Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

hollydolly said:
why, what is it that you think women don't like about you ?:unsure:
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I am far too humble. No one is more humble
hollydolly said:
you know what Im thinking...I'm thinking if I ever meet up with someone...I'm going to tell them I'm dressed in Red, when I'm really dressed in Black... say at a restaurant.. or a park.. and I'm going to sit and watch their behaviour for about 15 minutes after they arrive, before I decide whether to introduce myself... :D
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Were you trained in what spies and secret agents call “street craft’?
 

As humans we all avoid direct communications, or face to face! But that is the very best way to meet someone and get enough information to determine if they are someone you want to get to know.

If someone is serious about meeting someone to be a friend or even more, it is best done face to face. I think you have to go somewhere that you can see and meet some people. Sporting event, church, join a choir, go to a museum, restaurant, join a group to practice or learn (take lessons) a new hobby (Playing music, painting, cooking, Do volunteer work, etc. etc.) Get out of the house, meet people and go after it.... don't sit and wish your life away!
 

Timewise 60+ said:
As humans we all avoid direct communications, or face to face! But that is the very best way to meet someone and get enough information to determine if they are someone you want to get to know.

If someone is serious about meeting someone to be a friend or even more, it is best done face to face. I think you have to go somewhere that you can see and meet some people. Sporting event, church, join a choir, go to a museum, restaurant, join a group to practice or learn (take lessons) a new hobby (Playing music, painting, cooking, Do volunteer work, etc. etc.) Get out of the house, meet people and go after it.... don't sit and wish your life away!
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After what I saw on dating sites I would rather sit at home with my doggie 😂
 
Timewise 60+ said:
As humans we all avoid direct communications, or face to face! But that is the very best way to meet someone and get enough information to determine if they are someone you want to get to know.

If someone is serious about meeting someone to be a friend or even more, it is best done face to face. I think you have to go somewhere that you can see and meet some people. Sporting event, church, join a choir, go to a museum, restaurant, join a group to practice or learn (take lessons) a new hobby (Playing music, painting, cooking, Do volunteer work, etc. etc.) Get out of the house, meet people and go after it.... don't sit and wish your life away!
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I live in a rural area.. the only little clubs around here are for children......
 
Ruthanne said:
After what I saw on dating sites I would rather sit at home with my doggie 😂
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I think you missed the point! The folks that avoid face to face contact are on dating sites. Go out and meet people and you will find a better mix of people. Still may be some dud's.... but some of the 'good ones' are their also...
 
Timewise 60+ said:
I think you missed the point! The folks that avoid face to face contact are on dating sites. Go out and meet people and you will find a better mix of people. Still may be some dud's.... but some of the 'good ones' are their also...
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it's a different world to when we were young..people just rarely meet in the pubs, clubs, dance halls now.. it's almost archaic ... it's all done online these days...
 
C50 said:
I know that sounds like a good approach but personally I have found it best to meet quickly. I like to say the only way to know if you're truly attracted to someone is to give them the sniff test.

Online or even phone calls puts a filter or buffer between you and the other person. It's easy to create an imagined idea of someone but when you meet they're totally different than you expected, and that's a two way street.

My approach was to connect online, get some preliminaries out of the way then meet, within a week. Obviously you need to be safe, only meet in public, tell a friend or family member all the details of the meetup.
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Glad that has worked out well for you, but it certainly wouldn't be my choice. Over the years I have found that superficial attractions have been the fatal flaw in way too many relationships (Including all the celebrity ones). The attraction forces one's mind into discounting all the stuff they should be paying attention to, and the eyes persuade the brain to believe things that it shouldn't.
I think physical attraction is important, but I would reserve it till you first discover what's inside. In the end, if you discover no physical chemistry, you just let them know that, and move on. I guess I've just never been one to buy a book because I like the cover. To each his own though.
 
