Alone but still married

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kssf

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Hi - just joining now so not sure how this works. I am 77 years old almost 78 in a week. My husband is 82 and helps our son on the farm. I am alone all day - weekends sometimes he works too on the farm. He loves his farm. We do live in a community of around 4,000 people.

I do have girlfriends and belong to knitting groups, scripture group and rosary group and go out every Friday for lunch with friends. But, am still very lonely not having someone here. I do have a daughter who lives 2.5 hours from here and a son who lives 30 minutes from here. I have good kids - they are very busy - daughter has 3 kids and son has 1 son and 2 stepchildren.

I know and I feel very badly and very guilty about not going to my grandson's track games - not because I don't want to but my husband wont come with me due to the farm and I am afraid to drive alone in a big city. I only drive a distance of an hour and am just afraid of car trouble, etc and don't feel safe driving alone. I hate this about me but it is the way it is. My husband doesn't like to drive too far anymore either - so we used to go to Kansas City for 3 or 4 days and relax but he told me no more as it makes him nervous driving in a city now, so anyway this is my life.

I hope I am not writing too much about myself but thought I should introduce myself with a little bit of detail. I do enjoy diamond art and have made several and given a few for gifts but am always struggling to get over my loneliness and I don't know why I feel this way - hope it is ok to post here - not sure how I know if someone posted but will ck my email and maybe there is something in there to say I have an email? Not sure how this works. Well, anyway, here's my first post.
 

Welcome to our forum. Feel free to post and explore the site. I live in Houston but in the Clear Lake area which is away from the actual big city life. Life is slower down here. There are times I feel alone here also. My daughter lives a few miles away but she is a pharmacist and works long hours so I don't see a lot of her.
 
I understand. I get lonely, too, although I live under the same roof as my DD/DSIL. That is, under the same roof, but in a granny flat attached to their house. And I even have a job where I get to see lights and people three days a week! It's nothing I can put my finger on, just feel very alone.

It's nice to have a place like this to come to where people are friendly, there are lots of conversations going on, and you can feel free to express opinions and introduce subjects on your own.

Welcome. I hope being a member here will help alleviate your loneliness.
 
Thank you all for responding - are all of the members here seniors? I am thinking so since the name of this forum is Seniors correct? I hope I didn't post too much personal stuff - but am learning since I'm new.
 
Welcome to you! :)
We vary in age, but are all old enough to comprehend a lot of things.:giggle:

I hope you will enjoy interacting with us, and that it will fill some of your lonely time. You can post a comment on any of our subjects.
Even if a topic has gone on for a while, you can still add something, whenever you'd like to. :)
 
kssf said:
Thank you all for responding - are all of the members here seniors? I am thinking so since the name of this forum is Seniors correct? I hope I didn't post too much personal stuff - but am learning since I'm new.
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The rule of this forum is that you have to be 50 plus to become a member , so yes we have young seniors ..and seniors touching 90... so quite an age gap between the youngest and the eldest despite everyone being a 'senior'... It's a great dynamic that works well tho'...

That's me in my avatar in my mid-50's <<<<<<<<... I'm in my mid 60's now and have been on this forum for almost 8 years... :D

When you get a reply to your posts you will get a notification at the top of the page where the bell icon is...(y)

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Hi @kssf, glad you joined us here. Sorry you're feeling so lonely, but from what you've shared, I can understand. Maybe joining in some discussions here and enjoying some other lighthearted threads may help you feel not so alone.

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kssf said:
I tried to post my owl diamond art - copied it and hit paste but nothing came. Need to find another way to post it.
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Easiest way is to position your cursor in the reply box where you want the picture to go, then click on the picture icon in the tools bar above the reply box (it's the rectangular box that's to the right of the smiley face), then click on "drop image" & then choose the picture from your computer.
 
kssf said:
Thank you all for responding - are all of the members here seniors? I am thinking so since the name of this forum is Seniors correct? I hope I didn't post too much personal stuff - but am learning since I'm new.
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I'm happy you wrote every thing you did, because that's the way I feel most days.
Even tho I'm a widow now 3yrs at 91 and in good health, I started that feeling seems like in my very late 70'searly 80's
and My husband was still living.
He never said no about anything I wanted to do, he always went along with it, was 5 yrs older
and happy to just piddle with the computer or watch TV. That was not a favorite pass time for me, and now hard to get interested in it.
Hard to shake the lonely feeling.
 
Welcome from Houston ...... ever consider spending a day on your son's farm too?
It might be an interesting diversion from your daily loneliness, especially if you have grandkids there too.


Edit: I'm 78 yrs. old, grew up on a family farm, and if anyone invited me to a day on a farm these days, I would put on my jeans and jump at the chance!
Does your son have animals on the farm?
 

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