Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

@Teacher Terry I saw a funny comdian on Reddit yesterday - the clip did not mention her name. She was so funny because she said, "I am attracted to men, but I dont find men attractive."

All the women in the audience LAUGHED. She went on to explain (paraphrased): "Men, do you have to wear a hat everywhere?" She pointed to a male-female couple and said, "Look at her. She looks great. She put in some effort for this date, and look at you." (The guy. He had 5-day stubble, was wearing some plaid workshirt, and, of course, a cap. Some stupid logo cap on his head). "Look at you - you didn't even TRY."

The young women were laughing so loudly in agreement.
 
Teacher Terry said:
You want a servant and not an equal partner. I am sick of taking care of lazy men. I would never live with anyone again because of this. My life is easy now just taking care of myself and my dogs. No one is making messes for me to clean up and I can always find everything because it’s in its place. I cook only when I want to.
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Not at all, I do all the work around the house that a woman cannot do. Plumbing, Carpentry, Remodeling. I think a fair trade off. My opinion. I stay busy all the time and keep a beautiful home. But, I do agree that most guys our age do not want to do any work. In my neighborhood it is an epidemic. Thinking everything has to be hired out and done for them.
The really sad part of it in my neighborhood is that is keeps allot of them broke. Horrible way of life. Even at 71 I still invest and enjoy it. My hobby. If I had to hire out every little thing I would be in the same boat.
I just bought a jack hammer and concert mixer and poured a new sidewalk, even as independent as most women are they could not lift or want to do that kind of work. I loved it. And she was happy to bring me a drink of cold water once in a while.
 

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I lost interest in dating after Junior High School. If the situation came up where I met someone I was interested in, it would go from there. Many didn't last that long, but that changed when I was 36 and met Misa. We have been "going from there" for 38 years. :)

Edit: I was wondering why that would differ so much meeting each other online.? I know that communicating is harder, but if you have things in common maybe it is worth "investigating" further.?
 
John cycling said:
Are all women the same? Obviously not.
Yet many woman persist in thinking that all men are the same.
With that kind of a mindset, it is not at all surprising to me that such women only find what they see.
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The woman's movement in the US has done its work. Luckily you can leave the US and just cross a border and find wonderful smart beautiful women that still like men.
 
Women are less feminine, I agree. Men are less manly. Women have to take care of things themselves, waiting for a man to help...you will be waiting awhile. I worked 12 hours a day, 6 days a week for years, got off work.. cleaned, cooked and took care of 3 kids. Met a man he helped me raise those 3, and 1 we had. He was great, he worked and helped out. I worked and took care of everyone, he passed almost 4 years ago. I take care of me now, I fix what needs fixing...Not feminine? I could care less. I once thought about being in a relationship, then thought what for? I like taking care of myself, I've earned it.
 
garyknrd said:
Not at all, I do all the work around the house that a woman cannot do. Plumbing, Carpentry, Remodeling. I think a fair trade off. My opinion. I stay busy all the time and keep a beautiful home. But, I do agree that most guys our age do not want to do any work. In my neighborhood it is an epidemic. Thinking everything has to be hired out and done for them.
The really sad part of it in my neighborhood is that is keeps allot of them broke. Horrible way of life. Even at 71 I still invest and enjoy it. My hobby. If I had to hire out every little thing I would be in the same boat.
I just bought a jack hammer and concert mixer and poured a new sidewalk, even as independent as most women are they could not lift or want to do that kind of work. I loved it. And she was happy to bring me a drink of cold water once in a while.
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Unless you’re remodeling an entire house the work you described being done by men is only necessary occasionally. Cooking, cleaning, laundry are daily tasks and drudgery. That’s why men don’t want to do them.
 
I had a friend who was in his 60s. He had been trying to find a female companion on dating sites for a year. He was very dissatisfied. He said he felt sorry for the time he'd wasted. By the way, he is an educated and financially secure man. I think his tactics and requests were wrong from the beginning, which is why he was not satisfied.
 
@garyknrd So, it sounds like your relationship is based on the work you do for one another. You work at man's jobs and she does her lady's work, right?

It sounds like a home business. You're the boss and she's the employee. Now, consider this: if either of you had a terrible car accident and became a parapeligic, would the the relationship survive? If she could not bring you drinks anymore, would the relationship survive? If she can't do her lady's work for you anymore, how would you cope?

