As you age, what do you miss and regret, have come to terms with or really don't miss at all?

ndynt said:
How much longer will you have to work, Holly. Enjoy your 60's. Personally, away from the restraints of a structured job, being able to become my true self...they were the best years of my life. Josh, I too have difficulty writing. Mostly because it is painful. Ironically though, I can still paint and do very fine and intricate Zentangles. Cannot figure that one out. Bored...thankfully, I very rarely experience that. Frustration...but, not boredom.
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Arthritis doesn't count as a neurological deficit. Sounds like your brain is working just fine. Too bad your brain has to pay attention to all those sensory neurons that are screaming "ouch".
 

I'm still pretty functional.. although I seem to be developing a bit of a tremor in my hands when I hold them in a certain position. So I've noticed my handwriting is not as good as it used to be and that my signature has changed a lot.
 

hollydolly said:
I'm surprised at reading that many of you are losing the ability to spell well , I've never heard that happen as you age.

Although just barely turned 60 I don't have many of the problems outlined here by those who are substantially older..I have no hearing defects (thank the lord being as I was born into a family of the profoundly deaf )
I've always had a shocking memory and I have noticed that it's actually becoming worse..and I also find as Kitties said, that I get much more exhausted after a working day and find that on my day off, I can barely summon the energy to do anything other than rest up. I have a couple of medical ailments currently that prevent me doing some things I could do a few years ago......otherwise for now, I'm fairly able to do and think as I always have . Please God that continues for many years to come (and hopefully without the current medical problems) .
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You are barely out of adolescence Holly, I could spell fine until a few years ago, in my case because I have a visual mind, I depended on the word looking right, now if I misspell a word, it doesn't look right or wrong. I think relying on a spellcheck on computers hasn't helped me either. :confused:
 
I get amazed when I meet people I haven't seen for a long time and think how much they have aged, but that's not so obvious in myself because I see my reflection every day in the mirror. Yet to them I must seem the same. I'm also sad that favorite people have gotten old and sick. I see that Joni Mitchell has deteriorated quite badly and is still in hospital, and other musicians and actors have passed away. Does time actually speed up when you get older or is it just me feeling that it's all happening too quickly.
 
Underock1 said:
Waltzing with Eleanor. We used to go to all of the German dances. Hunting for flowers in the garden centers every Spring.
Taking our four year old grandsons to breakfast Sunday mornings. Walking through Longwood Gardens at Tulip time and Winterthur during Azalea bloom.
I miss my wife's voice.
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Underock , the loss of the romance for you is obviously very hard to endure. the dancing , the flower gathering and gardening, the intimacy and most of all the sound of Eleanors' voice. You were clerly a two-some in every sense of the word, and it is beyond the realms of those of us who have never suffered a loss of a partner to fully appreciate .

Almost all of us on this forum will have lost someone close to us, parents, siblings , children and friends, but to lose someone who is truly the other half of you as you have, and josiah has too in a just as tragic but different way, is something many people dread .
 
hollydolly said:
Comparatvely I am Merlin, however, I personally know other women who are the same age as me and look and act as if they could be my mother..so in some respects age is but a number and a state of mind!
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I think some men and women are born old with fixed ideas, and somehow life never seems to be fun, or worth taking risks in. I agree Holly age is a only a number, until your health fails, but even then you can hang on to youthful state of mind, I guess :(
I am really enjoying my second childhood at the moment and looking forward to the third :eek:nthego:
 
Unfortunately I'm not in the best of health myself either Merlin...a few problems going on , one of which most on this forum know about , however I take your point completely.
 
Don't think I'm an old fuddy duddy yet... however, I have to admit that some of the things younger people do or say seem really, really, stupid. Maybe more pointless and a waste of time than stupid.
 
Cookie said:
I get amazed when I meet people I haven't seen for a long time and think how much they have aged, but that's not so obvious in myself because I see my reflection every day in the mirror. Yet to them I must seem the same. I'm also sad that favorite people have gotten old and sick. I see that Joni Mitchell has deteriorated quite badly and is still in hospital, and other musicians and actors have passed away. Does time actually speed up when you get older or is it just me feeling that it's all happening too quickly.
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I agree Cookie it always strikes me as sad to see an aging film star, singer or other celebrity, and it does seem that never a day goes by without one of my heroes dying. Time does seem to fly by for me these days, I hardly seem to have time to appreciate a summer, before we are approaching the next.

It always reminds of the moving hourglass scene in "Death in Venice" which sums it up really

 
I admire all you people with youthful mindsets. Particularly you Merlin, flying off for a romantic rendezvous with your exotic Russian academic....it just doesn't get much better than that.

I'm afraid I belong to the fuddy duddys of the world. At least I'm getting a back massage this afternoon.
 
Josiah, I think you undervalue yourself. At least you have a progressive mind set, and are willing to embrace the possibility of doubt/change. I know forty year olds with minds you would find fossilized in the extreme. They are far older than you.
 
Some people are born old. I've seen them --- old minds/attitudes in young bodies. Never ceases to amaze me.
 
Cookie said:
I get amazed when I meet people I haven't seen for a long time and think how much they have aged, but that's not so obvious in myself because I see my reflection every day in the mirror. Yet to them I must seem the same. I'm also sad that favorite people have gotten old and sick. I see that Joni Mitchell has deteriorated quite badly and is still in hospital, and other musicians and actors have passed away. Does time actually speed up when you get older or is it just me feeling that it's all happening too quickly.
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I think time speeds up once you hit about 60.
 
I don't dwell on it... but let's face it.. We are probably the healthiest today than we ever will be again. Arthritis is NOT going to get better.. neither is our eyesight or hearing.. So today IS really better than tomorrow will likely be.. and that is a daunting thought.
 
I hear you QS. You are quite right. As we age our bodies deteriorate. That sucks. My struggles, to date, have been trauma related, rather than physical, so my perspective reflects that.
 

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