Can I ask you a questiom?

I hope I show myself on SF as true to me as I am as if each were in a room talking face to face.
I have this goal of the type of person I hope to be in my head each day and truly pray I apply myself towards betterment to that goal.
I can't answer this, I see me one way while all of you may total 12 versions of me.
All I can say is "I truly hope I don't appear to want to be "The Answer Man" because I really don't want that weight on my shoulders.
 

We do have a few posters on here that have an answer for every situation that arises. I was taught to call these people “helpers” or “fixers.” They want to solve everyone’s problem if they are asked for or aren’t asked for their opinion. No one has to have an answer for every question or situation. Most of these people fall into the “know it all” or “caretaker” category.

Codependents could also fit into these categories. They look for people that they can help or give advice to, so that they can be given credit or thanks for their advice, which may raise their self-esteem. It helps them to feel needed and gain validation. When I was in Investigations, we would bring suspects into a conference room. Sometimes it was hard not to laugh as they would try to convince the Interrogators that they were the smartest person in the room.

Sometimes all you have to do is count the number of times a person posts on the same thread. They are trying to convince us they have the answers and they will keep trying to convince us of that by repetitive posting. Truthfully, I don’t know if this is right or wrong. I’m only repeating what I was taught.
 
BJintheUK said:
When I first started work many moons ago, one of the first things I was told was that if someone tells you they have 20 years experience, it means they have 1 years experience, and it's 20 years old!

I've kept that in mind ever since, and whenever anyone claims to be an expert I always think back to that lesson I was taught all those years ago.
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Everybody has an ego but I was taught to reserve my opinion of an 'expert' to one who earns his living or is capable of it by his specialized knowledge.
 

IrishEyes said:
I hope I show myself on SF as true to me as I am as if each were in a room talking face to face.
I have this goal of the type of person I hope to be in my head each day and truly pray I apply myself towards betterment to that goal.
I can't answer this, I see me one way while all of you may total 12 versions of me.
All I can say is "I truly hope I don't appear to want to be "The Answer Man" because I really don't want that weight on my shoulders.
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Me too, Irish. I'm just a wannabe good person. What if my advice is taken and is proven dead wrong?
I know it's safest to withhold advice, but unfortunately for others I hardly ever do, especially when asked.
 
Been There said:
Is this the show “Chicago?” I was so bored with that show, I slept through most of it. The woman I was with didn’t appreciate me sleeping through most of it.
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Yes, I just always start hearing that song when someone is trying to over talk me into their ideas, can't help it and hearing it keeps me
from being pushed into a person I don't like to be.
 
Been There said:
Is this the show “Chicago?” I was so bored with that show, I slept through most of it. The woman I was with didn’t appreciate me sleeping through most of it.
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That may have been my favorite song in the movie, and I liked the whole movie. I also saw the live play.
 
People tend to confuse having the answers, to the simple expression of an opinion.

There are many things in this world I know nothing about, and therefore have no opinion on it. There are also things I know even less about - new topics I've never even considered and are new to me. Then there are things I have a view on, and I provide that as and when.

In fact, as a human, I have opinions that I know offend others. I even have opinions I hold dear that probably don't hold water. We're humans, fallible. smart, and stupid.
 
JustDave said:
That may have been my favorite song in the movie, and I liked the whole movie. I also saw the live play.
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I usually don’t make excuses for my mistake of falling asleep at a show, but we had returned from being deployed to the Middle East for 6 months and an almost 30 day boat ride back to San Diego. I slept for almost a full day before I called a girl I was seeing to ask if she wanted to go out. Instead, she said she had tickets to go to the show “Chicago,” so I agreed to go.

I couldn’t keep my eyes open after about the first half hour. We probably shouldn’t have eaten so much before the show.
 
I loved the movie Chicago. But I did have that problem staying awake with the show Hamilton, which everyone else in the world seemed to love.
I saw it on a televised production of the stage show, so I was able to put it on pause for frequent breaks, which kept me from actually falling asleep. But just barely.
 
The rule on my career was to make sure you are never the smartest person in the room. If you were, you had the least to learn from those around you, and therefore were at a disadvantage. Being around people smarter than you is both a pleasure and a challenge. It's something to embrace.
 

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