Conversly, if you had a stroke and did not bounce back from that well, like it left you in a wheelchair most of the time and you cannot pour concrete anymore, would your relationship survive? If you can't even work a computer mouse after the stroke, so there goes your online hobbies, would the relationship survive?

See? You have everything so neatly DIVIDED and compartmentalized. Your Kingdom is just like you like it. What happens when Fate stetps in and messes up all your expectations?

What work is she allowed to do then? If she's the one paralyzed, what work can she do for you? Do you hire a maid then?
 
This thread reminds me of this great Country tune, "Put Another Log on the Fire" by Tompall Glaser.

Put another log on the fire.
Cook me up some bacon and some beans.
And go out to the car and change the tire.
Wash my socks and sew my old blue jeans.
Come on, baby, you can fill my pipe,
And then go fetch my slippers.
And boil me up another pot of tea.
Then put another log on the fire, babe,
And come and tell me why you're leaving me.

Now don't I let you wash the car on Sunday?
Don't I warn you when you're gettin fat?
Ain't I a-gonna take you fishin' with me someday?
Well, a man can't love a woman more than that.
Ain't I always nice to your kid sister?
Don't I take her driving every night?
So, sit here at my feet 'cos I like you when you're sweet,
And you know it ain't feminine to fight.

So, put another log on the fire.
Cook me up some bacon and some beans.
Go out to the car and lift it up and change the tire.
Wash my socks and sew my old blue jeans.
Come on, baby, you can fill my pipe,
And then go fetch my slippers.
And boil me up another pot of tea.
Then put another log on the fire, babe,
And come and tell me why you're leaving me.
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Everybody sing along now!
 
VintageBetter said:
This thread reminds me of this great Country tune, "Put Another Log on the Fire" by Tompall Glaser.
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Oh my goodness, I haven't heard this in many years... but I remember every word. :giggle: Every time I heard it, I always wondered if this guy wants a romantic life partner or a slave slash maid. I'm even gritting my teeth more now than I did back then. But I'll be quiet 'cause you know "it ain't feminine to fight." 🤯 @VintageBetter
 
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Kir7 said:
I had a friend who was in his 60s. He had been trying to find a female companion on dating sites for a year. He was very dissatisfied. He said he felt sorry for the time he'd wasted. By the way, he is an educated and financially secure man. I think his tactics and requests were wrong from the beginning, which is why he was not satisfied.
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what were they ?
 
@CallMeKate It's a great song. Very sing-alongable. My favorite lyrics:

Now don't I let you wash the car on Sunday?
Don't I warn you when you're gettin fat?
Ain't I a-gonna take you fishin' with me someday?
Well, a man can't love a woman more than that.
 
There are a couple channels on YouTube that upload regular videos on the situations that some “passport bros” get themselves into. It’s pretty awful. They get lured into the fantasy they have in their mind and next thing you know they are destitute and homeless in a foreign country. When it comes to chauvinism, no matter where you go, there you are.
 
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@garyknrd So, it sounds like your relationship is based on the work you do for one another. You work at man's jobs and she does her lady's work, right?

It sounds like a home business. You're the boss and she's the employee. Now, consider this: if either of you had a terrible car accident and became a parapeligic, would the the relationship survive? If she could not bring you drinks anymore, would the relationship survive? If she can't do her lady's work for you anymore, how would you cope?

Conversly, if you had a stroke and did not bounce back from that well, like it left you in a wheelchair most of the time and you cannot pour concrete anymore, would your relationship survive? If you can't even work a computer mouse after the stroke, so there goes your online hobbies, would the relationship survive?

See? You have everything so neatly DIVIDED and compartmentalized. Your Kingdom is just like you like it. What happens when Fate stetps in and messes up all your expectations?

What work is she allowed to do then? If she's the one paralyzed, what work can she do for you? Do you hire a maid then?
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Hahaha
 
VintageBetter said:
This thread reminds me of this great Country tune, "Put Another Log on the Fire" by Tompall Glaser.

Put another log on the fire.
Cook me up some bacon and some beans.
And go out to the car and change the tire.
Wash my socks and sew my old blue jeans.
Come on, baby, you can fill my pipe,
And then go fetch my slippers.
And boil me up another pot of tea.
Then put another log on the fire, babe,
And come and tell me why you're leaving me.

