Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

dilettante said:
I don't see any deletions. Maybe I need to look harder?
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Maybe you do. And you know darn well what I mean because you said on that thread yourself that some of your first "gifts" to "your lady" may have been over the top. You seem to want to crucify this woman in public by giving enough clues, and while I felt sorry for you at first, sympathies are now turning toward her whether or not I agree with what she did. Stop talking about this and trying to throw her under the bus. You're no longer in high school!
 
CallMeKate said:
Maybe you do. And you know darn well what I mean because you said on that thread yourself that some of your first "gifts" to "your lady" may have been over the top.
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I can remember changing the very first image very quickly because it probably was. But you know we can only edit for a rather short interval of time before things are permanent, right?

Based on the later posts I don't see that anyone was particularly troubled though.

I wasn't the one who came in here today thumping the tub to extend this dialog further, you know. What was this all about?
CallMeKate said:
Well shoot... if you don't give a name or a hint, I'll spend waaaaay too much time trying to figure it out. :oops: I must be the most naive person on the planet to have not realized that stuff is going on here... in this FORUM??!! Well, okay, there was something really weird going on with that Christmas gift thread, but ...
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It sounds like people are getting crabby because I won't out the individual. :unsure:
 
CallMeKate said:
Maybe you do. And you know darn well what I mean because you said on that thread yourself that some of your first "gifts" to "your lady" may have been over the top. You seem to want to crucify this woman in public by giving enough clues, and while I felt sorry for you at first, sympathies are now turning toward her whether or not I agree with what she did. Stop talking about this and trying to throw her under the bus. You're no longer in high school!
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well I've just read it all... dear lord..what a tangled web... thank God I never got a gift....:rolleyes::oops:
 
Well I guess I can just stay out of these threads and anything similar, stick to less hazardous parts of the site, never like a post, and never dare hint at a compliment much less anything "flirty."
 
CallMeKate said:
Yeah, I even played along before I realized what was going on behind the scenes and asked for one. :rolleyes:
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yes often I smell these things quite soon after they start, so altho' I posted on there it wasn't to ask or give any kind of virtual gift... not my scene... seen it all play it before...
 
dilettante said:
Well I guess I can just stay out of these threads and anything similar, stick to less hazardous parts of the site, never like a post, and never dare hint at a compliment much less anything "flirty."
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Why do you feel that you had to post this in this first place on the forum ? Why couldn't you have just told this woman that you're not interested by PM, and left it at that.. ?...like many of the men who've had similar approaches here.. ?
 
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dilettante said:
Sounds like the verdict is to leave the island then.
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Hasta Luego.....
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JeeperDon said:
What would you rather have them ask?
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From a woman's point of view, I would want to be asked what my interests are. From both sides it is the same, everyone is surely looking to share life with someone who has a similar outlook, is normal, decent and has a good sense of humour. The basics are simple.

Yet my friends who have tried internet dating tell me many men are simply awful. They want only one thing and many are married anyway. Women apparently can be as bad, some treat dating as a hobby, a free dinner and night out regularly if they can get the man to pay.

It's a minefield and quite dangerous for anyone who is vulnerable and lonely - man or woman.
 
I guess all of this drama has gone straight over my head. I have no idea what is being discussed here. Perhaps someone could give me the Cole's Notes?

Actually, scratch that. I've got better things to do with my time.
 
John cycling said:
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How is this relevant? The last posts there are from December 23rd. This issue didn't boil over for the final time until two days ago.

I'm beginning to resent these accusations and implications. I'm the wronged party here.

I think I know where some of this is coming from now. Some people desperately want me to out the other party. Sorry to disappoint you, but I won't be goaded into that.
 
@dilettante, no don't be goaded into that. When I first joined I also recieved messages that asked questions about some of my posts, just looking for something to gossip about.

There is no reason to reveal anything, that would just compound the problem. I have not received any PM questioning anything about any other member since I refused to say anything about anyone.

I am more than happy to have conversations with anyone but I will not talk down about anyone here. What I told those that asked questions is that is serves no purpose. If you have done wrong in your own mind the best thing to do is apolgize directly and sincerely to the person and move on. I think women are more prone to this and by this age we should know better. Watch that movie "Mean Girls". It only leads to horrible things.
 
Anyway back to the Topic.... I was just thinking if I ever do meet another man.. I absolutely wouldn't want anyone who takes illicit drugs.. that's anything from cannabis to stronger drugs... I also am not and wouldn't be, interested in any man whose more than a social drinker..
 
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