn anything there, but still ...
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You are welcome, sure liked reading it for myself, and I'm perfect, but it's finding a guy that perfect, LOL!! Ok, so really, it's about two independent people, that want a relationship, but their life does not depend on it;)
 
I've encountered far too many "needy" people in my life - or worse, the opposite - the distant, cold-fish types. The only ones that I've ever met that seem to be balanced are already married, so that leaves THEM out.

I'll always have my cats ...
 
nwlady said:
As a friend of mine always says "meh" she may show up yet;) The right kind of gal;)
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Yeah, maybe my standards are too high - I want them to look like Jennifer Love-Hewitt, have the brain of Madam Curie and the strength of Wonder Woman.

I usually get Phyllis Diller, Paris Hilton and Bat Girl, respectively. :rolleyes:
 
Shoot, that's a could combo to look for;) You didn't mention age, and if you disregard that, it includes a lot more results;)

Shoot, even what you usually get sound good if I was a guy. So what the hell are you complainin about;) LOL!
 
nwlady said:
Shoot, that's a could combo to look for;) You didn't mention age, and if you disregard that, it includes a lot more results;)
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As long as there's a pulse, and even that's optional sometimes ... :cower:

Shoot, even what you usually get sound good if I was a guy. So what the hell are you complainin about;) LOL!
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Well, I'm shooting for empathy - some folks recently told me I have none. :playful:
 
Hey, don't tell anyone but at this point, I'm not sure what empathy is. I feel the more I return to my nieve roots the better off I am;)
 
You are Santa?? I've been talking to Santa?? OMG, ok, need to get hold of myself, I have some things I really want to discuss with you Santa, mostly, that winning lotto ticket I asked for, for the LAST 30 YEARS!! I got some nice, hot coals goin on in my fireplace, come on over, let's talk:tapfoot:
 
oakapple said:
You mean all you need is love.......and a few minions.
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(with apologies to the Beatles' "All You Need Is Love")


There's nothing you can do that can't be done.
Nothing you can do to stop the stun.
Nothing you can say, but you can learn
How to pray for pain
It's easy.

Nothing you can make that can't be made.
No one you can save that won't be a slave.
Nothing you can do, but you can learn
How to be blue in time
It's easy.

All you need is love (and a few minions),
All you need is love, love. Love is all you need.
Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love. And a few minions.
 
Shirley, just get on with capering around and less cheek, otherwise you will be popped into the oubliette.
 

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