Can we change the sadness?

Being in our "golden years" as a group, we tend to have more aches & pains, more isolation from friends and family, and the things we used to love to do...generally speaking. A hundred & fifty years ago we would be out of bed at 4am, tending to our farm animals, collecting wood and water, or perhaps hunting & trapping food, cultivating our crops. All of that kept a person mentally and physically fit, a person would get good sleep. Today we have more time on our hands, more media to keep us in touch with all the horror in the world. So yea, more sadness for sure.

"Can we change the sadness?"
Yes we can. We have to get up, get out and take back our joy and happiness, we have to create that which makes us happy. Everyone in some way, despite what limitations they may have, can reach out to the world and make their own existence more meaningful.
 

Paco Dennis said:
I have some doubts about the OP message.
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Dennis and others, I see Gaer's message less literally than you do. I did not think too much about things like reincarnation or God, I just saw a message of hope and suggesting something we can all do to help. This part:
Gaer said:
If we, for one day, (even as an experiment) took stock of every thought our minds are sending into
the atmosphere, every word we said aloud and every action we performed, to see first if it was in
accordance with every other thing in existence, could we create surroundings with a higher quality
of vibration and would this affect the entire world in a positive way?

I think, yes.
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We may not be able to do much individually about wars or other issues, but doing something like Gaer suggests would be a good thing. Might make us feel a little better and I believe feeling better helps those around us feel better.
 

Paco Dennis said:
Yes, most of he time loving healing words and gestures do help us feel better. But for Blessed sake I wouldn't want to have him feeling like a failure if he still feels sad. We all want to feel good, and we do not like to feel bad. I think expressing our care and concern for others is plenty. Bringing in the heavy guns is really not necessary. IMHO
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By "bringing in the big guns" you mean how consciously thinking with quality influences the world?
You are right that a kind and compassionate nature will naturally produce a good influence in your surroundings.
Your thoughts are more powerful than you are aware. Everything in existence reacts to every individual action.
This extends to limitless, unbounded cosmic life. This will resound to you.
I'm just saying, I think there is a great need and importance to help alleviate sufferings in the world, since we have this power within us.
Your thought can be directed to a specific person or to the world, but it will be received.
You can't walk around with a big, stupid grin on your face and to base one's life on "positive thinking" is a waste and imaginary.

You, YOU, have more power than you ever thought possible to make an incredible difference in the entire world because
your thought radiates to everything. Every word makes an imprint. No pretense. Just bring out the wonderful side of you.
Anyway, Just my thoughts.
 
Gaer said:
I would ask politely, the person who constantly attacks me to please refrain from posting on this thread. Thank you so much
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No worries @Gaer
I didn't see those words when I posted
Musta been edited in afterword
In any event, I won't interject my thoughts here
and got rid of what I did post
 
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Here I go again, Blowing Against the Wind! Actually, I am a pretty happy guy. I got a nice place to live, I eat healthy, exercise 5 days/week, sing and play my guitar and keep active. I don't have financial problems and I am not worried about the inflation nor about the coming recession. Haven't had cable TV for over 22 years is a positive reason for my happiness. I don't read a daily paper and get my news from internet where I look at headings and read only what interests me. Can't do anything about Putin and his war. Can't do anything about mass shootings in the US or whatever. Happiness come from my attitude about life which sort of says, "A 100 years from now, nothing here will matter.":)
 
Paco Dennis said:
You don't be surprised if EVERYONE doesn't agree with the above message as "quality". I don't



Please could you withhold your personal fantasies to yourself. I have no need of that kind of preaching. If I did all I would have to do is google
"spiritual affirmations". I got 15 million hits.

This pure speculation of your beliefs. Fine. I don't like that you think/feel they are somehow "reality".
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This is unkind, imho. You freely express your strong views on certain current events. Sometimes you encounter disagreement, but hopefully, not bullying attempts to steal your voice.
 
Here’s the thing. Basically, I am in the compassion business, supporting people attempting to glue their broken selves back together. Severe CPTSD more often

than not. Attrition rate is very high. When all is said and done, I have found the greatest common denominator between those who make it out of the pit, and find some

way back to themselves, if only intermittently, is CONNECTION. Isolation kills, often more readily than any other force. Healing is hellishly painful, rather like

repeatedly sliding down an emotional razor blade, while
having one’s heart ripped out by the roots, and served up to them on toast. Requires, commitment, obsession, really. One is very raw,

often frozen, defenceless, frightened, angry, confused, ashamed. Imagine how important warmth and concern from another human being is at this point. A candle in the

dark, a companion in the pit. It gave me a reason to fight when I was skiing on my nose in the gravel. I have seen it work miracles time and time again with my clients.

