Are they all like this today?

Aunt Bea said:
I think Warrigal is talking about one of these.

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Aunt Bea, You are probably the only one (So far) with the logical answer.
I've seen many of those in use; many different models. I'll probably need one
myself one of these days. Thanks for that post.
 

AprilSun said:
Are most adult kids today like this? I have two children and because I've had to quit driving and live alone, I need help with transportation and picking up my medications, etc. sometimes. One thinks that because they take me to doctors, etc., they have the right to tell me which ones I can not see. I say as long as I'm paying for it, it is my decision. But, because I refuse to change, this child has refused to help with my transportation or anything else and the other always says, "I have to work" and will not take me anywhere even in emergencies. I needed stitches just the other day, and I asked if they would take me and I was told, "I have to work". Oh, they said if I couldn't find anyone else "that they would work something out". But, it's not other people's place to take me. It is my kids place to help me out but they don't see it that way. This is the response each time I ask so it's hard to believe that they can't take off when it is necessary for an emergency. Are they all like this? I hope not!
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No, but I sure understand your problem. I have a daughter that is pretty accommodating as well as two adult grand daughters. I use Uber most of the time for my appointments and have prescriptions delivered to me. Daughter and grand daughters all work and I try not to abuse their time. For me it's a desire to be as independent for as long as is possible. I have never felt it is child's responsibility to care for a parent. Using your computer can help you with many things.

HOW OLD ARE YOU APRIL SUN?
 
Lon said:
No, but I sure understand your problem. I have a daughter that is pretty accommodating as well as two adult grand daughters. I use Uber most of the time for my appointments and have prescriptions delivered to me. Daughter and grand daughters all work and I try not to abuse their time. For me it's a desire to be as independent for as long as is possible. I have never felt it is a child's responsibility to care for a parent. Using your computer can help you with many things.
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That's how I feel about it, too. After I was involved in a serious car accident, whenever my son younger son had to take time off work to help me I felt like I was taking food out of my grandkids' mouths. He was always willing to help, but I'd only call on him as a last resort.
 
I'll get it worked out but I was just wondering if they were all like this. That is the only reason I asked.
 
AprilSun said:
I'll get it worked out but I was just wondering if they were all like this. That is the only reason I asked.
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Not all, AprilSun. But try not to be too hard on your kids (or yourself, for that matter). Often, about the time in our lives when we need their help, it's the time when their lives get bogged down with some pretty serious stuff.
 
I'm 72 years old and mine still think I should be driving them around when needed, so unless I live to 100, I guess there will never be a time when they return the favour.

I have now called a halt, one no longer talks to me, the other one, I'm reasonably sure I could count on - in a pinch.

So, April Sun, I guess I have to say, like everyone else, no they're not all the same, but enough of them sure are. Their generation often refers to baby boomers as the selfish generation. Well, I have my own ideas about that, as I'm sure, do you. ;)
 
There's always exceptions to most things in life and kids are no exception But, in general, I think we "reap what we sow".
If you've always been there for your kids, including when they are grown with families, and not just with a checkbook, the attitude tends to prevail in your family. help is offered and accepted as a part of family life.

Some of us retire and head off to enjoy "the good life". Nothing wrong with that but you're also not there to help with the day to day problems that hinder family members. When you near the end of the trail, become somewhat feeble, you may then be looking for that helping hand and find that it's not there. Some folks rely on acquaintances and some on family. The choice is ours but we can't expect (the other players --our kids) to accept a rule change when the "game" goes against us.
 
April, I'm so sorry to read that your children are so inconsiderate of your needs! OMGoodness no...not all adult children are like that. I know if my son wasn't on the road, often in another state, and I called him he'd be right here. He's attentive when I'm not ailing. It breaks my heart to read about parents who get treated in the way that you are being treated after all their sacrifices. In case of another emergency that doesn't require an ambulance, if you have Uber or Lyft available in your town and you have a credit or debit card, sign up. They come fast and everybody I know who's used (them) and most reviewers have had a positive experience.
 
Thank you again everyone. I'll get it worked out eventually but I do appreciate your responses! I'm just glad they're not all like this!
 
April, this may not apply to your kids, but....

Increasingly, jobs are either short-term or not full-time. Such workers don't usually receive paid time off. We have a relative who works for Bloomingdale's - because they like her, they give her just enough hours to obtain benefits. The majority of their workers actually do not receive full benefits.

Also, I saw a drastic change in company policies even before I stopped working. Around the late 1990's, companies big and small switched to PTO time. No more separate vacation and sick leave accumulations. Everybody got a flat amount, pro-rated only if you joined after the first quarter of the year. The net effect was the way it was calculated by companies, workers lost on average 2-4 days off per year.

It's very, very hard on workers who are "sandwiched" - take time off for your kids, or perhaps a home emergency, and you may not have more than a couple of vacation days left for the entire year.
 
Lethe200 said:
April, this may not apply to your kids, but....

Increasingly, jobs are either short-term or not full-time. Such workers don't usually receive paid time off. We have a relative who works for Bloomingdale's - because they like her, they give her just enough hours to obtain benefits. The majority of their workers actually do not receive full benefits.

Also, I saw a drastic change in company policies even before I stopped working. Around the late 1990's, companies big and small switched to PTO time. No more separate vacation and sick leave accumulations. Everybody got a flat amount, pro-rated only if you joined after the first quarter of the year. The net effect was the way it was calculated by companies, workers lost on average 2-4 days off per year.

It's very, very hard on workers who are "sandwiched" - take time off for your kids, or perhaps a home emergency, and you may not have more than a couple of vacation days left for the entire year.
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I've seen people get fired for being gone too much. If I had up and left (for anything other than a major emergency) in the middle of a crunch, I wouldn't have had a job to come back to.
 

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