For my mothers case, she lived into her nineties but when in her late 70's, while living in a elder shelter place after selling her house, she fell and could no longer live independently. So my sister took mom to several places and helped her decide on which to take. It was a nice place, built for such use and designed properly.
To get in mom had to give her SS, insurances, banks accounts, and become poor. That meant that some money she had set aside to distribute to the five kids was gone too. No biggie at all, just a fact. So that was something that should have been set aside without her name on it years earlier.
I lived half way across the US but every chance I got I would go visit her. She seemed to enjoy the surroundings and care. Her doctor would come and visit on a frequent schedule. I was there one afternoon when he walked in. A pretty nice man to talk to.
They were fed well, accommodated well, had frequent laundry and fresh sheets on a schedule. They were taken into the shower frequently. Occasionally they had trips on the homes buses to go see the 'colors' of the fall, or blossoms of spring. It was in general a very nice place for all. There was on section for those of mental failures where they were kept locked in with supervisors to care for them.
I was pleased for her keeping and had no problems that she had to become technically poor in order to be able to enter. At her age in the 80's I doubt that the never exposed amount she had set aside for the five of us was really too great. If anyone was wrong it was her financial adviser that did not make sure she distributed prior to the cut off date. Knowing that mom and dad grew up through the depression, 2 world wars, days when houses were in the below $10,000 prices but now selling for higher that $100,000 (same house), 5 kids, any thing they had set aside would be small compared to the current prices of things. Knowing they had our interest in mind was the important thing for me.
She was well cared for, lived to 97, seemed to be OK until her last year or so when we could see her fail.
So for me. Do I blame my mother? Not at all. Do I blame the system? No. She did quite well within the system. Should things be changed? Maybe. Depends on how it might be changed. Nothing should be changed to where nobody has to plan ahead. Everybody gets to have the same care for free is wrong. Too many variables that need sorted out. But how?
Wealthy can afford to hide wealth, the lower income can not. Not a healthy way to go. How do we get the lower income folks to set aside funds for after they retire by choice or by law? No way. No guarantee that all will live alike while working or in retirement. Really don't want that type of government to be in charge either. I see no place in this world where all can live alike except in pure poverty conditions. We don't really want that to be the only way for all to live.