Compassion, connection, kindness, love, these are fabulous building blocks to emotional healing. Some of us

never completely recover, but remission is wonderful. Gaer’s message is filled with love and hope. Thankyou Gaer. Your love shines brightly.💕
 
Paco Dennis said:
It is strong language because it creates a debate between God and not God as being able to directly help us. This almost exactly like a person who uses a subject to plug their strong beliefs ( like political debates...no-no ). You are right about me doing the same thing...we all do. I have been called on it several times. We all know that one shoe does not fit everyone. I like @Gaer a lot. She has a beautiful heart and mind. We all need to be reminded when we carried away with our strong beliefs. I am not being mean. I am concerned that we might confuse the loving message coming from Gaer's heart is rejected because of the fact like surety of her message. It is not factual. Sometimes people have terrible feelings because they feel they are not living up to Gods will. We can show and communicate are love and care for another person without bringing a third party?
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I think I understand what you mean. However, my perception of Gaer’s message is very different. I was trained in the scientific

method, when dealing with human beings it has severe limitations. So much of reality is open to interpretation. Linear

thinking is not a catchall. One individual’s facts are often another’s fantasy. Mental health is a lateral quest more often than not.
 
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dseag2 said:
I'm not sad these days, but I'm apprehensive. The previous pandemic, the war in Ukraine, the mid-term elections, Inflation, the rollercoaster stock market, the devastation in Florida due to climate change, the division in our country... they make me anxious. I would prefer to be oblivious to all of it, but I need to stay informed because ultimately it may affect my quality of life.
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Yeah, that's me, too. I keep my world kind of small, meaning I only worry about the people I care about, and especially the ones who need me to worry more than the others do (that might have come out wrong, but I'm sure you get what I'm saying). But I do pay attention to world news, and certain trends as well if I suspect they'll effect me and mine.
 
Paco Dennis said:
Do you think you would read Gaer's message to patient/or friend whom you do not know if they believe in God or not? That might not go over well because they don't belief there is a God. They might not even listen. I do agree that making a connection with another person and letting be sure you care for hem is very important in all our relationships.
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Yes, I would, unless my client was adamantly opposed to any discussion around emotional vulnerability. For many, including me, this has very little to do with debating the validity of an actual Creator, but rather embracing the possibility of Hope in

whatever form is efficacious. People in the pit don’t give a flying fig about intellectual concepts or debates. They need to feel worthy, comforted, supported. Healing is messy, and excruciatingly painful.
 
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I am kind of confused about something. To me sadness is an emotion, just like happy, joy, love, etc. For me, (my own opinion) it is important to face sadness, embrace it and let it go once it does pass and possibly look back to understand what created the sadness. So I see nothing wrong with sadness. I think it is dangerous to try to numb it or ignore it. Heck, some people including myself, even listen to sad music at times to feel something ! Sometimes it can be cathartic. So to me , sadness is just another emotion that must be delt with in a healthy way, just like love has to be. I can work, be functional and go about my business with sadness and many times people will not even know my state.

Now, depression, which I think is really the main topic here is another matter and a very serious one (not that this one isn't). I hope I am not being too nick picky with the wording @Gaer but as one who in the past has made a habit from running away from any type of emotion, I just need to express my thoughts on sadness.

Sorry if I seem to be trivializing the topic because that is not my intention at all and I hope I made some sort of sense.
 
Paco Dennis said:
I read the thread because Blessed was feeling very sad. If you read my first post I wished her the best, and had a suggestion or two, like 98% of those who responded with caring and supportive posts. I happened to read hers as just another post. Why would I skip Blessed thread?
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Gaer, did say those were her "thoughts". She is not telling others what to do or think. That should be respected.
 
We all experience sadness at some time in varying degrees. Suppressing those sad feelings rather than dealing with them creates a host of problems down the track, including anxiety, depression, stress-related illness, all the way to substance abuse and even suicide for some.
When I am feeling a little sad and 99% of the time there seems to be no apparent reason, then I meditate, I try to clear the mind even for a short time and that certainly helps.
 
And I understand exactly what you are conveying @Gaer :) and agree with much of it, especially when it comes to fear. Fear can be paralyzing to the human mind and soul and often as time goes on we realize that it was an unfounded fear. Trust me, I know that very well from past experiences ! And that affected everyone around me which affected everyone around them..and on and on.
 
Paco Dennis said:
I do think people give a flying fig about the words and concepts one uses to communicate. Most adults know that religion is a "emotional" subject, and for some it is a very unpleasant. Why does a supreme creator need to be brought to the discussion? We have been all over this issue, and it never turns out well.
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I think that when people are in emotional extremis, intellectual concepts are largely meaningless. Applying linear logic to such a situation is largely fruitless. I have been there, I could have cared less. I think that you

and I will never find common ground re this particular subject. I see things from a therapeutic, working in the trenches, personal experience, far less linear and tidy than your approach. Have a lovely day.
 
You know, I got this all wrong. I thought I was posting about Blessed's sadness. I just reread the OP. It IS Gaer's thoughts and she says so. My disagreements are not relevant here, and I sincerely apologize to @Gaer. I am starting to do this more often than I would like. I loose track of what I am doing. Gaer I am sorry for getting so confused, I need to take some time out and do some meditating.
 

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