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MarciKS said:
Morning everyone.

Thanks @PamfromTx

In one of the other threads on here they were discussing dating someone younger or older. I'm not begrudging anyone of love and joy however they choose to find it. However, for myself personally, I find it to be very undesirable. What does someone that much younger see in an old fart beyond the $ they can achieve when that individual passes on? I wouldn't want someone sticking around for the inheritance.

I would prefer to date someone close to my own age. But now that these men know there's a chance they can interest someone 30 yrs younger they're looking at them and women like myself don't stand a chance at finding love unless we go younger or older. I'm not doing that. I've had younger men. Not interested. And I sure as hell don't want someone 30 yrs older. All that's gonna involve is helping take care of them. Either way I'm not interested in being a babysitter. And I don't want someone waiting for me to kick the bucket for possible monetary gain.

The younger folks get our jobs...get our dating pool. I mean damn...why do they have to have everything? Why can't they go take from their own generation? And why shouldn't I be allowed to be offended when I get a sneer for being my age cuz I don't look like a 30 yr old? Most women don't look like that in reality. We are frumpy and plump. We don't make it a habit of running around in tight revealing clothes because it's disgusting.

I don't wanna be with a man that would rather be leering at half dressed 30 yo. No thank you. I would rather be alone.

*sips coffee*
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Well, I refuse to date anyone, it’s bad enough my husband acts like such a jerk, I don’t need another jerk in my life. And, yes, I am, and plump, well, slightly over plump but headed towards plump, anyway I am not frumpy. I have never been frumpy.

I look more like a homeless old fat lady looking for a chair. 😂
 

Marci...you go girl...you tell 'em!! Hahaha. Speaking of frumpy and dating or marrying people our own age for love. I think you would get a kick out of watching "Worn" on Netflix. It's a short "movie" or documentary where they interview a few of the residence at Cypress Cove in Kissamee Florida. All sizes, shapes, and ages but mostly retirees...clothing is optional.

The word "Worn" refers to their favorite piece of clothing and why...or in the case of those who prefer "no clothing or partial clothing", they're just asked why. The couple interviewed the most are completely naked but you don't see their nether regions. They are both seniors, so in love, and comfortable in their nudity despite weight- challenged...to say the least. I don't know if you're okay with that. It's a well done serious documentary...but I did find myself smiling a lot 🤭

My daughter is the one who told me about it because she said we are always looking for something light that makes us smile. But she said, "You may not feel comfortable watching it, Mom, because there's nudity and I know how you are" LOL. I told her I would have no problem watching a documentary on it if their private parts weren't all out there. There are a few slip-ups here and there but you'd have to squint your eyes to see it...and I did :ROFLMAO:
 
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You girls...LOL!

I have pretty much resigned myself to the fact that there is no one out there that can handle all this 24/7. I think I'm just too much for people. That's ok. I'm too much for me somedays.

You know...I hate when you emotionally support someone and they turn around and ignore you for no reason at all. I guess some people are just snobs. It's sad really. If they seek so much attention for their miseries why would they snub someone who was being supportive? People often confuse me which is one reason I don't mess with them much anymore. Makes my brain feel like it's gonna explode.

Hopefully the clinic will get back to me today. Still hurts pretty good. At this point I'm getting a little concerned about how much longer it's gonna take to heal up. The 13th is the last of my sick pay.
 
Aneeda72 said:
Well, I refuse to date anyone, it’s bad enough my husband acts like such a jerk, I don’t need another jerk in my life. And, yes, I am, and plump, well, slightly over plump but headed towards plump, anyway I am not frumpy. I have never been frumpy.