Timewise 60+ said:
I think you missed the point! The folks that avoid face to face contact are on dating sites. Go out and meet people and you will find a better mix of people. Still may be some dud's.... but some of the 'good ones' are their also...
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Yes, I have thought that too. I have serious illness and don't feel so good very often, though, who'd be interested in a sick person anyhow tho?
 
Some Spy trips to the larger towns should enter the bucket list.
Make the trips fun, entertaining and productive. The Guy will notice.
If he likes you, he will introduce himself. Call it impulsiveness.
Practice your part as the seductress, he the strutter. :ROFLMAO:
 
hollydolly said:
it's a different world to when we were young..people just rarely meet in the pubs, clubs, dance halls now.. it's almost archaic ... it's all done online these days...
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Well, maybe you could seek out a part time job or volunteer at men's golf tournaments, bowling leagues, races, fishing derby's, and that sort. Just make sure they're not wearing a ring, and then flash them the famous H.D. smile, and the rest will be history.
 
bobcat48 said:
Well, maybe you could seek out a part time job or volunteer at men's golf tournaments, bowling leagues, races, fishing derby's, and that sort. Just make sure they're not wearing a ring, and then flash them the famous H.D. smile, and the rest will be history.
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Bingo! So many avoid face to face opportunities because it is harder to do than email, texts, etc. Being with people increases your odds of meeting someone new over any other option...and you can avoid the many creepy people in dating sights...
 
I have been divorced for a very long time and during that time I have been in many relationships. I have never thought of remarrying during any of the relationships as during some of them I was raising my son and also was teaching. Now that I have retired and my son is 40 years old, I am rethinking things a bit. As a Senior it is harder to find that Mr. Right as I am not going to go to the club and pick up a man anymore or down to the local bar. I have thought about joining a Seniors Dating App and see how it goes. I enjoy travelling and now that I am retired, I really would love some male companionship to join me. I still don't know if any of this will lead to marriage, but now that I am retired and my son is all grown up it is all about Me now and if it is right then it might just happen.
 
Retired Monica said:
I have been divorced for a very long time and during that time I have been in many relationships. I have never thought of remarrying during any of the relationships as during some of them I was raising my son and also was teaching. Now that I have retired and my son is 40 years old, I am rethinking things a bit. As a Senior it is harder to find that Mr. Right as I am not going to go to the club and pick up a man anymore or down to the local bar. I have thought about joining a Seniors Dating App and see how it goes. I enjoy travelling and now that I am retired, I really would love some male companionship to join me. I still don't know if any of this will lead to marriage, but now that I am retired and my son is all grown up it is all about Me now and if it is right then it might just happen.
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Precisely my thoughts Monica.... and welcome to the forum....
 
Retired Monica said:
Thank You hollydolly. I think at my age and I suppose also at your age we can call the shots. If it isn't something that is perfect then why go into it. Where I am in life, I need that Knight in shining armor to sweep me off my feet. That will lead me down the aisle again perhaps.
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You're right.. at our ages.. I'm 68 we know what we want. Unlike you... I'm not looking for another husband..I still have one but our marriage broke down 2 years ago almost to this very day...:(

I just want a really happy casual relationship, ....it's too soon for me to think of anything more serious than that
 
hollydolly said:
You're right.. at our ages.. I'm 68 we know what we want. Unlike you... I'm not looking for another husband..I still have one but our marriage broke down 2 years ago almost to this very day...:(

I just want a really happy casual relationship, ....it's too soon for me to think of anything more serious than that
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I am 65 years old and have been divorced for many years now(since my son was 4 years old and now he is 40.) I never remarried during all of that time because I was raising him part of that time and also working as a teacher. I dated several men during those years and even as early as late 2022 I dated. I just never had that notion of getting married because I was working and I was content with just casual relationships.

Now I just retired at the end of this school year and here I am with no work and of course my son is on his own and married and I have a granddaughter that I love and is the joy of my life, but in the back of my head I am asking myself do I want that life companion to live the rest of my days out with me and travel and all of that. I am still not 100% set on it and will still just date and see what happens. If something gets really serious than you never know. In the mean time, I will just have fun.
 
