Anyone have a suicide in the family

I may be wrong but I note the Thread has been taken up again on November 2019. Deucemoi. I am wondering how you are coping and I pray that you are okay and received sustenance from the replies received.

I know what its like to want to end it all to escape and in my case in 1983 took an overdose of medication at home. I will not go into details as to the reason as it's too painful and personal.

I was admitted to my local A&E and had my stomach pumped and when I came-too got a bit if a telling off by a medic but he was kind with it. My Husband was devastated and stood by me and I wasnt sure if my Son's ever knew what their Mum tried to do to herself it has never been talked about. Its all in the past and I am well and getting on with my life and went through a very difficult time back in the early 80's. I feel that desperation makes some people go to the very edge depending on their reasons.

To want to end one's life is the most terrible decision an individual takes. Words cant describe what goes through one's mind when deciding to take the extra tablets or how it's executed. Looking back to that dark period of my life I think thank God I never succeeded as my Family would have been devastated and it made me think that attempted suicide can be a selfish decision and act. Not being able to control extreme feelings is not neccessarily a sign of mental illness in many cases but a cry for help in a desperate situation

I do hope that all who have posted in this Thread are okay and especially Deucemoi.
 

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Both the step father and the mother of three of my grandkids committed suicide over a period of two years. I've written about that here before.

There are no words to adequately describe the devastation this leaves behind, the confusion and bewilderment of the family, especially the children, that their loved ones are gone, and impossible to explain to the little ones how their parents could possibly do this to them! Of course the parents didn't target the kids with this act, but try telling that to a child. :(

I have also been suicidal. I couldn't quite manage to take the active steps necessary to end my life because I just couldn't do that to my children. But I was hopelessly depressed and apathetic, and every single night for a long time I prayed to a God I no longer believed in to allow me to just die in my sleep.
 

Make No Mistake Suicide Is Never Easy....and no I am not suicidal but I have been a few times in my 60+ years
It is the feeling of hitting rock bottom but still feeling like you're falling deeper into it
It’s the time of being so low for so long that it’s impossible to think there may ever be a glimmer of hope again
It’s being trapped in a tunnel so long back that seeing the light at the end is impossible
 
I can't believe after I read this again today I got a request on facebook from someone I didn't know. Then my cousin called and I mentioned it to her and she told me who the woman was. She as the one cheating with another of my cousins that I put in my post here . My cousin then had committed suicide and this creepy woman wants to be my friend. I never even met her and even if I had I would never want to have her as a friend.Some people are really crazy.
 
Sassycakes said:
I can't believe after I read this again today I got a request on facebook from someone I didn't know. Then my cousin called and I mentioned it to her and she told me who the woman was. She as the one cheating with another of my cousins that I put in my post here . My cousin then had committed suicide and this creepy woman wants to be my friend. I never even met her and even if I had I would never want to have her as a friend.Some people are really crazy.
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There are some sicko's out there on and off line. A bad experience with somone leaves a scar. How did you deal with this odd person..ignore her?
 
squatting dog said:
😭 Still trying to cope with daughters suicide. A fight everyday. Hard just to type this.
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Sometimes sharing serious personal issues with others and on line in a niche forum can be a catharsis. Ive found comfort from members and buddies on forums over the years and although I left them and moved on for various reasons I never forgot the succour I received.

Take care Squatting Dog....like your user 'handle' btw.☺
 
CrackerJack said:
Sometimes sharing serious personal issues with others and on line in a niche forum can be a catharsis. Ive found comfort from members and buddies on forums over the years and although I left them and moved on for various reasons I never forgot the succour I received.

Take care Squatting Dog....like your user 'handle' btw.☺
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Well, thanks for that word I never heard of before I looked it up: "Succour." :)
 
win231 said:
Well, thanks for that word I never heard of before I looked it up: "Succour." :)
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Yes and thank you, its a gentle word and probably rarely used these modern times. Maybe it's not got the U in it in the USA. I have to be careful when choosing words ive not heard of before and Google the meanings before typing on a forum messge board for fear of making a boo boo 😆 but this one I knew.
 
MemereG said:
Deucemoi, and everyone else that has lost a loved one to suicide...I am so, so sorry. I share your pain because I lost my 34 year old daughter to suicide also. She hung herself, and I was the one that found her. It's been 12 years, but many days it feels like yesterday. I keep a few battery-operated candles lit in her memory, every minute of every day. I have a small artificial tree in my room that I keep lit all the time with beautiful white lights on it. I display her reading glasses, a few pieces of jewelry, and other things of hers on it...it helps a little.

I don't know what else to say, except 'I'm sorry', and if you ever have to come to terms with a suicide of a loved one, grieve at your own pace, don't let anyone try to push you out of it. Feel the pain, let it happen, and realize there was nothing you could have done to stop it if your loved one had made up their mind. And seek out suicide support groups...they do help, mainly because everyone there will know how you feel, exactly how you feel, because they've been there also. Sending a warm hug to anyone hurting from a suicide in their lives.
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Me too 33 2016 two days before my bday. Cancer a thing with sister keeping me in the dark..... first to tell.....much more to this nightmare.
 
