Be honest,did you ever do homework for your kids?

Ruth n Jersey

Ruth n Jersey

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When your kids were growing up did you ever do their homework for them? I just read an article about this and it seems to be quite a common practice. I have to admit that I did many times. So did my mom for me on occasion. My kids were famous for telling me about a report they had due the next day, never mind that they had 6 weeks to do it. I know that this brain child is not going to be able to read a book in 1 hour and write a report. If I let them go to school unprepared the next teachers conference I will hear how I am not on top of my child's school work. I skim through the book, write the report and everybody is happy. A few years down the line one child graduates from college ,the other has his own business. I don't think I ruined their lives.
 

I guess I don't remember doing this, but it has been a looooong time ago, so I can't say for sure. I don't see the harm in bailing out our kids once in a while, though.
 
Nope. Never did, nor did my parents do that for me.
 

My kids are now 53 and 55, so it has been a while. I don't see that doing it for them will benefit them in the long run. They are both doing better than I ever did, so I guess they didn't need me messing with things.
 
I would help if I could but I don't recall ever doing it for him. I would help my stepson who was dyslexic, he had a hard time in school but that was mainly helping him with the research necessary to do a paper. Actually doing it for them--I don't recall doing that. It's probably not unusual though.
 
I don't have any kids, and my mother would never have done my homework for me back in the day. She just cracked down on me and made sure I did what I had to do.
 
Only once.

Daughter had a science teacher who seemed rather sex obsessed. He set some very odd asignments. On one occasion the subject was abortion and my daughter turned in a factual account of what abortion was and the different methods used in a termination. He wasn't satisfied and wanted her to talk about social issues which I, as a science teacher myself, thought were outside the remit of a science classroom. He wanted her to express her view of abortion, which I considered none of his business. Instead, we chose another topic from the list which was from memory something about selective breeding. I wrote the assignment focussing on genetics and the breeding of cattle. Again he wasn't satisfied because he meant the topic to be about humans. It amused me greatly that both of us were awarded a C for our efforts.

Other than that one example I never did her homework for her. Nor would I write her a note asking for her to be excused from doing it unless she had been prevented from doing it as the result of my action or a family occasion. I made her face her teachers herself to explain herself.
 
My Mom? I remember the book "A Separate Peace". For the age I was depressing as Hell. and yes she wrote the book report. My youngest daughter and it was out of bitter necessity. She had a few teachers from Mars. You are teaching a mixed grade special needs room and expect math homework.

Officially they have to "introduce concepts"...big whoop. My girl can add single numbers and maybe double numbers with assistance. She can do other stuff with a calculator sometimes. But multiplication and division? What are you trying to prove here? Oh yes and I can barely balance a checkbook and give me trig...why of course.
 
Never. Used to irritate the heck out of me to see big projects that were obviously done by the parents. What did the kid learn? And what was the parent missing in their life that they needed to see an "A" on "their" project?? Always thought it was weird.
 
Never. But I remember starting dinner and they would be at the kitchen table doing homework and it was pure agony some nights. I would have to remind them to figure it out on your own. I would check their work and send them back to the table to correct. I don't miss those days at all.
 
I always helped my children with their homework and I loved it. I felt like it was a special time for us. I also helped my 2 grandson's with their Homework. I watched them everyday after school. They are now in College and I tease them that I can't even pronounce what they are studying,let alone help them with homework anymore. When I said that to them my oldest grandson who is studying (Bio Medical Engineering),laughed and said" Gram when you helped me with homework I got my best marks." I am very happy now that I don't have to help my little 6yr old granddaughter with homework. I doubt if at my age now I would be much help !
 
I remember helping ( actually spending a lot of time ) on a science project. I figured the teacher would figure it out, but he got a good grade. There are lots of things a kid doesn't know about how to do a project so it's kind of deflating to see a huge gap in the understanding of the project's meaning. Glad all that's over. But I have a GD who will not let me help her do anything that involves craft because she wants to do it her way. That's very admirable!
 
Help, yes, do it for my daughter, never. I did unintentionally do most of someone's English assignment for them when I was in high school and they were in Jr H. She received an A and she was so happy, but, I felt kind of bad after knowing I really didn't benefit really benefit her where it counted. I should have spent more time teaching her to do it herself instead of trying to get it done and move on to something else. :( Lesson learned, next time, I did make her do the written work herself only with some verbal assist from me.
 
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