Maybe SF should open a thread on dating, you know, for those who wish to meet and form relationships. Does that make sense? I know this isn't a dating site, but there are plenty of single women and men on SF that have voiced about being lonely, and a few times about dating online. @hollydolly, I don't want to derail your thread, just see if there is any interest in this. Do you think it might open up a can of worms (bringing in people that might not be Seniors).
 
palides2021 said:
Maybe SF should open a thread on dating, you know, for those who wish to meet and form relationships. Does that make sense? I know this isn't a dating site, but there are plenty of single women and men on SF that have voiced about being lonely, and a few times about dating online. @hollydolly, I don't want to derail your thread, just see if there is any interest in this. Do you think it might open up a can of worms (bringing in people that might not be Seniors).
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I think it’s a really good idea. It seems like there’s a lot of interest in the topic and Holly did say she’s lost interest in joining such a site. Maybe others are also intimidated by going to such sites.

Since many members know each other here, maybe it would be a great place for those to meet others, if only just for some comforting friendship.

From talking to other members, many of them are sinking into depression just from sheer loneliness and if there’s a ‘need’ why not try to find some type of solution. I think it’s a fine idea.

You might consider asking Matrix about this question/ idea, but if it gets opened, you have to moderate it. I think you’d make a great moderator.
 
palides2021 said:
Maybe SF should open a thread on dating, you know, for those who wish to meet and form relationships. Does that make sense? I know this isn't a dating site, but there are plenty of single women and men on SF that have voiced about being lonely, and a few times about dating online. @hollydolly, I don't want to derail your thread, just see if there is any interest in this. Do you think it might open up a can of worms (bringing in people that might not be Seniors).
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I think it would be great if it could work, but the major obstacle I see is geographical. The odds of you finding someone on here that lives within 100 miles of you is pretty remote (At least from what I've seen), and even if that unlikely occurrence were to happen, the odds of you both being a great match would be a miracle. If a person is into long distance relationships, I guess that's another matter, but for the most part, it seems daunting.
Lol, we could all book a cruise together, however, when the cruise was over, you would still be faced with the same problem. But then again, what happens at sea stays at sea ;) .
 
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palides2021 said:
Maybe SF should open a thread on dating, you know, for those who wish to meet and form relationships. Does that make sense? I know this isn't a dating site, but there are plenty of single women and men on SF that have voiced about being lonely, and a few times about dating online. @hollydolly, I don't want to derail your thread, just see if there is any interest in this. Do you think it might open up a can of worms (bringing in people that might not be Seniors).
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For what it's worth, I'm voting for that can of worms you mentioned. I think dating apps and sites are fine for meeting someone locally or even semi-locally, but SF is global and there are all kinds of potential problems that could arise.

As for the loneliness, I don't think it needs a dedicated thread because that's already what some of us are doing... forming close friendships, and it isn't really a "singles" issue because everyone gets lonely. I've seen members sharing and forming closeness woven throughout threads that are already here.

But... that's just me weighing in. I've been glad to have a site that *doesn't* open itself to the things that "dating sites" always seem to end up being.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
I think it’s a really good idea. It seems like there’s a lot of interest in the topic and Holly did say she’s lost interest in joining such a site. Maybe others are also intimidated by going to such sites.

Since many members know each other here, maybe it would be a great place for those to meet others, if only just for some comforting friendship.

From talking to other members, many of them are sinking into depression just from sheer loneliness and if there’s a ‘need’ why not try to find some type of solution. I think it’s a fine idea.

You might consider asking Matrix about this question/ idea, but if it gets opened, you have to moderate it. I think you’d make a great moderator.
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Thanks for the vote of confidence, @Peppermint Patty! But I won't have time to moderate anything once classes begin in a few weeks. Maybe we can take a poll and see if there's any interest first before asking Matrix. Just a thought.
 

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