Are You Exceptionally Likable? 9 Reasons People Decide They Like You

911 said:
You make some good points. Speeding, at one time, was a high priority with handing out citations. Not so much anymore. Drivers and cars have both become more safer. Back in the day, autos weren't as safe or as predictable as they are now. Same for the drivers. Most police that I have spoken with have upped their allowable limits before citing a driver.

For example, when I retired the speed limit on the PA Turnpike was 70 mph. The Barrack's Sergeant told us what speed to arrest on when we did radar duty. In most cases, we would allow 10 mph over, but when traffic would be lighter, like during the winter, we may allow 15 over. And, even if a driver was over the allowable limit and if the driver had a good record, which we would learn after we entered his license number into our computer, no citations in last 5 years or accidents, we may cut them a break, but only if they treated the Trooper with respect. Drivers need to learn that the police are only doing their job by trying to keep everyone safe. If a driver wants to hammer on a Trooper or any poiceman, then chances are he will be writing a check. Like we always say: "You don't have to like me or agree with what I am telling you, but you do have to respect the uniform."

I have also taken into consideration that the driver's insurance rate would probably go up by me writing a ticket, so that was always a decision that sometimes was hard to make. Just be careful out there. I think Pennsylvania is now using the LIDAR system, instead of the old radar, or at least that's what I have been hearing. We are also using cameras in work zones because we can't cover all that's out there that needs covered. A lot of towns here in PA are disbanding their police department and putting it on the backs of the State Police, so yeah, the PA State Police is busy.
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Funny true story. Last spring we were in South Padre Island...now those of you that know the area know its heavily patrolled by the Border Patrol. But, with that said, in this case my hub was going 45 in a 30 mph school zone. We got stopped and years ago I learned something ...so said "officer, he should have known it was a school zone even if school was not in session", then I kind of yelled at my husband about not obeying the law. The policeman cracked a smile and just gave him a warning.

Learned years ago that officers love to have wives say funny things to their husbands like "go ahead, give him a ticket, we cheated death again."
 
kburra said:
Are You Exceptionally Likable?
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I'm not at all "exceptionally likable" online. My 4 children, 2 dogs, and family all let me know daily how much they like and love me but the lovefest stops online...except the non-judgmental members (you know who you are, thank you).

I'm completely open about my religious views, which some disagree with and dislike me for (and hate me for) but I don't want friends like that anyway...those who deny my freedom of religion and freedom of speech. Being bullied or shunned by them doesn't cause me to change who I am....and they hate that too.

But I do remove myself from their religiously motivated threads once they get ugly...even though their thread topics bait Believers like "Do You Believe in Angels"...then switch to welcoming only Unbeliever's to participate. I'm not alone. Religious threads have very few believers and usually no participants. Occasionally a believer will post a sentence or two as they guard their words for fear of losing friends. I don't.
 

A few days ago, I was elected to drive a neighbor home from cataract surgery. As I read kburra’s nine criteria, I thought of that neighbor, who talked constantly for an hour and a half, and almost entirely to complain about his “friends.” So, unlike most responders here, I’m reminded that I’d like to be more like the ideal friend, if only to please myself.
 
911 said:
You make some good points. Speeding, at one time, was a high priority with handing out citations. Not so much anymore. Drivers and cars have both become more safer. Back in the day, autos weren't as safe or as predictable as they are now. Same for the drivers. Most police that I have spoken with have upped their allowable limits before citing a driver.

For example, when I retired the speed limit on the PA Turnpike was 70 mph. The Barrack's Sergeant told us what speed to arrest on when we did radar duty. In most cases, we would allow 10 mph over, but when traffic would be lighter, like during the winter, we may allow 15 over. And, even if a driver was over the allowable limit and if the driver had a good record, which we would learn after we entered his license number into our computer, no citations in last 5 years or accidents, we may cut them a break, but only if they treated the Trooper with respect. Drivers need to learn that the police are only doing their job by trying to keep everyone safe. If a driver wants to hammer on a Trooper or any poiceman, then chances are he will be writing a check. Like we always say: "You don't have to like me or agree with what I am telling you, but you do have to respect the uniform."