I look more like a homeless old fat lady looking for a chair. 😂
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You should see me in my tees and leggings with slip on shoes and bed head going to the clinic. It's embarrassing but I can't do nothing with my hair. I can barely get dressed. They're lucky I didn't show up in a bathrobe Monday. I lost the tie for it. :LOL:
 
Insurance company sent me a form to fill out. If they don't get it within 45 days they will deny the claim. I think it was for the ER visit. I had to explain what was injured and how. I'm kinda surprised that information wasn't in the medical reports for them to see. I will go out later tonight and drop it in the drop box at the post office. I can't rely on the mailman to pick it up. If they have no mail for you they're not obligated to collect it. This sure has been a hassle being laid up. It's been great not having to work but it would've been better if it was actual vacation.
 
MarciKS said:
Insurance company sent me a form to fill out. If they don't get it within 45 days they will deny the claim. I think it was for the ER visit. I had to explain what was injured and how. I'm kinda surprised that information wasn't in the medical reports for them to see. I will go out later tonight and drop it in the drop box at the post office. I can't rely on the mailman to pick it up. If they have no mail for you they're not obligated to collect it. This sure has been a hassle being laid up. It's been great not having to work but it would've been better if it was actual vacation.
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It seem like “anything to creat a nuisance” is typical these days.
Hang in there.
 
That's frustrating for you. I know they are busy on Mondays, but it doesn't seem like it would take more than 5 or ten minutes.
Then again, he or she'd have to spend time, telling someone what to tell you, or talking with you, or sending you a message, or making a note about it, which would take another ten or so. :rolleyes::confused:

Oh well, as you said, nothing you can do about that, or about all the extra red tape,
which is put on the ill person to do. :cautious:

Can't change that either. They want to argue about which company pays what, etc.
 
I just remembered that some doctor offices do those sorts of tasks, after closing for patient visits for the day.
There's a chance they might still get back to you.
 
MarciKS said:
Doc was on sick leave so he's been backlogged.
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What? Your doctor is sick? I saw a cartoon or joke one time that was saying "If you walk into the doctor's waiting room and his plants are dying then you might want to leave". But your Doc being sick takes that to a whole other dimension 🍂🙃🍂

Seriously though, ask your Doc what the consequences are for an untreated broken rib....that might wake him up a little. He doesn't want a lawsuit.
It only takes 3 minutes to look at an x-ray to tell if it's serious and needs to be treated in a timely fashion.

How old is he? I get a little irked when a young doctor discriminates against seniors...like we're invisible.
 
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Lara said:
What? Your doctor is sick? I saw a cartoon or joke one time that was saying "If you walk into the doctor's waiting room and his plants are dying then you might want to leave". But your Doc being sick takes that to a whole other dimension 🍂🙃🍂

Seriously though, ask your Doc what the consequences are for an untreated broken rib....that might wake him up a little. He doesn't want a lawsuit.
It only takes 3 minutes to look at an x-ray to tell if it's serious and needs to be treated in a timely fashion.

How old is he? I get a little irked when a young doctor discriminates against seniors...like we're invisible.
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He's not sick now. He was on sick leave for a month after a surgery. Every time he comes back he's swamped.

I just spent the past hr trying to sleep and quite unsuccessfully as I live next to a man who never rides the harley he owns. Every weekend he fires it up...revs it a few times...shuts it down. Today he let it run for the past hr. Some days it's enough to make me wanna get out of bed and march over to the neighbors homes that are disturbing me and start knocking the s*** outta people. I hate this entire town. It's noisy all the damn time. It's enough to make me wanna scream. Since I've moved here my anxiety has increased just from the racket alone. It's very stressful.
 
oh crap...i'm back. it is such an effort to keep my lungs clear with this rib. it has taken me all day to get up a couple rounds of congestion. now i'm hurting. hopefully it's over for the night cuz i don't think i can take much more of this torture tonight.
 