My stepdaughter committed suicide by jumping off the roof of a local hotel in 2003. She had tried to kill herself before by cutting both of her wrists and taking a bath. This time there was no saving her. She had acted strange for the whole time I knew her then with counseling she appeared to be getting past all that. We started having hope that she was improving, then this.

She left behind her 4 year old daughter who has been raised by my husband's ex-wife. Very hard thing for everyone in his family. I am sorry for everyone who has gone through this. I believe they just want to stop their pain and don't think about how their death will affect everyone else.

In November my ex-daughter-in-law who I used to be quite close to, committed suicide with an overdose. She had tried to kill herself before. Her daughter is having a hard time dealing with it. It is hard to know how to help anyone who has had a suicide in their life.
 
katlupe said:
My stepdaughter committed suicide by jumping off the roof of a local hotel in 2003. She had tried to kill herself before by cutting both of her wrists and taking a bath. This time there was no saving her. She had acted strange for the whole time I knew her then with counseling she appeared to be getting past all that. We started having hope that she was improving, then this. She left behind her 4 year old daughter who has been raised by my husband's ex-wife. Very hard thing for everyone in his family. I am sorry for everyone who has gone through this. I believe they just want to stop their pain and don't think about how their death will affect everyone else. In November my ex-daughter-in-law who I used to be quite close to, committed suicide with an overdose. She had tried to kill herself before. Her daughter is having a hard time dealing with it. It is hard to know how to help anyone who has had a suicide in their life.
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I am so sorry yo hear this, Katlupe. What a terrible time for you and those involved close or otherwise. Nobody can guage what is going on in the desperate minds of those who contemplate and then commit suicude. Some want to escape their situation but dont want to die and just numb out life for a while and leave a cry for help. Then those who want to die and make sure they do.
A very sad time for you and those close.
 
I lost my son last summer. He killed himself over a girl he thought he couldn't live without and we are all still trying to make sense of it. He was 53 years old and had children and grandchildren that he loved dearly. I never thought he would do something like this but he was on an antidepressant - Wellbutrin - that we think contributed to his decision. It's a lonely world for so many people at any age. He did not want to be alone.
Lynn
 
I once read a study than concluded men shoot themselves, women overdose or open their veins.

A good friend of mine's mother was an alcoholic. One night while drunk, the mother got into a warm bath and slit her wrists.

My friend was at my house the night I got the call. Her pain was unimaginable.
 
So sorry for everyone.....
I was 14 years old....My cousin the same age....When she died the family didn't give the family much about how she died...
My Mom found out at the Funeral Home....I wasn't able to go.... Mom thought I was too young....
Mom told me, cousin killed herself....I still don't know the whole story all these years....It seems she locked herself
in the bathroom and my uncle knocked the door down and found her...(It's always been a mystery for me)
God Rest her soul.
 
Edna 25 said:
A few years ago my dear sister and only sister took her life. I dearly loved her though we sometimes disagreed about politics. She was a warm, generous person. She had lost a child about ten years ago, and i think her grief contributed to her depression.
My heart goes out to anyone who has lost someone in this way.
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I'm so sorry Edna. I lost my sister the same way but many years ago. I think it's something we never get over but the pain lessens with time-not a whole lot though. Some times of the year are especially harder, too. Peace to you. 🌺
 
I've known eight suicides, well, in my life. Life is strange, death is strange. There are subtle signs in those who later kill themselves, but so subtle as to only be seen after the fact, as I have found. This does not include those with previous attempts, obviously. None of those whom I knew had tried and failed.
 
Ruthanne said:
I'm so sorry Edna. I lost my sister the same way but many years ago. I think it's something we never get over but the pain lessens with time-not a whole lot though. Some times of the year are especially harder, too. Peace to you. 🌺
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I'm sorry for the loss of your sister.
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Keesha said:
I’ve also had friends and my husband has had coworkers who have committed suicide. It’s haunting. It leaves the ones left behind wondering if there was something they could have done to prevent it. It’s extra sad because it’s not only a sinful thing according to most religions, it’s an unlawful thing. That in itself maybe why people don’t talk much about it; for fear of being locked up.
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@Keesha I don't feel there is nothing no one can do to prevent it. That's the first thing a family member ask themselves.. What could I have done.. Actually nothing. I get the sinful part of it... I truly do but on the other hand, I can relate as to the WHY... sometime life gets way too hard and you have no idea what people are going through.. its more than a notion. I faced suicide before years ago. I felt even God had turned its back on me. What kept me was the love of self and a picture o my daughter on a counter top in my house looking at me. The recent death of my sister...at one point, I felt so all alone. I had friends I could have reached out to but its a feeling you cannot explain.

I had two friends that attempted suicide but they are still here. After hearing their story, I don't fully understand but I can relate. I was faced with suicide years ago..what stopped me was a picture of my daughter looking at me and I loved myself. I think people don't reach out because they feel no one will understand...they feel so alone although they have people they can reach out to. When my sister tragically died on my birthday in November.. I recently had a moment in my life that I felt so all alone..I had friends I could have reached out to but I felt alone.. its a feeling I cannot describe. I am good now. I am continuing to work on a Self Full Life.
 

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