Now don't I let you wash the car on Sunday?
Don't I warn you when you're gettin fat?
Ain't I a-gonna take you fishin' with me someday?
Well, a man can't love a woman more than that.
Ain't I always nice to your kid sister?
Don't I take her driving every night?
So, sit here at my feet 'cos I like you when you're sweet,
And you know it ain't feminine to fight.

So, put another log on the fire.
Cook me up some bacon and some beans.
Go out to the car and lift it up and change the tire.
Wash my socks and sew my old blue jeans.
Come on, baby, you can fill my pipe,
And then go fetch my slippers.
And boil me up another pot of tea.
Then put another log on the fire, babe,
And come and tell me why you're leaving me.
**********************
Everybody sing along now!
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Copied this, I have 3 daughters...Don't want them finding a "Master" type man!
 
@MaryM58 My ex-husband treated me like he was my boss during the marriage, especially in the last years, and then doubled-down on that treatment after the divorce.

I wish I could stop remembering that kind of treatment, but sadly, there is an awful lot of it spewing from famous men in politics. So, if I read a newspaper or watch the news, I am reminded. I see male characters typifying that kind of behavior in TV dramas sometimes too.

I guess if I just watched QVC in the evenings, I'd be OK. ;)
 
hollydolly said:
what were they ?
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He at once demonstrated that he had money, and he was flooded with messages from young girls of 25 and older, including prostitutes. He was interested in women 45-60 years old, well educated, intelligent, but when he met such women, he found that many of them had psychological issues. It is unlikely that a perfectly matched 'he' and 'she' will find each other on dating sites anytime soon, it is a matter of luck and chance.

My experience in all matters suggests - who seeks, he finds, but it can happen in a year or ten years.
 
EmptyCup said:
There are a couple channels on YouTube that upload regular videos on the situations that some “passport bros” get themselves into. It’s pretty awful. They get lured into the fantasy they have in their mind and next thing you know they are destitute and homeless in a foreign country. When it comes to chauvinism, no matter where you go, there you are.
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I have been traveling for over 15 years now. I never once had a problem. Those video's are for click bait mostly. All of my friends laugh those off and keep on trucking. I am always amazed at all the armchair critics that don't have the funds or the ambition to get out and enjoy life.
Honestly it is really a joke at this point. Women and men in the US that don't get out much. Don't even have a passport and think they can talk about the subject.
It is really sad IMHO.
Even sadder is the state of allot of retiree's that did not plan for retirement.
 
garyknrd said:
I have been traveling for over 15 years now. I never once had a problem. Those video's are for click bait mostly. All of my friends laugh those off and keep on trucking. I am always amazed at all the armchair critics that don't have the funds or the ambition to get out and enjoy life.
Honestly it is really a joke at this point. Women and men in the US that don't get out much. Don't even have a passport and think they can talk about the subject.
It is really sad IMHO.
Even sadder is the state of allot of retiree's that did not plan for retirement.
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You sound like you have enjoyed your life and still do. Way to go. You travel a lot to Mexico? I had friends who have travelled a lot down that way. It's a whole new world I would imagine. I haven't been out of the states. I have been in several different states and travelled quite a bit in the US, but never got overseas, or north or south of the border. I do read a lot of different countries and can view videos and see pictures of the different places. That is kind a like traveling. But, there is nothing like a home cooked meal in a different land I bet. :) Where are you off to next and when?
 
Paco Dennis said:
You sound like you have enjoyed your life and still do. Way to go. You travel a lot to Mexico? I had friends who have travelled a lot down that way. It's a whole new world I would imagine. I haven't been out of the states. I have been in several different states and travelled quite a bit in the US, but never got overseas, or north or south of the border. I do read a lot of different countries and can view videos and see pictures of the different places. That is kind a like traveling. But, there is nothing like a home cooked meal in a different land I bet. :) Where are you off to next and when?
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In 15 years I have lived in Malaysia, Thailand, Cambodia, Mexico ( I live in Texas and not far from the border) I drive down to the Yucatan and central Mexico. I have lived in Colombia and visited many more places.
Heading to Colombia to finish my implants next month and will stay 6 months exploring the coastal region. I don't like the city much..
Cheers and happy travels.
 

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