Ugh...the FMLA company my employer uses sucks. They have been such a pain in the 🤬 since this whole thing started. This morning they sent me more paperwork to be filled out and faxed after we just went through this whole thing about me having no way to do this from home. I sent them an even nastier email this time. I'm already getting a headache from the stress. *Sighs*

I'm free to take my next pain pill now so that's what I'm doing. Had a rough night. No word yet on my xrays. Hopefully today. Last nights cough fest drove the pain clear into my back. They won't let me wear my brace cuz of the danger of pneumonia but sometimes I wear it gently for just a bit like an hr or so to help ease the pain a little. I feel like I slept good once I got there.

Having my coffee...time to wander the SF halls and see what's going on.
 
Marci, "Regardless of whether you discuss your concerns with your employer, if you believe your employer is improperly refusing you paid sick leave, you may call 1-866-4US-WAGE (1-866-487-9243)." Or just call them with your questions.

The Dept. of Labor requires your employer to display a poster of your full FMLA rights. Google the poster if your employer doesn't have it up on the wall.

Also, did you know that FMLA also covers emotional distress and mental health? But there are things you must know so google it.

Try calling the Dept. of Labor if the 866 number above isn't helpful.

Try calling AARP, explain your situation, and ask them to intervene for you. Or at least give you advice as to how best to proceed. I'll bet they're very knowledgable about the brush off you're getting from your employer, FMLA, and maybe even knows how to maneuver FMLA.
AARP claims to be our advocates.

Unfortunately, Human Resources at work is a farce. They aren't there to support the employees...only themselves and their colleagues. Don't waste your time. They don't care. They are "wolves in sheeps clothing" in my humble opinion lol.

If all else fails, call your state's Insurance Commissioner. Explain everything and the consequences of emotional stress you've had to navigate FMLA. I was refused a $600 refund from Geico one time and they drove me crazy for months giving me the run-around. I called my Insurance Commissioner, talked to his secretary, and received a $600 check the next day from Geico.
 
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@Lara it's not the employer I'm having trouble with. It's the FMLA company they use. They're not denying me any benefits they're just giving me lots of run around and making things very difficult for me while I'm trying to heal. My employer has been really good about all this.



So I did get one piece of good news at the moment. I did NOT in fact refracture the rib. I made it pretty angry though when my coughing strained it. LOL! I will likely hafta wait till the pain level gets more manageable before I can return to work. Doc said there's been significant healing so I'm on my way. Thank God!
 
Great news that your rib is on the mend! Regarding all my advise in post 521, I had read a post of yours on the 24th that had said "the FMLA lady changed your status from leave of absence to short-term disability" and that your coverage was ending tomorrow on the 7th. So I must have missed an update on that. I'm just glad you're doing better now and have FMLA benefits still.
 
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I will have sick pay up to the 13th of this month. After that my earned illness money is depleted. I have no short term disability coverage so I will be on my own with no paycheck until I can go back to work. Not through any fault of the employer. This is just how it is. With the amount of pain I'm still in I don't know at this point if I will be returning to work the 13th or not. It could be a couple more weeks out which is fine. I'm ok if I hafta miss a check and I'm not exceeding the 12 wk mark where my job is in danger. @Lara keep prayin honey. I need all the help I can get. :) I would've responded sooner but I had to once again get dressed...load myself into the van and go to town to sign more flippin forms to fax off. Now I'm gonna go take a pain med and lay down.
 
Not sure what time I went to bed. Two a.m. maybe? I didn't have to get up in the middle of the night other than to go to the bathroom. I was able to lay on my tummy for a little bit which is my most comfy sleep position.

Gonna start trying to get somewhat dressed every day & start doing some wash a little to get back into moving more. Maybe I can gently get this back muscle to loosen up a little. It's a balled up knot back there now. Right under my shoulder blade. We'll see. This morning I'm taking my next dose of pain med. We'll see where it takes me. Might be back to sleep. Work never responded to yesterday's update so I don't know if that's a bad thing or not.

Got some storms last night that were pretty strong so I shut everything down & got my dosed drink & my book to read. Seems quiet here today. We'll see I guess. *goes to wander around*
 

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