Can I ask you a questiom?

I hope I show myself on SF as true to me as I am as if each were in a room talking face to face.
I have this goal of the type of person I hope to be in my head each day and truly pray I apply myself towards betterment to that goal.
I can't answer this, I see me one way while all of you may total 12 versions of me.
All I can say is "I truly hope I don't appear to want to be "The Answer Man" because I really don't want that weight on my shoulders.
 

We do have a few posters on here that have an answer for every situation that arises. I was taught to call these people “helpers” or “fixers.” They want to solve everyone’s problem if they are asked for or aren’t asked for their opinion. No one has to have an answer for every question or situation. Most of these people fall into the “know it all” or “caretaker” category.

Codependents could also fit into these categories. They look for people that they can help or give advice to, so that they can be given credit or thanks for their advice, which may raise their self-esteem. It helps them to feel needed and gain validation. When I was in Investigations, we would bring suspects into a conference room. Sometimes it was hard not to laugh as they would try to convince the Interrogators that they were the smartest person in the room.

Sometimes all you have to do is count the number of times a person posts on the same thread. They are trying to convince us they have the answers and they will keep trying to convince us of that by repetitive posting. Truthfully, I don’t know if this is right or wrong. I’m only repeating what I was taught.
 
BJintheUK said:
When I first started work many moons ago, one of the first things I was told was that if someone tells you they have 20 years experience, it means they have 1 years experience, and it's 20 years old!

I've kept that in mind ever since, and whenever anyone claims to be an expert I always think back to that lesson I was taught all those years ago.
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Everybody has an ego but I was taught to reserve my opinion of an 'expert' to one who earns his living or is capable of it by his specialized knowledge.
 

IrishEyes said:
I hope I show myself on SF as true to me as I am as if each were in a room talking face to face.
I have this goal of the type of person I hope to be in my head each day and truly pray I apply myself towards betterment to that goal.
I can't answer this, I see me one way while all of you may total 12 versions of me.
All I can say is "I truly hope I don't appear to want to be "The Answer Man" because I really don't want that weight on my shoulders.
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Me too, Irish. I'm just a wannabe good person. What if my advice is taken and is proven dead wrong?
I know it's safest to withhold advice, but unfortunately for others I hardly ever do, especially when asked.
 
There used to be a placard in my Colonel’s office that read————
“If you can’t dazzle them with brilliance, baffle them with bullshit.” by W.C. Fields
 
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