Being accused of something you didn't do

Try this one.......8 years ago I was accuse of molesting the 4 year granddaughter.
No police, no child welfare state agency were called...nobody and I was devastated.

3 years ago I learned from a lawyer that it was a FELONY to accuse anyone of molestation, I won in court.
3 months of house arrest,$10,000 fine,2 year probation. I lost a daughter but I got my honor/respect back.
 
Davey Jones said:
Try this one.......8 years ago I was accuse of molesting the 4 year granddaughter.
No police, no child welfare state agency were called...nobody and I was devastated.

3 years ago I learned from a lawyer that it was a FELONY to accuse anyone of molestation, I won in court.
3 months of house arrest,$10,000 fine,2 year probation. I lost a daughter but I got my honor/respect back.
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Doesn't sound like a win to me.
 
Davey Jones said:
Try this one.......8 years ago I was accuse of molesting the 4 year granddaughter.
No police, no child welfare state agency were called...nobody and I was devastated.

3 years ago I learned from a lawyer that it was a FELONY to accuse anyone of molestation, I won in court.
3 months of house arrest,$10,000 fine,2 year probation. I lost a daughter but I got my honor/respect back.
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OMG!!! OMG!!!...did you ever discover why your daughter accused you of such a heinous crime ?

It cost you 3 months house arrest, $10k fine and 2 years probation? Did you sue for compensation...did you get it, have you still got a criminal record?
 
hollydolly said:
OMG!!! OMG!!!...did you ever discover why your daughter accused you of such a heinous crime ?

It cost you 3 months house arrest, $10k fine and 2 years probation? Did you sue for compensation...did you get it, have you still got a criminal record?
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I think he means his daughter got that.
 
Ooooh I see, thanks for the clarification Jim, I thought he meant that he had to suffer all of that because of her accusations before he was able to clear his name...sorry Davey for the mix up. ...

What a terrible thing to happen tho'..
 
Falcon said:
It's never happened to me but it has to my dog. A LOT !
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:lol:

Davey Jones said:
Try this one.......8 years ago I was accuse of molesting the 4 year granddaughter.
No police, no child welfare state agency were called...nobody and I was devastated.

3 years ago I learned from a lawyer that it was a FELONY to accuse anyone of molestation, I won in court.
3 months of house arrest,$10,000 fine,2 year probation. I lost a daughter but I got my honor/respect back.
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I don't blame you for being devastated, that was a terrible thing for your daughter to do. Glad you followed through and taught her a lesson, so it doesn't happen again to you or someone else...shame on her, she affected the child too. You're smart to clear your name, good for you!
 
I’ve had situations where someone told a third party that I said something (either they lied or twisted something I said) and it caused a lot of trouble. The flat out lie is hard to combat. The third party gets angry/hurt but often things don’t come out until much later (often too late because a relationship has been severed). In these situations the guilty party usually has ulterior motives and they are very slick……later try to feign innocence and attribute it to a “misunderstanding”. :rolleyes::mad:

I have a few relatives who are notorious for spreading lies and causing trouble (they’ve been doing it for decades) and I’ve distanced myself from them completely. They would not dare to call me or darken my doorstep, and if I passed them on the street I would keep walking. I have no tolerance for that crap.
 
I was accused of insubordination by a sexist supervisor that was harassing me and trying to make me quit for a long time. He wasn't hitting on me for sexual favors (he knew better), just doing what he could to give me the hard or dirty jobs, and general hazing. All the while, once I knew he was really on a mission, I started to document all he did and said, with witness statements.

I was doing the job, which was male dominated for many years already, and did equal work for equal pay (union). All along I didn't let him get to me, and I filed grievances against him instead, which he really resented. He obviously didn't like being around strong women. One day he had me fired for insubordination. I went directly to the labor board and filed a harassment charge against the company, then I went to the union and started proceedings to get my job back.

After being off for several months, and denied unemployment, I remained jobless until the matter was settled. I got my job back, with backpay, and was made whole regarding my unemployment fund and other benefits I was denied while terminated. Shortly afterwards, I was still with the company (remained there for 30+ yrs.) and he had been let go. I will admit if I'm wrong, and take punishment if need be, but will not be the victim and suffer needlessly for another's pleasure.
 
Wow SB, what an awful experience. Glad you prevailed, but too bad you had to go thru all that.

SB’s post reminded me of an experience I had at a job over 20 yrs ago.

Small office, very cliquey, and right away as soon as I came on board there were red flags. Boss had a cloak-and-dagger style, and he did not like to be crossed.

Two of my co-workers were quite lazy and they spent lots of time in each other’s offices with door shut. My working relationship with them was not great but civil. One day at a staff meeting CW#1 said she was missing some files and therefore she could not perform certain work. Both she and CW#2 looked at me very pointedly. Took me a minute to catch on, but they were insinuating that I took/hid the “missing” files!

When my turn came for a project update I said “Well, I have a lot to report on. Unfortunately, none of MY files are “missing” (and did quote marks with fingers in the air).
"Missing files" my Aunt Fanny.:wink:
 
Thanks Applecruncher, but the end result was rewarding, a lesson of life that just makes you stronger (and wiser). :D About the missing files thing, I couldn't go for that nonsense, honestly don't think I could even work in an office environment. From what I've seen, there are always friends who don't do much, and one or two office workers who bear the burden of the whole workload. I'm sure there are exceptions, can only go by what I observed.
 
QuickSilver said:
That is just horrible..So sorry Davey.
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Her sister and brother have disowned her but I put a stop to that.
The reasons she did this was to make me move out of her home when all she had to do is ask .
She became a totally different women when she went thru her "change" at 42.
 
AZ Jim said:
That's not what I meant Davey. I mean anytime something that terrible rips a family apart it produces no "real" winners.
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OK got it....
The whole family in still intact when it comes to birthdays ,xmas etc
In time I think the long term healing process MIGHT work out.
 
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