I have also taken into consideration that the driver's insurance rate would probably go up by me writing a ticket, so that was always a decision that sometimes was hard to make. Just be careful out there. I think Pennsylvania is now using the LIDAR system, instead of the old radar, or at least that's what I have been hearing. We are also using cameras in work zones because we can't cover all that's out there that needs covered. A lot of towns here in PA are disbanding their police department and putting it on the backs of the State Police, so yeah, the PA State Police is busy.
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If you are 'allowing' 10 over then why not increase the limit to 10 over? Forgive me but I just don't believe in judgement calls when it comes to the law and some days I will be ticketed and other days not. Random selection is gambling. 70 years driving and I have never had a ticket. Just lucky I guess.
 
drifter said:
Afraid I'm not too likable
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Turns out, ya don't have to be likeable to be liked

I've met many a sourpuss of whom, on the inside was just the polar opposite.
It just takes some words, and not all that many, at that.

They're out there...waiting to smile

.....and they don't even know it

I learned this early on
My grampa didn't even know he was teaching me

something I wrote a decade or so ago

a little story;

Grampa

He was a quiet man.

Work was his vocation and recreation.

I spent a lot of time at their place in my early years, his later years.

Seems Grampa always had chores that filled his waking hours.

I was his shadow.

He wore coveralls most days, and always sported an old grey fedora.

His high cut oxfords made a shuffling sound as he walked. Parkinson’s was having its way with his system.

We’d dine on a bowl of hominy together in the country kitchen.

As the midday sun danced on the table through the window from between the limbs of the giant firs, I’d watch his massive hand struggle to keep his corn on the shaking spoon.

In between chores, and my naps, he’d sit in the old padded rocker and thumb through a photo album while I stood at his side.

‘The dapple was Molly and the grey was Dixie’, pointing to the work horse team he knew so well.

Seemed Grampa had a couple soft balls tucked in his upper shirt sleeves. He was a compact man at five nine, but stout, bull neck, thick arms.

I knew him in his lesser years, keeping his meaning to life by doing small jobs.

Things like sharpening the hoes with rasps, feeding the chickens, gathering eggs, or lubing the tractor.

He cut down a hoe to my size, and all three of us hoed acres of strawberries.

His words were measured, but oftentimes would repeat a sentence.

I saw him laugh..... once.

He was a proud man, brought down and humbled by an untreatable disease, but keeping his misery within.

Dad says he was hard boiled in his younger years, and short on patience. Hard.

I knew him as a much different man.

One time I peered through a cracked door to his study. He was on his hands and knees, talking to his Lord, no longer able to kneel.

His bible was quite worn.

Dad gave it to me a few years ago.

I leant it to him at Christmas.

I’ll get it back pretty soon.

I think of times then and times now.

What a difference in pace, in conviction, in the shear enjoyment of endurance in simple living.

I see my grandkids give me an occasional glance of admiration, but nothing like the revered awe I had of him.

He died when I was ten.

I can still hear the shuffle of his feet, but it’s mine that echo his stride now.

Enough of this.

I’ve got chores to do before I sleep.
 
Camper6 said:
If you are 'allowing' 10 over then why not increase the limit to 10 over? Forgive me but I just don't believe in judgement calls when it comes to the law and some days I will be ticketed and other days not. Random selection is gambling. 70 years driving and I have never had a ticket. Just lucky I guess.
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70 years driving?...wow!!! 😵
 
No disrespect but how did we get to driving and speeding fines,NOTHING to do with original subject,just asking? :unsure:
 
I learned in my almost 60 years that it is impossible to try and please everybody. Everyone is not going to like you no matter how hard you try. Therefore I am me and do not apologize for the person that I am. I have a good heart and soul, I treat others the way I want to be treated, I will respect you and I expect the same. You do not have to like me but I give and expect respect. LIFE IS GOOD AT 60!!!!!
 
In our current society, and in a time of increasing cultural and geo-political change, if you're disliked it means you're probably doing something right...I like myself and that's all that matters...Other people's opinions of me is none of my business.
 
Invictus said:
In our current society, and in a time of increasing cultural and geo-political change, if you're disliked it means you're probably doing something right...I like myself and that's all that matters...Other people's opinions of me is none of my business.
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YESSSSZZZZZ!!!!!! I agree 101 percent. Age has taught me a LOT of WISDOM!!
 
kburra said:
No disrespect but how did we get to driving and speeding fines,NOTHING to do with original subject,just asking? :unsure:
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LOL..at your shocked face. :ROFLMAO:.but seriously if you read back you'll see where 911 mentioned how he was treated differently when he was in police uniform, and so it took off from there with the driving etc...
 
kburra, I think you're putting people into categories that fit your personal likes & dislikes. It doesn't work; life ain't that simple.
 
No not really,not putting people anywhere,just generalising I suppose,must admit though from some responses bit surprised that it does not bother or matter to many whether they have friends or not, or even liked come to that. Just my opinion but find that a bit sad,but as I said just my point view,and as the saying goes "Each to their own"
 

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